my parents are against my affair just because he belongs to different caste and my father reputation will be destroyed .i love him very much and just cannot imagine life without him.none of my family members are sopporting me cause they are scared of my father.please heip me in taking the right decision.
2006-08-23 20:05:24 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes, I believe you have to live your life and not your father's. You need to be happy with your decision and ultimately so do they. You cannot force yourself to feel a different way. If you truly love him and know for sure that he is the one for you, then you need to stand up for yourself and stand up to your father.
You have to life your life, your way: don't be bullied, even by your own father. But make sure that this is a stable relationship and you are not risking losing your family over a fling. You must feel very strongly about your decisions.
2006-08-23 20:07:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Learn to give precedence to life over reputations. If you are truly in love with that person, try to convince your parents. If they are adamant, understand that it takes some time for them to realize that you are grown up and intelligent enought to take your own decisions. Think of your life if you do not marry the person you love. You will anyway leave your parents. Why to leave your love for living with someone even if you love your parents. Think about the future. This is not being selfish. It is about being practical in life. Life partner is not a dress that your parents decide. Your heart should feel happy about the decision. There is no use if you were lead an unhappy marriage later. Be brave and bold and take the right decision if you really trust your love.
2006-08-23 20:10:17 · answer #2 · answered by Chakravarthy S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because of a different caste? Those don't exist anymore!
Where do you live?
My answer is: Screw your parents for being against your happiness. Go be happy with your lover. Explain to your parents that you are happy and in love and if they arent willing to accept this, well then, they are irrational.
Go make the decision that you think will be the best.
Your father should worry more about his daughter's future than his "reputation". He is being very selfish.
2006-08-23 20:09:58 · answer #3 · answered by tombomber27 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear angel , must remember , parents are the only people on this earth who love their own blood more then anyone else . Better wait for the right age , get more education , find a good reputed job , stand on your feet , and then take mature deceision in place of fighting with your own adorable parents . They will certainly support you deceision , if you are strong in your own career path . Good luck .
2006-08-23 20:13:15 · answer #4 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Understand your problem.It happens every where.Parents will feel like that when they find out there child is in love.So it natural.When u become a parent when u have a child u will also feel like that thinking the person who our child id loving will help her or him to give a happy beautiful life with good living standard.So u try explaining things to your parents that he is realy worth to be ur life partner.Try to find out ways & means for them to meet each other.do you have any brother or sister,cousins who can give advice and help to find way out?U can just leave your house and get wed if you realy feel that the person will be with you to support you whatever happens. but i dont think it as right decision coz that may lead a very bad name for you .for your family things may turn out in bad shape,coz the society will create such picture.If your bold enough to face world without bothering otheres keep going but dont hurry.So right now i can just tell u to move the coin slowly & steadily and see to that u dont show any kind of emotions to your dad try to be cool & normal.
2006-08-23 20:18:24 · answer #5 · answered by s s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hope u are of marriagable age. the best thing for u is to convince ur parents through ur family friend and in case this doesnt happen and as u said u cant live with out him, u may marry him but before taking that step make sure that he is financially capable of taking care of you. i mean his earnings should be sufficient. the door of the courts are open for intercaste marriages and in view of a recent supreme court order, the inter-caste marriages have been encouraged. you need not worry much. life is to live and not to worry. god is there with u.
rajiv, advocate
2006-08-23 20:09:59 · answer #6 · answered by lawyer_rajiv 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should encourage your boyfriend to succeed and increase his level of 'caste' on your father's eyes. Be sure your father will accept such a succesful boy. Go on, trust yourself
2006-08-23 20:09:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy is one part of your life your parents have raised you your going to have to put them on a scale and see which one falls furthar that one is the one you should stick with
sorry this is so hard for you
2006-08-23 20:07:46 · answer #8 · answered by Captian JJ-Johnson 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u he is more then ur parents love to u ? y to think u can get the true love after wards also but when u looose ur parents love u woun't get again belive in god & also time it will give u everything
2006-08-23 20:11:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let them hnow how you feel bout him that's ur honey if you wanna be down for him you gotta let them know that u luv them to but u also love him
2006-08-23 20:27:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋