...if he really loves me as much as he says he does wouldnt he want to keep our relationship even if i am two hours away at college (he is 7 years older?
My ex and I broke up when I left for college because the long-distance was too hard for him to handle. We remained very close friends and I still am madly in love with him. I recently found out he had a new girlfriend and it broke my heart. I told him I can't talk to him anymore and he broke down saying that he loves me and wants to be with me...its just so hard because I am so far away. He confessed his passion and love for me...saying that he wants to be with me but we are just both living separate lives right now. I don't know what to do because I still love him so much and strongly feel like we will get back together someday. Does he realy still love me and is using this new girl for sex? He calls me all the time to check in and see how I am..tells me he misses me ad everything
2006-08-23 20:13:17 · 18 answers · asked by Tina S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe he wants a sexual relationship, to be always close to one another
2006-08-23 20:16:30 · answer #1 · answered by Ritche M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, my gorgeous fella goes away to work for up to two months at a time. We keep in touch via e-mail and messenger. He has just been home for ten days and flew out again yesterday.
It is so hard because our feelings get stronger each time we are together but that's also what keeps us together.
The fact that we are both very independent in nature, and emotionally mature enough, means we can make it work.
In the beginning, my chap was convinced I would want more from a relationship and kept offering me a 'get-out clause', because he didn't want to get hurt, but now we are secure in the trust we have for one another. I know that we have love between us, and for me that means that I must respect what he chooses to do and not cling to him in a needy way. It enables me to rejoice whenever we are together.
I don't know why your ex feels so attached to you yet unable to dignify a long distance relationship, but I would suggest you both get on with 'doing your thing' until such time as you are drawn back together and see if the love is still there...
2006-08-24 03:27:33 · answer #2 · answered by CC...x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Few red flags:
2 hours really isn't long distance, that's an easy day trip or weekend.
18 and 25 is a large maturity gap.
His lack of maturity is equally suspect if he is trying to play two girls with the "I love you" game and expects it to work. He may actually love both of you, in which case he should really consider what love means-- in this case making a commitment one way or the other.
Too many "I miss you" conversations really doesn't show much security in the relationship.
2006-08-24 03:23:06 · answer #3 · answered by GreenManorite 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's using you as a booty call and if not he cant handle being in a relationship while your not with him. I know your only 2 hours away but some guys have problems. I've been there. And I dropped the guy and I'm happy now.
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-sammy.
2006-08-24 03:17:01 · answer #4 · answered by sammy <3 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to just be happy for the good times you had together, and move on. I just broke up with my GF of over 5yrs and we only lived 45 mins apart. Long distance relationships are like a difficulty of 9.5 and rarely work out. He'll probably always care for you, and you him, but it's really just delaying you getting over it by thinking things will be like they used to be, someday. It's tough to be on your own and start over, I know because I'm all by myself now, but it's what you need to do. She kept me thinking that we had a chance for like 1 or 2 years and just used me to make her transition easier, gave me false hope.
2006-08-24 03:27:06 · answer #5 · answered by onthesly27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if someone loves you with all your heart, they will wait as long as it takes.but have you thought that maybe he was thinking that if you really love him you wont leave and go 2 hrs away from him. sometimes you have to look at the other persons point of view. all he knows is that you are going far away from him, but he should respect you wanting good education, he should support you and be there for you all the way. maybe he is using the other girl to help him get over you.
2006-08-24 03:22:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
im sure this must be really hard for you and i feel for you. how long have you been together for?
im sure he thinks he loves you but he wouldnt be seeing someone else if he did. i could possible understand if you were overseas but honey, two hours is not that far away.
if he loves you like you deserve to be loved he would move heaven and earth to be with you.
as hard as it is going to be, distance yourself emotionally, let him know quite clearly that you are not going to take his crumbs... he will soon catch on. and if you are not ment to be together then he will fade away.
you have so much to look forward to...
who knows whos waiting to step into you life.
good luck :O)
2006-08-24 03:32:33 · answer #7 · answered by amor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is using that girl for that OK , now you must ask him to take you to his place or make arrangements to bring down you to his place , thats so now or never , if he makes some lame excuses , it looks like he is enjoying there and when he will come for some days break , he want to enjoy with you here . He does not want to live alone , here or there . Better foot down now- now& now or regrett for ever .
2006-08-24 03:25:08 · answer #8 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance relations is not that easy dear. It needs lot of understandings. He can just say I love you online or on phone but he can show love only when you see each other.
2006-08-24 03:17:02 · answer #9 · answered by yogesh 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Actually I think he cant take the Longdistance thing Dont believe him hes Lieing
2006-08-24 03:16:36 · answer #10 · answered by HunnyBunny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he loves u then u should clear the things at first what he wants if he is ready to walk till end means till marrage then u r ready to continu or else it is useless to carry such incomplete relation ok
2006-08-24 03:21:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋