Honestly, I hear so many complaints from girls who have boyfriends that do nothing more than mooch off their paycheck, cheat, lie, and the list goes on. Why would you want to stay with someone who treated you like that? Is it fear of being alone?
2006-08-23 17:49:12 · 15 answers · asked by vbplr_12 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
See, here's another thing I don't understand--possibly because I was raised a lil different than a lot of people. I was always taught 1. You can't rescue or "fix" a man, he has to figure it out for himself. and 2. You are not Cinderella, so don't expect a man to come rescue you--learn to live for yourself, for your dreams.
2006-08-23 17:57:13 · update #1
I think there are several reasons: low self-esteem coupled with the household in which they were reared. I see a lot of females who had mothers who stayed in miserable marriages for years...and that was their "model" for relationships. My parents had a very unhappy marriage and my own marriage was a reflection of that early model. It takes some time, and for some, a lifetime...to figure out that healthy relationships are a good thing.
I've seen many of those same ladies wise up and move on to better things and guys who treat them well. When you know better, you do better. I don't think it's fear of being alone, it's more of a "this hell is familiar...it sucks, but I'm used to this."
Smart women who care about themselves don't stay with men who disregard their needs for love and respect. Whenever I hear a girl say, "Oh, I just like bad guys", my response is, "What you mean is....you pick men who like you about as well as you like yourself." Sad, but true.
2006-08-23 19:20:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes a girl is used to that because thats all shes ever had. Maybe growing up her father and other male figures treated her like crap. The saying " a beaten dog runs back to the person that beat them" applies to them. They figure they would rather have someone who treats them like dirt then nobody at all.
2006-08-24 00:52:46 · answer #2 · answered by andrea lynn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good question. I'm curious to know too. The popular answer is usually, "Low self-esteem". But I believe that it is not quite that simple. There's got to be more; and it's not just sex. I guess those the question applies to won't be honest enough to speak up. Just remember it's not about judging but understanding.
2006-08-24 00:55:32 · answer #3 · answered by dubdwells 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Loneliness is a factor.. most gals are afraid of being alone. The nature of the gal is also another factor... sometimes they just do not see what we as outsiders see and are blinded by 'love'.. supposedly.. cheers
2006-08-24 00:54:16 · answer #4 · answered by bluezest27_83 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ive been trying to figure that one out for a long time
my message to all those ladies gettin treated like crap dont think all of us nice guys r gone theyre not u just have open ur eyes
standin up for nice guys everywhere
2006-08-24 00:58:52 · answer #5 · answered by cowboy76360 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
fear of being alone is one of the reasons why girls stick to their boyfriends eventhough they cheat or lie...
but if they really love the guy, it is hard to stay away from him...coz it hurts...
loving is not a sin...but not loving yourself is not good...give yourself a break...think about what is going on with the relationship...
and then, DECIDE!!!
2006-08-24 00:56:58 · answer #6 · answered by _sapphire princess_ 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Low self esteem
2006-08-24 00:50:51 · answer #7 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
fear, lonliness, insecurity and love and thats only a small sample.
easier said than done but not easy to achieve. heart and mind is a fragile and hard to handle matter?
it took me sometime to dump him, and it feels good and never regreting a moment of it!
2006-08-24 00:58:00 · answer #8 · answered by superyoyogirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know that with my exboyfriend (who was a jerk), that I also saw a good side to him and I thought I could change him. However, I then realized that his bad side outweighted his good side and he wasn't worth sticking around for.
2006-08-24 00:51:51 · answer #9 · answered by Shatteredhopes 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most women like being treated like dirt. If they didn't they wouldn't stay with the buttholes they pick.
2006-08-24 00:52:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋