Is it okay that I made out with my best friend who's a guy?

Question

I am a GIRL...
and it started out with him kissing me and it eventually lead to us making out. Thinks aren't weird or awkward, but they sure are different. We keep coming up with thoughts we never had before. Putting ourselves in situations like marriage and dating. We don't have feelings for eachother, but ever since the make out, it's confusing.

Is making out with your best friend of the opposite sex(im a girl, he's a guy) bad?

Is it something that we should or shouldn't have done?

also...are these making up scenarios normal?

Is making out with your best friend normal at all?!

wait, little error, it started out with him TEACHING me how to kiss. THEN it formed into a make out>.<

Answer 1

There's nothing wrong or bad.

It's something you SHOULD have done.

the scenerio manufacturing is normal.

You are hung up and startled that you're making out with your best friend, which wasn't what you planned. But. I don't think you realize how deep your feelings are for this guy --admit it, he's become a boyfriend and you're fond of him. Very fond. What about that baby you've imagined giving to him?!

Answer 2

Well, if you're going to make out with someone, your best friend of the opposite sex sounds like the best candidate for that.

However, you have just found out the hard way (or maybe it isn't so hard after all?) that making out is a step along the way to a relationship of oneness. Sex creates a bond which can only be broken at great cost - heartbreak, or else destruction of the ability to love and give oneself to another.

So it is indeed completely normal for you to be thinking in terms of dating and marriage after such a thing, because these things are the natural consequence of what you have done.

I personally would have waited for the friendship to grow to a point where we were sure we wanted to spend our lives together - in other words, at very least until engagement, but most probably I will wait until I am married to kiss that way.

See, I figure that if I enter that kind of a relationship with intention - so:

- I am in a position of 100% responsibility for my own life, which means, among other things being independent of my parents, and

- I consciously choose to put that person first, above everyone except God, and make a permanent commitment to him,

then I spare myself a lot of trouble and temptation because I have instead chosen to focus on doing what needs to be done to make a good and lasting relationship.

Quite frankly, I think you guys do have feelings for each other, it sounds like you have a nice, healthy friendship which would be a good basis for something permanent. It may very well have a different character from the picture that is commonly painted of 'being in love', but really - who needs that?

I mean, people 'fall in love', then 'fall out of love', and the relationship breaks up because it was based on feelings - ME and MY desires - instead of mutual friendship and commitment. I don't know about you, but I definitely prefer the latter.

In short, I would encourage you guys to keep your friendship platonic for the time being, but by all means let the thoughts keep coming, talk about them and see what happens. I bet God has something REALLY wonderful in store for you.

May He bless you richly with that love which is eternal and yet always new and surprising

Answer 3

making out with best mates are ok, provided that what both of u wanted. you guys making out in the first place is actually showing that you have feelings for each other. Actually i never believe in platonic friendship. talk to each other about ur feelings. if both feel that you want to develop the friendship into deeper relationship, by all means go ahead. You guys are already best friends, you will definitely have a special bond. if you guys think the making-out is just a once-all, then you need to talk about how this will change everything or you want things to remain the same. don;t make the same mistake again if you both decide to stay friends.

Answer 4

Yeah, this kind of thing has been known to happen. Are you sure you have no feelings for him, or was it just physical? You obviously really like him as a person. It could be that making out awakened some feelings. If making out with him was a pleasant experience, consider trying it out. Actually go on a date with him and see if things are different. I know of some people who were friends for many years and then married and are quite happy together. Good luck whatever you decide!

Answer 5

well when i first made-out with my best friend(which was a girl and im a guy) i started to think about dating and other stuff like you so your not alone but if either of you have feelings for each other it really should matter and you 2 should start dating and i think there is nothing abnormal about kissing or making out with your best friend of the opposite sex.

Answer 6

Well, I guess you could say it is better than making out with your best friend who is a girl. Going beyond the boundaries of a normal friendship can be tricky and you can mess up a good friendship but your should both talk it over and see how you both feel and what you want.

I wouldn't go picking babies names just yet.

Good luck.

Answer 7

well they always say you should start out as friends first those relationships usually are the ones that last.Maybe you and him like each other more than ya think but be careful cause sometimes it can back fire on you 2 and you end up sleeping tog only later to wind up not even speaking anymore.So take it slow and realize do you want him as a friend or a lover and are you willing to take a chance.I wish ya luck!

Answer 8

there is nothing wrong with kissing your best friend. But I bet you anything that your friend likes you because not many best friends would do that usually they do not want to ruin the friendship . Most relationships that start as friends last . I think if he is thinking of situations he really likes you

Answer 9

this sort of thing can ruin the best of friendships. it happens alot more than you know. every 5th question sometimes is about a best friend falling inlove with the other.read tips on dating and relationships on this site

Answer 10

I wouldn't, but hey! Whatever floats your boat, lol. Hopefully you guys can work it out and just sort of "forget" about it and continue on being best friends...although things will definitely be getting a little weird...lol. :-P Good luck! ^_^