My mom need $4000 to keep her house and $3000 on a new car. Now she askin me for it.But the only time she talk to me is when she want or need sumthing.Like a fool I keep giving in to her.Altogether she have got over $800 from and I didnt ask her to pay none of it back.Few weeks ago i went to jail for beatin her azz cause we dont get alone at all.Been like this since I was about 5...Should i give her the money or wat...
2006-08-23 19:10:33 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We did counseling about 2 months still didnt help.
My relationship wit is not good at all.She took me to my grandma house for the week when i was 5 and she never came back.Then she always talkin how she wish she didnt have me.That im nothing and will never be anything.She say she wish she only had my older bro and my younger bro.But when she need sumthing she callin on me
2006-08-23 19:30:28 · update #1
I dont stay wit her.I live in the house my grandmother left me when she passed away.Im 22 and I have done just about everything to get alone wit her
2006-08-23 19:37:01 · update #2
When i have kids I will not be the way my mom is. I gave birth a still born.Told her about on the phone she said good for my baby and hung up the phone.And thats when I really needed her
2006-08-23 19:40:46 · update #3
she wasnt really much of a mother after all. your mother was your grandmother, who took you in and took care of you. mothers are people who are there for there children no matter what. they are the ones who feed you, cloth you, give you a place to stay. yeah she did give birth to you, but that alone doesnt make her a mother. dont give her anything. she doesnt deserve the money or you. beating her up was not a good thing and i think she might be partially to blame for this. you were not exactly braught up in the most of excellent conditions, but i think that maybe you guys need some counceling, or just not talking to her at all, not picking up the phone when she calls, or opening up the door when she goes over to visit.
2006-08-23 19:59:52 · answer #1 · answered by married1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old u r or if u live with your mom, but you need distance between the 2 of u. This is a poison relationship. I hope u don't follow her examples when u have children. You and mom are abusing each other. See if you can find therapy. Start at a local family doctor and ask what to do. Tell the doctor all of this. Your future looks like prison if things don't change. You don't want to spend life in prison. You only get to live one time. Is your life a sweet perfume or a stinky mess? Get help. God is watching.
2006-08-24 02:34:58 · answer #2 · answered by winkcat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I urge you to get help for her and do not give her any of your money.I advice you and her get counseling together and find some non profit organization that do for low cost.It about time you stop fighting and beating her up.She has her life as well as you.It is not healthy helping her this way because,she does not understand how hard you have to work for a living and I am sorry that you went to jail and it is the most painful thing you went through.I urge you get help quick and you are a good child that will taking care of her but it has to be a loving and healthy way.Good luck and I am honor to answer your question.
2006-08-24 02:27:49 · answer #3 · answered by ryladie99 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Godd....what kinda relation do you have with your mom?? Isn't she independent? If she is not earning, why the hell is she demanding $4000 from you to keep the house? If you really care for her, you will have to part with some good money (that is if you can afford it). Mother's are mothers afterall...I would do anything for my mom provided she was not an addict or alcoholic. Try and talk it out with her and then decide what you wanna do.
2006-08-24 02:20:37 · answer #4 · answered by CURIOUS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm i know that what she did to u is wrong..i mean the only talking that u two have is when she needed money - thats wrong! i would say that u two does not have the 'normal' mother-daughter relationship but it doesnt mean that u can raise ur hand to her..a mother is a mother no matter what..why dont u seek counseling or if u prefer, move out..
2006-08-24 02:31:06 · answer #5 · answered by SoliloQuy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are obviously making money, and must be living with your mother still, so what 's wrong with helping her out to keep YOUR house! by the way, I think nobody here like the way you talk about your mother no matter what.. Both of you, you should see a specialist
2006-08-24 02:37:08 · answer #6 · answered by alya m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES.when i say this i may sound unfriendly to u but the fact is she is your mother. and that should matter.she might not a good mother but u are good.goodness never go unrewarded.and not will yours.WISH U A GREAT LIFE.
2006-08-24 03:36:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you think feels right in your heart she is family so dont let her live on the street but if she wants the money to make herself feel better and use it for things she doesnt need then keep it and make yourself happy with it
2006-08-24 02:42:00 · answer #8 · answered by scatter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
use that $$$ for you 2 to have some counseling
2006-08-24 02:13:58 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Haylow ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mother is kind and reasonable,help her. But ask her to understand your limited ability.
2006-08-24 02:28:52 · answer #10 · answered by pyj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋