I've been dating this guy for a few months and have known him for a year. We haven't had the bf/gf talk, but I've gotten to go to his church (which I'm now regularly attending), met some of his friends (who I get along really well with), and his parents (who seem to like me.) He's met my mom, but not my dad. I really like this guy, and I'd even say that I love him (not the shallow type of love that won't last but the 'I do' type.) My problem is he's very busy and stressed as he tries to balance grad school, all the work he does at church and his job so he can make ends meet for his school tuition. I only get to see him Sunday but I'm afraid to try to do something any other time because it'll eat up the few moments of alone time he has. He's the shy type, so I know how vital alone time is for him for coping with stress and getting energy back. I'd love to do something to cheer him up but I can't think of anything. Guys, if you were in his shoes, what could I do to help the most?
2006-08-23 17:09:04 · 14 answers · asked by V 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Bugs has the right idea. Drop by his work with his favorite soda, send flowers, leave a love note on his windshield for him to find. Do what you can to let him know you are always on your mind. Relationships take effort from both people. I am dating a nurse with 4 kids. We don't have much time together either. E-mails, quick phone calls and McDonald's with the kids {6 with my 2} are just a few ways we get together. And that sharing of time is the best way to cheer us both up. Good luck and remember that you deserve to have him share his time with you as well.
2006-08-23 17:23:14 · answer #1 · answered by David C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody has to eat so suggest meeting him for lunch or dinner somewhere close to his next location. If he is going from school to church than find something along that route. It will be just the two of you and you can have a few moments to yourselves. I hope this helps you. The love Doc
2006-08-24 00:17:12 · answer #2 · answered by luckyman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a male, if you want an honest answer....have sex with him. If neither of you are ready for that then invite him over for a good home cooked dinner, or suggest that the two of you go out to dinner. Oh, and one more thing.....Have that bf/gf talk. If he is a bit shy, he may be afraid to go there for fear of rejection.
And if he isnt ready for the two of you to be a couple, he will tell you and at least you will know to keep things casual.
2006-08-24 00:18:09 · answer #3 · answered by opjames 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't normally answer questions like this. But there was something about what you said.
Relationships between a man and a woman are based on trust, commitment, and support. And many more issues.
It sounds like to me this guy is dedicated to what he does and chooses to do.
May I suggest this. Tell him how you feel about him. Don't be afraid to let him know how you feel. If he has similar feelings he will let you know.
But always know this. You can never force anyone to do what they do not want to do.
Best wishes and have fun but be safe.
2006-08-24 00:18:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he really loves your definitely he would like to spend that" alone" time with you. you can relax his mind by being with him. may be because he is shy type he is not able to tell u this, he also must be waiting for that Sunday when he can be with you. why don't you just find out his likes & dislikes , if i were in your shoes, i would have asked him whether he minds me spending time with him which i love to do. he will get the cue from that . if he is shy you have to be little bold.
2006-08-24 00:17:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he lives to wrk. Show him to stop and smell the roses while they still have a scent. Become one of his priorities that he'll want to make time for. As a man I enjoy my work and my woman. She has a way to make me realize that all work and no play really (for lack of a better word) sucks.
2006-08-24 00:16:25 · answer #6 · answered by Rich 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my humble opinion, I suggest that you LEARN his schedule (where he is at what time and his "free times") so well that his & your schedules can "meld." - This, in and of itself will eventually show that you have an interest in his situation(s).
Once you learn his schedule, BE VERY CAREFUL not to seem "overeager" to BE WITH HIM continually. - Remember that he has a 'hectic' life and thereby has less TIME to invest into (your) RELATIONSHIP.
Simply try to stay in the limelight and offer your empathetic ear and hand for support..... especially during these "trying" times. When (if) you two DO actually "Find" your connection, you will have this time in your relationship to laugh at and share with your family & friends.
2006-08-24 00:29:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"There is a strong woman behind every man's seccseses." I do not know . I realy do no't know whether I quoted it correctly . I don't care if I don't. As far as this 'shy' guy is concerned, he is working today to be a man of tomorrow ; he needs your full love and attention . Be there for him.
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2006-08-24 00:43:15 · answer #8 · answered by Optimist-U&I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if a girl went to my church, met both my folks and my friends, i would assume that she liked me. if he loves you, he is never too busy for you, but it sounds like he wants to stay single. i party a lot, but my friend is a God man himself, and he says he is waiting for the right woman to come along. it sounds like he is still waiting, so let him know how you feel. you regret more the things you didnt do than the things you did.
2006-08-24 00:13:15 · answer #9 · answered by skatesa207 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u shoudl really ask him when he has some off time for 1 day and make a romantic dinner for him or go out to the movies then after that give him a nice good screwing.....
2006-08-24 00:12:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋