me and this guy are friends but we always have sex, whenever we hang out with our friends, sometimes hes close me and sometimes hes not, i want him to be commited to me, and hes said before that he has considered at real relationship with me, i want to be with him and only him, do you think i should wait and see if he comes around or just keep looking?
2006-08-23 17:31:09 · 27 answers · asked by mystrugglewithin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Keep your options open...but keep in mind that if he is sometimes close to you, he may have some sort of feelings for you. Maybe he's keeping his options open as well.
2006-08-23 17:37:02 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Ma'am 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be old fashion but... sit down with a mentor or someone older you trust and go over the characteristics that you want in a friend. Then add the guy specific stuff. The mentor or older person is there to be a reality check and help prioritize based on their experience.
Now, here's the hard part...everyone you date, run them through the check list. If they make all the priority and most of the others, sounds like a person you MIGHT want to start dating seriously, such as in a monogamous, committed relationship.
By the way, this is how adults buy cars. ;)
Cheers!
2006-08-24 00:39:44 · answer #2 · answered by rkalch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep looking, trust me I know. I had the same thing going on with me when I was younger, I was having sex with this guy for 7 years on and off and we were never a couple! He didn't want to be but I did, he was the only person I wanted to be with, but since he was already getting the sex from me without being "with" me I guess he felt like is was no point to have a relationship with me. He was already getting the benefits. Trust me girl, find someone else and don't waste your time falling for this guy because you will find yourself in a predicament like this one years down the road if you fall in love with him and want to be with him only and not try to be with any other guy. It will hurt your feelings in the long run. So go ahead and test the waters with someone else.
2006-08-24 01:14:08 · answer #3 · answered by prtybrneyez1081 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh jeez, I'm kinda in the same boat... I would say that if you really love him and you want to be with only him, then it will be way worth it if you wait and see if he comes around. Why keep looking when the one for you could be right under your nose? I know it's easier said than done (trust me, i know.) But one day he will realise how good he's got it - you just have to give him time. Good Luck!
2006-08-24 00:43:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you guys are just sex buddies. Ask him where everything is going- just friends, or a couple? If he wants to just be friends then he is just using you for sex. and you need to find someone who is actually committed.
2006-08-24 00:38:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the friends with benefits never works first of all because someone usually ends up getting hurt your just probably gonna have to come out and ask him is it going to happen or what cuz he may just be wasting your time to be actually out there and dating someone serious and not just fooling around just get into a convo instead of heading to a bed to actually figure out if its real or not
2006-08-24 00:34:48 · answer #6 · answered by countrygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what does he honestly want to do NOW regarding a committed relationship and decide from there according to what you really want and do it for yourself; but keep in mind integrity.
2006-08-24 00:39:52 · answer #7 · answered by dubdwells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't look you will never find n e thing true.
Let it come to you.
And when it does jump on it and watch how ole boy tries to take up space in your life. Keep your eye on the prize...your eye on the prize ( whatever you want ).
2006-08-24 00:33:57 · answer #8 · answered by Lucy Lu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends with benfit...while you wait, he can keep getting the benfit...but you can just go for more...just the "benfit" part...which is known as a "booty-call"...
So what I'm trying to say is keep looking
"Why by the cow when you can get the milk free?!?"
2006-08-24 00:35:40 · answer #9 · answered by Envi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep walking and don't look back.He's not in this for a relationship...purely the sex. Run! He's not a friend; he;s using you.
2006-08-24 00:36:36 · answer #10 · answered by prettycoolchick38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋