2006-08-23 19:19:59 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Explain to the parent's that it's the BRIDE and GROOM's special day, not theirs, and that they should allow their children to plan a wedding the way they like.
2006-08-23 19:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by freyas_kin28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would opt for a small intimate wedding and a large reception either afterwards or right after the honeymoon. Best of both worlds.
The bride and groom could arrange the wedding and the parents could be in charge of the reception. After all isn't the most important part the wedding itself...that way the bride gets her wish.
2006-08-24 09:37:05 · answer #2 · answered by jescl32 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go with the bride's wish. You can explain to the parents that this is something that you both decide. Alot of times, parents think that bigger is better or worse, they are doing it for their own reason (ie bragging rights) but I would make sure that when you do explain, whether its your parents or hers that neither one of you say it's solely the other party that wants the smaller wedding. this day is supposed to be about you and your bride. you can always have a big party afterwards with the family and friends who weren't invited. Now a days, many couples choose to have a private and intimate ceremony, just themselves and witnesses, or even elope and then when they return have the "welcome home/congrats" party. Just remember to stick to what you both want and in the end you will both be happy. Congrats
2006-08-24 08:51:22 · answer #3 · answered by ~*~Stacy~*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see if your bride wants at least 50 people in the wedding. if so tell your parents and invite 25 people from your side and 25 from the bride's side. if this does not work, lower the amount or just do whatever your bride says. Maybe when you two renew your vows, there could be a huge wedding but as for now just have a small one. dont make your future bride mad because you are marrying her and not your family. tell your parents to respect you and your bride's wishes.
2006-08-24 02:26:09 · answer #4 · answered by averilyn06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who's getting married the bridge or the parents? Sorry, but not a real believer of involving other people too much at weddings. It's about what 2 people want not great auntie Dora or someone. If the 'parents' are good parents they will understand that and let the Bride have what she wants.
2006-08-24 07:57:44 · answer #5 · answered by aza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it what YOU want it to be. An Intimate wedding allows you to remember more of the faces (special people that were there. Tel your parents that it is not important for you to have a big Wedding and Show off to every one. If they want to do something BIG for you let them pay for your Honey Moon (give them 3 choices and let them surprise you) or Give you the money for the down payment on a home. You could also do cocktails for every one else that they want to invite that you don't want there for an hour and a half before the main event. This means you might have to have the ceremony earlier.
2006-08-24 02:30:19 · answer #6 · answered by larechiga26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't quite get your meaning, but what I can say is, it's your wedding. You need to make yourself happy. You might need to sit Mom down and tell her that you really want a smaller more intimate wedding, and that having 12 bridesmaids doesn't really fit in with the scheme of things.
If you are paying for the wedding you even have more of a right to put your foot down. More people=more money.
However, you should try to make her happy too. See what she really wants. Does she want you to ask all your 10 cousins to be bridemaids, or does she want you to have your 3 sisters?
You are really only (sort of) obligated to ask your immediate female relatives (sisters), your best friend(s), and your fiance's immediate female relatives (sisters). And yes you should ask your fiance's sisters. Do you want to start off your new life with that family on the wrong foot?
It doesn't matter if the numbers are somewhat uneven. Bridesmaids and groomsmen can walk down the aisle individually and not together.
You are in a sticky situation, but just talk to mom. Hear her out, then let her know how you feel. Hopefully you can come up with a compromise.
2006-08-24 11:01:12 · answer #7 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there i see youre trying to accmodate the bride and also the parents .......but what do you want ?? you never said ,look i take it that youre thegroom , so there for you need to sit down with youre future wife /bride and talk this thing out and come to some conculsion on what you both want for youre wedding ,its youre day after all and as soon as you explain to the parents that what ever you and youre bride decides stick to it,it is the start of youre married life together so make a plan and stick to it ,they will come round and im sure that you will all have a great day ...........many congratulations on youre wedding and look after each other as im sure you will take care xx
2006-08-24 03:27:03 · answer #8 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate parents who dictate wedding arrangements, if you are not prepared to go along with your fiancee's wish for an intimate wedding then you need to spend the rest of your life tied to your parents apron strings ! You don't deserve this woman. If your marry, life will be about pleasing your wife and NOT your parents. Parents should love you unconditionally and respect your wishes without commenting..
2006-08-24 06:46:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy the small wedding party, go on your honeymoon, and then the parents can throw a big reception when you get back. If they're willing to pay for it, that is.
2006-08-24 02:55:45 · answer #10 · answered by Dolores G. Llamas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋