He complains about toys being spread around the house, few little dishes in the sink, he complains about the father of my child calling his daughter etc....
2006-08-23 17:27:36 · 26 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If I were a woman and my man acted like that I would tell him to get a frigging life. I would tell him that if he cannot trust me then what the heck is he doing with me? Is he disabled or something that he cannot pick up the toys or do the dishes? And the father of your daughter has every right to talk to her. I would tell him to straighten up or leave.
Best wishes
2006-08-23 17:30:53 · answer #1 · answered by Mav 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a man, so I am answering it as a man should.
Men who do this are more likely to be abusive, and the best thing to do is break up with him before it becomes a physical thing, which it likely will at some point.
I don't mean that he can't have complaints that are valid or that he can't suggest things that are better for both of you. Screening your calls means he doesn't trust you, though, and that cannot go in a healthy direction.
Get out or get him out before things go too far.
2006-08-24 00:43:43 · answer #2 · answered by Warren D 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Come on................Cocoa!
You know this ain't got nothing to do with him being controlling, lets keep it real! He's two minutes from snatching the doors off the hinges because he gets no respect from you.
If I knew my ex wife would except my calls on the side despite her new husband, I would call just for the sake of letting him know "I'm still important to her".
Your husband is a good man.......... to defuse his anger over a few dishes in the sink. If it was me ........... I would have thrown the sink in the front yard!
2006-08-24 00:59:45 · answer #3 · answered by dadnnelle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to talk to him and ask him if it is possible for him to help around the house. I am assuming you have a few kids. Do not know if you work but if you are a house wife Im sure you know that by the time you clean one room the kids move to the next room.
As for the dad of your child he needs to understand that if it was him calling he would like the same respect and options of speaking to his daughter. Talk to him and put him in your ex shoes. Ask him how he would feel if your new husband get mad when he called and asked to speak to his daughter.
You need to be very carefull. This is how wife beaters start. They start by controlling every aspect of your life then when they finally alienate you from everyone and make you feel like you have no one, the physical abuse starts.
2006-08-24 00:36:26 · answer #4 · answered by Cyrinos 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get rid of him because this is just the beginning!!! Next he will be checking your engine to see if you've left anywhere in your car...then he'll want to know where you are every second you are gone away from him, you won't be able to dress a certain way, your family gatherings will be less and less, he'll even want to move away so you won't be near any family or friends so he can have complete control over you...then he'll start hitting your kids and you, so you should leave him NOW before it gets that far!!
2006-08-24 00:41:47 · answer #5 · answered by Jenna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me like you do have a wife beater on your hands, take my advise get out of there while you can! My ex was controlling like that, he didn't let me talk to my family! My Lil girls weren't allowed to see their grandparents or great-grandparents. And he beat me while I was pregnant with my youngest. It all started with the little things first, and before I knew it I was pregnant getting my head thrown against the kitchen floor! He even would yell at my daughter (she isn't his, but he's been there since day 1) and tell her to shut up and when she would make a mess he would spank her. Her dad wasn't able to see or talk to her either. Please get out of there before its too late....you don't want to get beat in front of your kid do you?
2006-08-24 00:43:44 · answer #6 · answered by Dani 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can accommodate with him and can submit your desires and habits to his satisfaction, then please you will have to tolerate all these controls and complaints. If not, there will be bad atmosphere in your house and ultimately separation and divorce. I am muslim and in our society arranged marriages take place. In such marriage man sees the wife for the first time at his wedding night. She adjusts hereself and becomes a real wife. The couple lives very pleasantly and completely satisfied. In your society, I mean in western countries, the divorce is very common . every 5th woman is divorced. This is due to t he fact that their social change and other living factors make it impossible or rather difficult to transform their habits and please their husbads.
2006-08-24 00:43:26 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave him before he becomes abusive. Soon, it will be nearly impossible for you to leave him. He will start hurting you. First emotionally(calling you fat and ugly) then he will physically abuse you. He will make you feel worthless, so in a way, you won't wanna leave him. You will feel that he is the best you can get. Just leave him! hehe SO WHAT IF I'M OVERREACTING!?
2006-08-24 00:30:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would tell him to grow the hell up..... Live life happy not worry with all the little things....maybe show him something else he could be doing that is FUN than to nick pick all the little things to ***** about....make sure its not a work issue.....It could be stress related but if not, Tell him to grow up....this is life we are dealing with.
2006-08-24 00:38:20 · answer #9 · answered by seadew22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Baby get out while you can because that's how it starts out,then the violence starts.Someone that is that controlling feds off the power that they get from their mates and it usually ALWAYS ends up with someone getting hurt badly or DEATH!!!!!Get your baby and yourself out of that bad environment.You don't want your daughter to grow up knowing that kind of hate and violence.
2006-08-24 00:39:50 · answer #10 · answered by Nyyaunna 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋