ok 3years ago i liked my classmate and even he did but then there were no confessions betweeen us it was just eye contact that made us know that we like each other i moved from tht place now he is doing law but now iam with another guy who does love and is in army well settled yesterday this old guy confessed his feeling but i told him the truth he excepted its not that i wanna be with him coz i too love the present and planning to get settled but why i dont know this old guy is coming in my thought the new guy knows about it am i doing right thinking about the old one whay should i do?? coz if i tell the new guy my hearts out hell be sad and i dont want i really do love him but yhe old one was the first ever guy i fell for\//////////////////////////////
2006-08-23 19:22:52 · 16 answers · asked by sunshine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-08-23 19:25:56 · answer #1 · answered by jac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not right. That was three years ago, your classmate. This is the present, where you are committed to someone, and you seem to be happy (or are you ?). The present guy was understanding enough to still love you inspite of the fact that he knew about the past. What was this ''old'' guy doing all the three years, without letting you know and simply confusing you by just having eye contact with you ??? I agree it may have been a crush, something light, but something that you really felt, but you have to let go, which you did when you met this new guy. So move on. Tell him that you did have feelings for him, but obvoiusly he did not care enough to confess all these three years. And now you have someone who has accepted you the way you and you are really happy (again, question yourself if you are). If you arent, theres no point in playing around loving both the guys, you have a choice - 1) leave the old guy and carry on and make the best of it with the new guy (2) leave the new guy, if your feelings are strong and your darn sure about the old guy (who out of blues decided to confess after 3 years (3) dump both of them, and live happily, someone who will make you sure, and right will come along soon.
good luck.
P.S. Its ok, not everyone has great grammar or great english, but try to put a few ''full-stops'' here and there so that its easier for us to read, and understand you better.
2006-08-24 02:58:49 · answer #2 · answered by arya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong to choose the old guy instead of the new one - but just look deep inside your heart and make sure that's what you really want, because once you decide you may not have a turning back. Think very carefully - what you really feel for this old guy and if it can be compared to your feelings for the new one. In my opinion - you're happy because the one you once fell in love now finally confessed his feelings. Say: flattered or dream come true. But to categorize it as love - well better not decide it too fast. Look at the new guy - who you've been sharing your life with up to now - and why you fell in love with him. Love and relationships are not only about feelings. Its also about commitment and choices and responsibilities, and along with that: consequences. Good luck!
2006-08-24 03:47:59 · answer #3 · answered by cnds 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love this new guy then there should be no question in your mind you should stay with your new guy. I am sure there was plenty of time when you saw the old guy that he could have told you how he felt or you could have told him and you guys never did now he tells you that he loves you and you are wondering do you break this new guys heart because of the old guy. You might just be thinking about the old guy because your nervous. Either way one of the two guys is going to be heart broke. I think you should stay with the new guy and just remember the old guy as your first love .
2006-08-24 02:30:58 · answer #4 · answered by melthule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a case of "what if". Your curious of what might of happened with the first guy and that is normal. You said you are happy with your current partner so tell the first guy that if he had of said something 3 years ago, then there may have been a chance, but he didnt and you moved on. Your now in love with your current partner and settled so be happy and forget about the old classmate.
2006-08-24 02:30:49 · answer #5 · answered by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nearly nobody ends up with their 'first love'
Thats why its called your first love
But if you truely love your current man then tell the old guy that it is too late and that is that. Do not cheat on him as he is in the military and can probably put the other guy in the hospital.
Really this is real life not a soap opera it sounds like you just want to add some drama in ur life\\\
2006-08-24 02:32:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It must be getting late. I read that 3 times and it didn't make a damned bit of since to me. Something about a guy in the army and some classmate. If you are committed to the guy in the Army then keep your hands to yourself. If you are not commited to him jump the classmate. Problem solved?
2006-08-24 02:28:22 · answer #7 · answered by Mav 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop fantasy and live for the present, if he likes you that much , he will find away and right time to tell you. but if he come after 3 years and telling you that he liked you then, think about and think careful , mistake won't revers-able , so be happy and look forward for the future with your man.
2006-08-24 02:28:57 · answer #8 · answered by tangind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love that heart that loves you not that heart that you love so i think you should go with the old guy coz the first sight love or close your eyes and if see the old guy go with him and a new one then go with the new on coz watever picture will form that will be formed by both your heart and mind. 'BEST OF LUCK '
2006-08-24 02:30:20 · answer #9 · answered by TIMEPASS 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
forget about the classmate girl
dont give up ur settled life for some crazy sshit like that
2006-08-24 02:27:04 · answer #10 · answered by A 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey Sunshine,
Forget the past n live for your future.
2006-08-24 11:11:14 · answer #11 · answered by Masked Mark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋