What would you do?

Question

I was dating this guy for over a year and during the beginning of the relationship he had gotten his ex girlfriend pregnant. Like 6-7 months in, I noticed that he'd been acting strange and I had to pull teeth to get that information out of him. It had been a very stressful and depressing time during my life, I tried to break this off umteen times but he had a hard time letting go. I must say I had been a tower of strength for him during our relationship as he also had other issues dealing with as well. Finally, I gathered the strength to get out of the mess. After no contact for about 3 months now, last evening he called me complaining. Telling me how bad things were with him, he and the girl moved in for the sake of the now 4 month old child (also another child from a previous relationship). In his words "this is torture, I can't live like this anymore", "I can't stand the arguing", "I am not happy". I don't want him back but is listening to him sending a different message?

it's weird but I standing up for his girl by telling him nobody is perfect and he should try to work things out. Infact, the problems that they are now having was the reason for their breakup the first time.

Answer 1

Yep, listening to him makes him believe that there is still hope for the two of you. You just need to let him know that you are sorry that he is in a bad place, but you can do nothing for him anymore. Then politely ask him not to call you anymore, that you have moved on, and he should do the same. Then hang up. Get caller ID and don't answer it when he calls. He will get the point after a few days......hopefully.

Answer 2

oh sweetie
im so sorry
you should decide whats best for u
im not sure if i understand the WHOLE situation but the only thing you should do is something thats right for you

Answer 3

Yes. Run, run like your hair is on fire.

Answer 4

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