I've known my friend for 19 years and she hardly says a word. Being a christian, I try my utmost to 'love' her but it's hard work. We met at school and she has always been quiet. Every time I ask her something, it's either 'yes', 'no' or 'I don't know'. If I ask her how work is I get an 'ok' and that's it. If I ask her what time she leaves for work I get 'When I'm ready'. Or if I ask her if she's working this Saturday, I get, 'We'll see'. I'm finding this such a strain and she will never go out with me either. If I ask her out, she'll come up with some excuse. She has no friends but me, but I wouldn't even describe our relationship as a friendship, because it's completely one-sided. I don't know where to go from here. She'll ask me plenty, but won't give anything of herself when I ask her return questions. Any tips please?
2006-08-23 20:38:33 · 16 answers · asked by Say It Like You Mean It 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I had the same situation. I had a friend that I grew up with and he was the same way. Always giving short answers to questions. Never engaged in a conversation. Never wanted to do anything or go anywhere together. Disinterested.
He always seemed distant and I finally asked him what was his deal and he denied everything. He said he wasn't distant or quiet even after I gave him example after example.
I finally after 15 years of "friendship" cut this person out of my life. A true friend is someone who brings you joy in some way to your life. If you are "friends" with someone and they are just like the walking dead then I say let them go. Life is too short for people who just don't care. I hope he finds peace.
2006-08-23 21:02:06 · answer #1 · answered by kingofnarniaforever 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to start off she works saturdays? (Exodus 20:8-11)
Maybe you should stop asking questions that can have a yes or no answer. I know that requires some thinking lol. Well if thats how she wants to be let her be that way, as a Christian i believe you have a duty to treat her as a sister, regardless of her personality. Try doing Bible work or ministry work together, partner up. Talk about Jesus, that should make her smile!
2006-08-24 04:24:07 · answer #2 · answered by Sky_blue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
loving someone shouldn't be hard work. Try leaving her alone a bit. Be there if she wants to talk but stop with the badgering. I know it probably doesn't seem like badgering to you, but some folks just don't like having a lot of questions thrown their way. Especially if the work they do requires a lot of answering customers questions or whatnot.
Heck, I'd be glad to meet a woman like that....most of the ones I meet I can't get them to shut the xxxx up.
2006-08-24 03:49:07 · answer #3 · answered by jakezz70 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone! Obviously, she doesn't want to talk! What gives you the right to think this is wrong and that she needs to be just like you? Look, maybe she doesn't appreciate your intruding and pushiness, and she's only being polite to answer at all. I wouldn't. I'd tell you to leave me alone and let me live MY life, MY way.
If you're really a christian, you'll respect her personal privacy and back off. Sheeesh! What a sanctimonious do-gooding meddler.
2006-08-24 03:46:49 · answer #4 · answered by MaqAtak 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
And she's been your friend for 19 years? Maybe you two should talk about giving each other some space. To where she can make her own friends and get out more.
2006-08-24 03:41:26 · answer #5 · answered by Rasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously, there's nothing wrong with her...when i read ur problem rite, actually that girl remind me of myself..i dont talk much...when people ask me question, i would just answer the same as she did and seriously, there's nothing wrong with me..probably she was just thinking of what to say but was not so good in expressing it..i would appreciate to have a friend like u but then being quiet once in a while is much appreciated =)
2006-08-24 04:01:28 · answer #6 · answered by SoliloQuy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you're around her, stay very quiet. let her do all the talking. respond to her questions with one or two word answers. give her a taste of her own medicine.
2006-08-24 03:49:46 · answer #7 · answered by Mustafa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her religion doesnt have anything to do with her situation. Its just a social issue, be stubborn, insist that she does something fun with ya :P
2006-08-24 03:42:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jeremiah 33:3
If you are a Christian , you know how to apply this
2006-08-24 03:48:21 · answer #9 · answered by Slave to JC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she doesn't like you.
Maybe she prefers to be solitary.
Maybe she's insulted by the fact that you're only being nice to her 'cause Jesus told you so.
Maybe she's insulted by the fact that you've made her into your little project.
2006-08-24 03:43:29 · answer #10 · answered by Good Times, Happy Times... 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋