Is dad making her stay his baby? She is 12 wearing make-up, and the monthly thing but insists that dad puts her to bed with a book and a time to chat and hugs before lights out and don't let the bed bugs bite.
2006-08-23 17:27:33 · 17 answers · asked by MotherNature 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
when dad us away she won't go to sleep till wee hours. Even if i try my best to comfort and reassure.
if we come home from a late evening and grandmom is here, she insists on staying up till we get home. maybe because i was different and feel strange because she is developed. Yes, I agree with the nice dad thing and i hope she marries a sweetie like i did. i am just worried about her maturity issues. when she is with her mom - they sleep together because she is so scared all the time.
2006-08-23 17:57:57 · update #1
A 12-year-old is still a child. If the father and daughter truly love each other as a parent and child love each other they can continue to do it as long as both are comfortable with it.
It sounds loving, nurturing and charming to me.
There is no reason to rush growing up. My gosh, it happens soon enough as it is. If this girl can still come to her dad with her problems over the next few years she is far less likely to get into trouble than one who is isolated from her parents.
It's unusual, but I don't see it as unhealthy.
2006-08-23 17:39:19 · answer #1 · answered by Warren D 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wish all daughters would be that close to their dads. There is nothing inappropriate in what the dad is doing as that is the bonding of a very close and loving relationship between a dad and a daughter. Isn't it great that she wants to spend time with her dad with a book rather than shunning the parents out of her life?
If a dad and a daughter has a very close relationship you must realize she will always be daddy's little girl. :) That's a precious gift in this day and age where kids don't get along with parents and parents that are not there for their kids.
Eventually she will grow out of the little baby stuff, but hopefully will always have a close and loving relationship with her dad.
If you get a chance listen to a song called "Butterfly Kisses" by Bob Carlisle. It's such a sweet song of a dad reminiscing about his grown daughter on her wedding day.
2006-08-23 17:37:57 · answer #2 · answered by WhoMe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dadd should not put his daughter to bed,even at the age of 7 years. The 12 years of age is not good for a girl to sleep with his dad . The age is very sensitive and at this age sex urge comes up. It is therefore desired that the age of 12 years is not adviseable.
2006-08-23 17:54:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WOW! It brings a tear to my eye.........................I hope this isn't the mom asking the question.
However, you should be glad that dad is still finding the time to do it. Not to mention the bond that they have create, that same bond that so many of our young teens today are missing. Having a father around is one thing, having a father involved is another.
Do yourself a favor and leave it alone, they will no when it is time to stop..................... But hopefully they won't ever stop!
2006-08-23 17:44:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's rather hassle-free in little ones. What i'd do is make her be completely self sustaining. If she trashes her room or throws towels on the floor or is going to college a large number, then she will have the capacity to would desire to learn the aggravating way. If she is embarrassed while her chum comes over and her room is a pig sty, tell her that it is not your project.
2016-12-17 16:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's too old unless is starts getting inappropriate. My dad used to snuggle me while we watched TV when I was young until I reached my teens. It was totally innocent and made me feel special and loved. I firmly believe that a girl derives her identity from her father and his attention. If a girl does not receive enough attention from her father, she will be missing an important piece of herself and seek it from the attention of other things...mainly other men/guys. This is unhealthy and causes long-term pain for her. Think of your relationship with you father--whether good or bad, you carry memories and emotions with you to this day.
I say let them have their special time together. This may be something she eventually encourages her future husband to do with your future grandchildren.
Good luck!!!
2006-08-23 17:35:09 · answer #6 · answered by teacher 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anything is wrong with that. If she likes it, why take away something that's bonding that she and her father call their own? She'll decide when it is not longer "needed." As for "making her stay a baby," she is. My daughter is 14 and she's still a baby.
2006-08-23 17:32:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about switching to a hug good night from downstairs or outside of her room? She needs (and maybe he needs?) to learn that you can wish someone a good night without having to go through some routine that involves a huge detachment.
2006-08-23 17:34:03 · answer #8 · answered by it's me! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think 12 is too old. 13 to 16 is where I would begin to draw the line.
2006-08-23 17:29:20 · answer #9 · answered by Brian 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are never to old enjoy now cause one day you will wish you could do it all over
2006-08-23 17:56:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋