I broke up with my first love about a year ago and was very mean about it, I broke his heart literally. Everyone said, someday you'll pay for it. I don't like the guy anymore but I have felt so bad and haven't had the chance to apologize to him. I feel really guilty and depressed I literally hate myself for it, and also I can't stop thinking about what everyone said about paying for it. I totally deserve it if something did happen I agree. I am with another guy now and I love him more than anything but I keep worrying 24/7 that he will do to me what I did to my ex even tho he assures me everyday how much he loves me. Is there any way that I can get over my past and leave it behind so I can move on with my life??
2006-08-23 18:55:48 · 21 answers · asked by theblonchic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
quit crying
2006-08-23 18:57:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should put all your effort in forgetting about the first guy, of course he is fine now, one year is very enough to heal from a heartache of a broken relationship. About what people said, these were just the words that must have been said in such a situation, it does not necessarily mean you took the wrong decision, but people will not see the right situation as deep as you do. So, don't keep thinking that you will pay for it, worrying all the time is the real paying for it! Just enjoy your life with the guy you love. I have once loved a girl more than anything else and i was so worried that she would leave me, and unexpectedly i was the one who broke her heart.. You'll never know what is gonna happen.
2006-08-23 19:06:57 · answer #2 · answered by Kiwi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through the same thing. Everytime my boyfriend tells me he loves me, i wonder if he actually means it, and not like i used to do with my ex. I'm embarrassed of the way i treated my ex and i do regret what ended up happening between us both. The only thing you can really do is build up your trust with your boyfriend. Trust is very important in a relationship, and its the only thing that can keep you from the bad karma you got from your past relationship. Don't regret what you did, because at least you got a learning experience from it. If you feel so horrible that you need to apologize to your ex, do it, maybe it will feel better. But just make sure to build up the trust you have with your partner. Time willl help you move on.
2006-08-23 19:00:41 · answer #3 · answered by GC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is a way you can contact your ex boyfriend and apologize then maybe you should. It would at least clear your conscious. If not try to carry on with the relationship your in now.Hopefully you won't have a need to worry. We all make mistakes but the important thing is that you learn from them the first time and it sounds as if you did. Chalk it up as a learning experience and good luck.Leave the past in the past and move on.
2006-08-23 18:59:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok here it is,you feel bad because you hurt someone. First ask Jesus to forgive you and say sorry. then say your sorry to the guy you hurt. Now if Jesus forgives you...And He will, then forget about the crap that 'people' said because all that matters is that Jesus forgives you and He sure doesnt want you to go around being scared about something that He forgave you for. think about it Jesus wants you to be happy, hes not going to let the guy your with do to you what you did,. come on now. If your present boyfriend hurts you it wont be because what you did to your former boyfriend. I am not really religious like a freak or anything I just believe in God and I dont believe in letting guilt ruin peoples lives. good luck
2006-08-23 19:12:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may try to send a letter to him starting with your anger, sadness, regret and lastly love. Let him know of your bitterness and apologise to him for what you have done. He may or may not accept your friendship but at least you will have some peace in your heart and mind.
Life is short , do not worry about the past. It is love and not time that will heal the heart.
2006-08-23 19:29:43 · answer #6 · answered by Sky Princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What goes around doesn't always come around.
Try appologizing to this guy, and ask him to forgive you for your harsh breakup. If you can't meet in person, try a phone call or a letter. Hearing from him that he is OK now and forgives you will be a relief to you.
The next step is to learn to forgive yourself. View your mistake with this guy as a lesson learned and move past it.
2006-08-23 19:08:11 · answer #7 · answered by Miss B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i sorta did something like that this guy was the it guy in high school(i was in middle school still) but years later we dated he was super sweet ,good honest and very understanding he even knew that my first true love was going to be around soon and ask me to be honest "are you going back to him" i Sid no but i was 100% shure i was already gone we had made plans to get back together i totally disappeared i was to sorry to be honest and tell him IT messed with me severely and At a bar one night i just walked up beside him with my head lowered and seid"i know u dont wont to even see or hear this but i am sorrry that i was a lair and too weak to be honest i hurt u and there s nothing i can do to fix that but i hope one day you can overlook how stupid i am and i undrstand if you never speak to me again but i had to tell u i am deeply sorry"he doesnt hate me now but he didxnt forget if i ran into him in a sore we say hey how r u and pass and go but i still feel like s h i t to this day
2006-08-23 19:18:10 · answer #8 · answered by justwondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet up and talk to your first love again. Tell him you're sorry and you'll understand if he doesn't forgive you, but that you are truly, tremendously sorry. Even if he doesn't forgive you, it should take a load off your shoulders that you had the guts to apologize. Tell him you want to be friends again and you want to make up for what you lost.
=) It'll work. Just relax, and don't stress yourself.
2006-08-23 19:32:32 · answer #9 · answered by cyn1c4l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never let your past ruin your future.....as long as you think negative bad things will happen.....it is true that what goes around comes around but not neccessarily in the same way, maybe it might just work out but something else will go wrong.....i don't wanna sound negative but that's how you should think about karma......just don't let your negativity get to you to the point where you mess up a good thing
2006-08-23 18:59:05 · answer #10 · answered by PButta 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We live and we learn. I am glad that you realize that what you did was something you should have handled better. There is no guarantee that your boyfriend won't do the same thing to you. Take one day at a time and go on.
2006-08-23 18:59:12 · answer #11 · answered by Mav 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋