Do you think people who cheat can change?
2006-08-23 18:03:43 · 21 answers · asked by brooksta3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think people who cheat are in a relationship just to kill time until someone new comes along. I believe sometimes they genuinly want to change but without serious counseling and therapy with their partner and a totally open line of comunication then i don't think they can. I believe that they say their sorry because that's what we're taught to do when you hurt someone. I come from a man who cheated on mother frequently and always came crawling back and she always forgave him. he never changed or saught change because he knew and kiss and apresent would make everything alright. You have to want it for yourself and the person you love. Don't just say it ...do it!!
2006-08-23 18:09:48 · answer #1 · answered by pmemommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, anyone can change, it just depends on the circumstances surrounding the cheating. Was it a one time thing? Or was it an affair? Did the cheater end it, or was the cheater caught? Lots of things play into this and without details it's going to be hard for us to decide whether our answers apply to your situation. I was cheated on, everyone told me to run and not look back, but 8 yrs later we are still together and he's not cheated since. Cheating happens for all sorts of reasons. My husband cheated because I was too wrapped up in raising our children that I neglected him. I'm not taking the blame, because he could have came to me and told me we need to work on a few things, but I can't change what happened either. I had to go through my grieving period, alot of counseling with him and we now have a very happy marriage and put alot of effort into keeping it that way. In a sense, the affair actually opened my eyes to alot of things. I have forgiven, but because of society and the views I've learned, I won't ever forget. They say once a cheater, always a cheater. For right now I beg to differ. It hasn't rang true in my situation.
2006-08-24 01:16:06 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater,...always a cheater. They may slow down once they get older but from my experience it always surfaces sooner or later.
2006-08-24 01:06:27 · answer #3 · answered by merivel7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One day they will wish they hadn`t cheated. let me tell you about this girl that was suppose to be my friend, and sister inlaw, she was married to my husbands brother, they lived here In tenn, they went to North carolina to pick her mom up, so she could come and stay with the kids while they all went on vacation, now her mom was on heart medicine, well when they got back from vacation, her and my husband and the 3 kids told her mother they were going to take her shopping, so she didn`t take her heart medicine with her,when in fact they were taking her back to north carolina, and they were running off together. they didn`t care if her mother died, they didn`t care that the kids were screaming for their dad, they never gave a thought to anyone but theirself. Now do you think that people that cheat can ever really love at all? does that sound like someone that has a heart? NO Cheaters do not care for anyone, they don`t have hearts. they are liers and cheats. their life is so full of hate. and their are so many people like that in the world today. I do know this, that so called friend of mine, that took off with my husband, she Is worried about the world ending, I know she sees the things going on in the world now, and I know for a fact, she knows where her end will be, and you can bet my husband, who claimed he was called to preach, KNOWS he has hell to pay, and so does she. we have choices in this world, God gave us those choices, were not slaves, BUT we will pay for the things we do to our BROTHERS. all we can do in our life is treat people the way we want to be treated, love our neighbors as ourself.vengance Is the LORDS. and he`s on his way
2006-08-24 01:29:02 · answer #4 · answered by theladylooking 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, humans have a heart and hearts are made up of meat. Anyone can change their minds at anytime, they can change physically and in other terms.
People who cheat need help from other friends and/or partner :)
2006-08-24 01:05:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure they can change. Change partners. You catch them with extra person 'A' and they'll end it with her after you stupidly give them another chance and "change" to extra person 'B'. Cheaters are no good. Leave him or her.
2006-08-24 01:05:32 · answer #6 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no wayyyyyyyy............once a cheater always a cheater,,,its a fact...once a person cheats they are always bound to cheat,,its like it gets into their blood. i suggest if ur dating someone who has cheated, dump them now.....
2006-08-24 01:12:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmm..no once a cheater always a cheater, in my point of view
2006-08-24 01:05:59 · answer #8 · answered by URDAWG 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some can but others are additcted or is not a carin person if they really truely feel it was a mistake and hurt by what they do then yes but they have to of not ment to do in first place and remembers this and will not follw their past
2006-08-24 01:08:06 · answer #9 · answered by BRIAN J R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a cheater always a cheater, no matter how badly u wanna stop.
2006-08-24 01:06:59 · answer #10 · answered by lots of luv carebear 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋