I have no children...?

Question

I used to really like kids, but I dont understand why in the past 10 years or so, people dont decipline their kids. Any time I go to a store there are kids throwing tantrums, running around like maniacs and talking back to their parents. Are parents just giving up? When I was little I didnt DARE do the things that I see kids do in public...and the parents seem oblivious. Some parents just let their kids run wild. Why is this happening latley? Are kids running parents? This makes me really afraid to have kids.

Answer 1

You are soooo right. Every time I go anywhere some little brat is raising holy hell and the parents just act like..."oh isn't little Tyson cute, everybody enjoy my little precious". I'm sure you'll get tons of answers from parents saying their kids are wonderful and you're wrong. But you are 100% right. Parents......shut your kids up!

Answer 2

Times have changed so much since I was a kid. It used to be if a kid acted up, mom/dad took care if it right then no threats or questions asked. But nowadays if you even dare look at your child in the wrong "tone" then somebody is standing right there waiting to call the police on you. I'm not saying you should BEAT your kids by any means, lol. But people have become too lienent these days. We've gotten lazy, and we allow others to tell us how we should raise our children.
Granted kids are going to go through phases, even if you dont' remember it I'm sure you had your moments. But you are right its completely out of control. I blame it on several factors. A lot of single parent homes, where moms/dads are overworked and don't have time to deal with it, or they feel guilty so they don't discipline. Both parents working so much to try to make ends meet they again feel guilty or are too tired. Too much technology, we give our kids every little gadget that comes their way. Its gone from Bicyles to motorized scooters. Hell kids dont' even have to work a scooter anymore.
You can't let that deter you from having children. Your thoughts will change when they are your kids as opposed to the brat throwing a fit in walmart. But its good that you are aware of it, so maybe you can watchout for those types of behaviors of the other parents and not make the same mistakes. If nothing else maybe you can invent the first kiddie shock collar, I've been trying to get that one worked out for a while lol jk!

Answer 3

I don't know. It seems as people think others are more understanding, so they get lazy. I would be mortified if my kids acted like that. A lot of parents also believe that if they discipline their child, they can get into trouble for child abuse. Other parents, say they don't want their kid raised the way they were. Now, I understand that if they had the sh*t beat out of them for no reason. But a smack on the butt IS NOT child abuse. If it is, the cops will be here for me any time now.

I have a 6 year old, as well as a 3 month old. When my oldest son was younger, and had those "fits" that so many kids do, he got into trouble. First, it was standing in the corner. Strike 2, a toy or something he liked was taken away. Strike 3, he got a spanking(or a whoopin', as people say in this area). Not to toot my own horn, but he is one of the most well behaved kids you could ever meet. He says Yes sir, Yes ma'am, please, thank you and all those things you dream to hear your child say on their own.

Answer 4

That is a real easy answer! People now a days are butting in and telling parents what they can and can not do. Everyone has an opinion of how things get done but when it interferes with your life and a child is when it become a problem. People will take hold of your life, like "oh it is wrong to allow your child to watch that." or "don't talk to your child like that or I'll report you." So many people are involved today on what you can and can not do it is sad. Everyone wants to be a hero but most of the time it just hurts family's. I do think child services are important. Their are rules and the right thing to do, but where do we draw the line? Their is no line. We look for the schools to teach our kids about sex because we are to uncomfortable talking about sex to them because someone will say something about that. Or when you say reprimanding things, people on the outside looking in get the wrong idea. They have no idea how it is when they are home. So this is where misinterpreting comes into play. When do you get to have your own life and your own children. Yes, back in the day children behaved better. We didn't have everyone telling us what to do, but again their was allot more abuse, and sexual misconduct. So when and where will society draw the line!

Answer 5

well I have a 2 year-old, and I used to say the same thing. But now that there are so many laws about child abuse. I think so parents are scared to discipline their kids in public. cause maybe someone might report them. I know I am. when my son acts up in a store and any where in public I just grab is arm and we go home. and there I take care of the problem. it's just kind of hard and you really won't know whats it's like till you have kids of your own. but I think that a lot of parents let there kid act that way which is such a shame.

Answer 6

I think it has alot to do on how the parent was raised. If there was no respect taught growing up, then today's parents don't make their kids mind or respect them.
Look at today compared to when we was growing up. There was cable, but nowhere near how much there is today. Kids spend more time indoors, playing games and watching TV, which I believe has an effect on a child's' developing mind. There's not as much person to person contact anymore.
I know with my own kids. My daughter is polite and well mannered. My son, well, I have to MAKE him listen. And it's no easy task. He knows 'the look', but there are times he absolutely refuses to do what I tell him too. Then I have to really get on to him, which draws attention to us. Some people look and whisper among themselves, and some looks on like they completely understand. It makes a parent feel mean by disciplining their kids in public. But it's necessary to make them mind. Maybe embarrassing the child will make them think twice before acting in public again.

Answer 7

I feel the same way honey. Kids these days are really rude and selfish. I meant teenagers! But little ones, Yes totally. It seems the parents don't care whatsoever. If I ever threw a fit in a store, I would be taken outside. Times have changed from way back then too.

Answer 8

I think that a lot of parents are afraid to discipline their children, especially in public, because too many people will view it as abuse. (bunch of crap) I totally agree with you. When I was growing up, my parents spanked me, not all the time, but it was one of those things that I knew I would get if I didn't behave! The threat of a spanking was worse than the actual thing!

Anyway, don't let what other people don't do with their kids scare you from what you know you should do! :) you sound like you would be a good parent!

Answer 9

People don't want to spank their kids anymore. They come up with these lame excuses why they shouldn't do it, like "if you spank a child then it teaches them that they can hit people if they don't get their way",and in the meantime, their kids are walking all over them and running the circus they call a family. If that's what spanking teaches, then the Bible wouldn't have said to do it. Trust me, I have felt like taking many a bratty kid to the bathroom for a whoopin while I was in a store. I think to myself, "who's the adult here??" Anyway, don't rob yourself of the joy of having children by looking at bad behavior. Just decide that you are going to do things differently. It's not the child's fault they are like that, it's the parent's. Children aren't born knowing right from wrong, they have to be taught, and when a parent doesn't correct bad behavior the way God intended, then the child will become a Hellion.

Proverbs 22:15 - "Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him."

Proverbs 29:15 & 17 - " The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame. Correct thy son and he shall give thee rest; yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul."

Proverbs 20:30 - "The blueness of a wound cleanseth away evil: so do stripes the inward parts of the belly."

Answer 10

I was just having this same discussion tonight with a friend. I think children are exposed to many more things than when I was a child. There are more single parents now and it's hard to pull the weight of being a dad and mom both. When the support of having a close family isn't there it falls on the child. They act out for attention. Parents try to be friends and not parents in fear of losing they child as they reach their teenage years. Parents just need to set rules/boundries and stick to it.