Ahh.. Today was my birthday (turned fifteen) and i got my left ear pierced at claire's..it was a small 14k earring and my mom thought it would be no big deal.. i showed my grandma this and she said she didnt like earrings the other night.. then she starts blaming my mom n since my grandma was preparing my dinner into the microwave and stuff,she was really pissed cause she was slamming the microwave door thing and the refrigerator really loud.. then my grandma and mom had the biggest fight ever..my grandma starts scolding my mom cause that she doesnt care about me and stuff..since im vietnam,my grandma thought i would be stupid when i grow up and stuff and i dont know why..
my mom said she had enough and stuff so she finally talked back to my grandma..my grandma was REALLY red she was really loud too and my mom was upset and crying..
the fight lasted 15 minutes or so.. (not really physical ) but REALLY ear piercing loud..
so do i just forget about this or what do i do!
thanks
2006-08-23 20:20:39 · 11 answers · asked by Role Model 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
blahh, the big arguement is over now..
is this normal? i dont want this to happen since my grand ma is in her mid 70's or so..i dont want her to get a heart attack or anything!
do i just forget about it or what do i do!
thanks , if i like your answer i will vote as best
thanks !
2006-08-23 20:25:02 · update #1
thanks for the fast replies!
i give you all thumbs up :)
any more answers though?
majority says to forget about it..
so i will do that,thanks!
2006-08-23 20:32:07 · update #2
ohh and yeah..
i cant take my earring off
for two months.. or else it will ahve an ear infection
2006-08-23 20:36:56 · update #3
FIRST of all, Happy Birthday!
now, I am sorry you had to witness something like that especially on your birthday. I am a mom and a grandma and I think your grandma was out of line. I am glad your mom stood up to her. Your grandmother has raised her children, now she should let your mom raise you and keep her mouth shut.
If for some reason your grandmother were to have a heart attack or something, be assured that it would in no way be your fault.
Now for my great advice! ha ha You should not get between the two . Let them work it out. And they will.
Also, your grandmother thinking you are going to be stupid because you are part Vietnamese is outrageous! I am sure you love your grandma and she loves you but she should not say those things. I hope you do not listen to that and let it hurt you.
Now, I hope it has calmed down and you can finish celebrating your birthday!
2006-08-23 20:44:08 · answer #1 · answered by chick a dee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since this is about you, you should try to come up with a solution and then ask to speak to your grandmother (without having your mom there). Explain to her things. Do not try to defend your position but instead try to understand her's. Then tell her your position, and why you wanted the ear rings. Ask her what she would like you to do. If you are nice to her, you will be rewarded in the future.
About your mother, talk to her separately, too. Tell her your solution to the problem.
Please try to be the peacekeeper in this situation. Obviously do not interfere on the argument as you would only aggravate both sides. Wait until the arguing ends and both sides are quiet.
2006-08-24 03:30:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget about it and don't talk about it unless they do. People who love each other have a right to fuss sometimes. My son went and pierced his ear at the age of 15 and I was very upset at first. Then I left it alone and he stopped wearing earring. Sometimes kids just want to experience some things for themselves but older folks don't realize that doesn't mean the kid is a bad person.
2006-08-24 03:27:31 · answer #3 · answered by Jacks036 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give your Mom a hug. She is a wonderful Mom.
Your grandma is totally out of line. She should be ashamed of herself. She raised your Dad without your Mom interfering (or is she her Mom?...same thing...she has no business reprimanding your Mom on this one)...why should she have the right to interfere with your Mom's decisions. Make it clear in your actions that what your grandma was doing was not ok. Cater to your Mom...and ignore your grandma...in the next few days.
2006-08-24 03:26:19 · answer #4 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is best you stay out of this situation. If the fight was over you... that is still between your mother and her mother... and your grandmother should understand that your mother is the one raising you. Of course, there may be more to the fight than you caught onto... so leave it be. Try to forget it... and do not allow them to drag into it by having you choose sides...
2006-08-24 03:25:28 · answer #5 · answered by Whatev' Yo' 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they have stoped fighting and its done with they said what they needed to, and Happy Birthday to you and im sorry they had a fight on your day , that wasnt nice of them but then they had to get it out of there system , just forget about it and tell them you love them both and that your happy with what you decided to do and hope that they can be happy for you ,
2006-08-24 04:17:00 · answer #6 · answered by Linda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Phatboy: Do them all a favour, remove the earring and put it away until after your Gran has passed away. The piercing hole will heal up and everything should get back to normal quickly.
2006-08-24 03:30:27 · answer #7 · answered by thomasrobinsonantonio 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like it was just a disagreement. your grandma needs to understand that she is not your mother and let your mother make her own decisions.there is nothing wrong with getting your ear pierced.
2006-08-24 03:25:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should learn to spell what you are first...Vietnamese?
Your Mom and Grandma will get over it.
2006-08-24 03:25:03 · answer #9 · answered by sugar-n-spice 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
u should have bought earplugs instead of the piercing :p
2006-08-24 03:23:34 · answer #10 · answered by voddielots 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋