What is the best: a working mom or a stay at home mom?

Answer 1

Oooh, you are going to catch alot of defensive answers for this one. And as sad as it is, my answer totally depends on the individual parent. Some parents, have no patience, no tolerance, and can be rather cold and distant to their children...these people need to work and give that child a chance to grow up in an environment where love is shown, patience comes as second nature and tolerance is described as children being children.

On the other side of that coin, you have the parents who are just so loving and giving, they embrace the challenges of parenthood and calming a screaming baby is as easy as singing a familiar lullaby. They are under paid, under appreciated, and often taken for granted...but they do it in stride.

I, personally did both. I stayed home with all my children and opted to get a part time job in the evenings when my husband was home so that he could have his fair share of the children and the responsibility. It wasn't that I didn't love staying home, it was just that raising children is hard and when you have them 24/7, sometimes it can be emotionally taxing and you need an out that consists of adult interaction. Not only did it make me appreciate every second I spent with them more, but it put balance in my life.

Answer 2

It really depends on the mom. A stay at home mom can be abusive or neglect her children while the working mom is doted to her kids with every moment she has with them. Of course it can be the other way around too. I've seen it both ways - really it depends on how much the mother loves her children - she will always make them feel important, cherished and loved no matter what her circumstances are.

From a stay at home mom that now has to work!!

Answer 3

A Mom is a Mom, if they have careers or stay at home...they have the same responsibilities.
I have a career and I have 3 boys, I am tired everyday but I wouldn't change it for the world. I will also be fostering more kids in a few years.

Answer 4

I struggle with this question every day. In almost every situation, a child would prefer to have his mommy home with him, even if it means less family vacations and a smaller car. Children are meant to be raised by their mothers. My son cries every single morning when I leave and it is absolutely heart wrenching.

That said, if the lack of mom's income subjects the family to extreme financial stress, there will undoubtedly be repercussions for the child. As much as I think kids should be raised by their own parents, if it comes at the price of no health insurance, unsafe cars and neighborhood, limited educational opportunities, and a stressed-out mom and dad, then I think carefully chosen daycare would be the better solution.

In my family, there was just no way to survive on one income. Our solution was for my husband to work nights so he can be home with our son all day, and we hire his teenaged niece to come into the home in the afternoon until I get home so he can sleep.

Answer 5

I think whatever works for the mom is what is good. If she wants to stay at home with the kids and financially its possible then she should do that. If she wants to put her children in day care and go to work then she should do that.

Answer 6

This is definately a tough one. Kids grow up so fast that you wanna stay at home and watch them grow,but sadly in todays world you have no choice,but to work.So what is better I guess its what works for you. If your the kind of women who likes to get out there and work then its ok to be a working mom and don't beat yourself up about it.bUt if you need to work but wanna stay home with the kids try a stay at home job.

Answer 7

both have there benefits... i personally have no choice cuz i am a single mom, so i have to work. daycare worked wonders for my girl, cuz by kindergarden she was socially and academically wonderful!!! but being a stay at home mom is a luxury i can only imagine, cuz i have to pay $475 a month for daycare, leave work if she is sick, worry about who is gonna pick her up from school while i work, and you do still have to do all the housework of a housewife, but on top of putting in a 8 - 10 hour day. so if you have a rich man to support you, BE A HOUSEWIFE!!!!!!!!! yea, i hear people say they get bored staying home, but why don't they work 40 - 65 hours a week and then pick up there kids from daycare, feed them, realize it's almost midnight and there still in work clothes, the house is still dirty, and the need to be up in less than 8 hours to do it all over again - then lets complain about being bored!!!!! good luck in whatever u choose

Answer 8

depends on the financial situation somewhat... if you really don't have the finances to get by, then a working mom is best, but if money is not a big issue, by all means, STAY AT HOME. There's no better way to build a bond with your child than by spending time with them, letting them be there to do the little things with you.... it beats having a day care raise your child.

Answer 9

Whatever works for the family is best. As long as the children are cared for properly and get the right level of closeness with their parents, as well as being financially secure, it doesn't matter.

Anyway, why does it have to be the mom that this is debated on? In my family, my mom was the major breadwinner for much of my childhood, he cooked most of our dinners, he was the one who could sew, etc., but in other ways the gender stereotypes were fixed as normal.

Answer 10

The best mom is the one that loves her kids with everything she has, who is willing to make self-sacrifices for them but doesn't sacrifice their well being. It has nothing to do with working or not. Some people are better mothers when they work and get away for a while and some are better when they put in 24hrs a day.