My boyfriend took me out for dinner recently and we bumped into a girl who works at a bar where he goes every year skiing who he knows quite well. He invited her (in front of me) on a sailing weekend that the other skiing mates are on, but didn't invite me on it until the next day, the day he was due to leave, I would assume out of guilt. We have been dating a couple of months. Should I tell him this upset me and he shouldnt invite other girls on weekends away, esp. before me, or am I just being jealous. He has invited me to go skiing with them this year
2006-08-23 20:52:03 · 28 answers · asked by Saucy B 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He told me a few days ago he has started to feel we are getting much closer and he was very happy in the relationship. He calls me/texts me nearly every day and tells people (including this one) we are together.
2006-08-23 22:34:45 · update #1
He just sounds like he forgot to asked you. Dont loose him because he sounds like a really great guy. Go on the skiing trip and put your mind at rest! Have a good trip!
2006-08-23 22:39:13 · answer #1 · answered by Angelkiss85 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like maybe he has some commitment issues...perhaps if you've not been together long he doesn't really see this as a long term relationship for him. Or maybe he's just a little guarded and doesn't feel he wants to share everything as a couple.
By inviting this girl but not you it looks like he's wanting to keep certain parts of his life separate from his relationship from you....which is fair enough really if you guys aren't serious. Yes, I think he probably did invite you as an afterthought out of guilt. But at least that shows he does care about you, as he obviously didn't want you to be upset or p*ssed off. If I were you I'd be worried only if you realise that you want a lot more from the relationship than he does. If that's the case you're probably gonna end up getting hurt sooner or later
2006-08-24 05:11:53 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every reason to be jealous as you truly care about him to feel that way.tell him how you feel about the date and ask if ihe would like you to accompany him on the weekend away.. if he has no ulterior motive about the trip he would apologise for not inviting you in the first place and jolly well invite you, but if he insisted you are not welcome you have to be on your guide as he doesn't care about how feel and thats very important in a relationship.
hi.
2006-08-24 04:12:26 · answer #3 · answered by Junior 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say that ur boyfriend is a loser jerk....how could he had the cheek to ask the girl in front of u n later asking u at the last minute?(probably hoping u cant make it) yess, u have the right to be upset and jealous, its not ur fault,its so obvious... he should consider u first in everything since ure his gf...its best u talk to him to clarify his feelings towards u and whats with him and this girl...?honesty,respect and communication r the important keys to good relationship
2006-08-24 04:06:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be thankfull that he did invite you.i bet he just thought you should of known you were invited because he did ask her in front of you.and he also included you in his plans to go skining with them so looks to me like he feels you have trust for each other and are a couple. go have a good time and enjoy your time with him and your new friends. don't borrow trouble. jealousy is a bad thing it will eat away at you and make you imagine all kinds of things. that alone will ruin a relationship.
2006-08-24 03:58:10 · answer #5 · answered by 2sweet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u can invite someone 2 come away with u that he see's as a threat 2 him in ur affections then it's ok, if not he's taking u 4 granted. good luck with ur problem.
2006-08-24 04:52:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it luv, but he's just not that into you ... do yourself a favour & back out before you invest any more of yourself into this relationship ... if I'm wrong & he is that into you but had other reasons for behaving like this, then let him work really hard to convince you otherwise. But to me, all signs point to the exit! Don't waste your time, precious, you're worth more than that!
2006-08-24 05:18:13 · answer #7 · answered by SuzieQ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel and see what he say's. You are not jealous girl you are upset. But if he is like that to you from the start he will always do it as he know's he can and it doesn't affect you open up tell him how you feel.
2006-08-24 04:07:52 · answer #8 · answered by saucey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you invite a lad on holiday with you, and yeah always tell the fella what you are thinking,upset about or what makes you happy!
2006-08-24 03:55:13 · answer #9 · answered by Macka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure tell him, but not in a nagging way, or pouty childish way either. Just tell him seriously without any mistakes or playing; let him know your not playing with him. State how you feel!
Gayle
2006-08-24 03:56:52 · answer #10 · answered by gayle j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋