My girlfriend and I just broke up after 5 months of going out. She still wants to be friends, and possibly friends with benefits. I dont know if i would be able to handle that because i still have many feelings for her, and wouldnt be comfortable with her doing things with other guys. Also, I don't know if i want to just be friends, because then i think that i would never get over her. What should i do?
2006-08-23 17:30:17 · 33 answers · asked by jrphantom95 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't want her to just be a booty call. Do you think i should maybe spend some time apart from her, then see if the friends with benefits will work? Because then ill have had a chance to get over her.
2006-08-23 17:35:08 · update #1
you already know that you would be uncomfortable so cut her off from the extra on the side. Just be casual friends, and maybe she will realize that you were quite the catch
2006-08-23 17:31:58 · answer #1 · answered by noggle4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just spend some time away from each other. This way either she will realize that she misses you and wants to be with you in a good, and healthy relationship (not the unhealthy one she wants to have) or you will both decide you no longer want to have anything to do with each other. Only time will tell if you are meant to be together. Keep in mind that if you do decide to have a relationship of friends with benefits you will eventually expect more. And you might get confused about the type of relationship you have. Don't set yourself up for a heartbreak.
2006-08-23 17:43:35 · answer #2 · answered by girly girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go ahead and be her friend with benefits. Some girls that are no longer dating guys won't even give them the time of day. You are very lucky that your ex girlfriend still wants to have sex with you. I would tell her how you truly feel. Tell her everything about what you said here. Ask her what went wrong with your relationship with her and if there is anything at all that you could do to improve it, so you can continue dating her.
2006-08-23 18:03:51 · answer #3 · answered by David 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to start meeting other friends with benefits and you will soon figure out whether or not it is the benefits you like or whether it is actually this girl. Once you figure that out then you can focus on what to do next, and in the meantime you can enjoy all the "benefits" from various sources. You are young. Enjoy life while you can.
2006-08-23 17:32:59 · answer #4 · answered by LaNell the Relationship Expert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, let her go...trust me, friends never work right away and the friends with benefits thing is even worse...it just drags out the inevitable....I think the best thing to to say good bye for a little while until you can get your life back together!!!
2006-08-23 17:33:53 · answer #5 · answered by O Jam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her exactly what you wrote here. If you're honest with her she will know exactly what is going on in your head.
"I'm sorry, but I don't know if I would be able to handle being only friends with you because I still have feelings for you. "
Depending on her respnse to that, you can tell if she cares for you anymore.....
If she understands then she most likely will not do the "friends with benefits" thing to spare your feelings.
If she tries to persuade you....then...maybe she doesn't care about you enough to do that for you.
Hope that helps. =)
2006-08-23 17:46:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends with benefits
2006-08-23 17:31:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do the friend with benefits thing. You have a lot of feelings for her and you'll end up being really hurt in the end, I bet.
2006-08-23 17:32:30 · answer #8 · answered by Seinfeld 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes when its over its over.some can remain friends and they seem to do it well. but it has to be the effort of both people.As you feel the way you feel my advice to you would be go your own separate ways. As your right seeing this would not be a good thing for you. Move on And all the best
2006-08-23 17:33:41 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs Magoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's using you.
She wants to hold onto something familiar while she explores new territory, and under NO circumstances should you consent to it.
Trust me.
This will spell trouble for the both of you.
If she wants to get back together later, that's great.
But this...this is not good.
2006-08-23 17:32:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋