Based on personal experience I think it's bull. All parents say they love their children equally but the truth is... they don't! They always have their favourites.
If you agree with this please tell me which one of your parents do you think loves you more?
2006-08-23 17:01:34 · 11 answers · asked by Coco 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No, they always have a favorite.
My mom's is my little brother and my dad's is my older sister.
I don't think any of both love me more.
2006-08-23 17:07:58 · answer #1 · answered by Ms. Pelled Babby Schmidt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It IS bull. I think SOME parents love their kids equally, but most don't, and that's not necessarily because they're bad parents, either. An article in Time Magazine (linked below) explained that there was an evolutionary benefit to child favoritism. Basically, the parent would favor the child who was most worthy of the limited resources parents would have back in very early times. This would be the one who seemed more likely to succeed in the future, and was incidentally often the oldest. Favoring one child would help the parents invest their resources and care into a child that could help them out as they got older. This early evolution partly accounts for the favoritism parents have today.
Even without knowing the reasons for it, it's pretty clear that some kids get favored over others in families. That's just the way it is. But I wouldn't let it get you down. I personally believe my mom loves my sister more than me (and I figured out the survival-based subconcious reasons for this based on the above theory) but it doesn't bother me much. The point is, she loves both of us. And love is infinite, so if a parent loves their kids, that one little bit more love for one sibling shouldn't disrupt the great relationship you can have with your parents.
2006-08-24 00:14:51 · answer #2 · answered by Blondie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that parents try to love and show love equally among all the children in their family, i really do. But you do have those people out there that do not care for their children at all, and some favor one more than the other. Sometimes a child may bond with one parent differently than to the other....its neither parents fault sometimes, the child may just spend more time with one...or something like that. I was more likely to goto my mom for anything, we were around each other more and I just went to her for everything.
2006-08-24 00:09:37 · answer #3 · answered by bug bite 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you in for some families. My mother very obviously favors her two son's and treats them very differently than her four daughters. And denies it all the way!
I have twin daughters and I worked very hard to give the one who needed attention the appropriate attention. I don't go crazy trying to make things equal in gifts and things like that, but I try to keep it pretty much even. I think they each think the other is my favorite, but in truth, I really love them both the same, but just in different ways cause they are different people.
However I have always made it a practice to tell them that I loved the dog best.
2006-08-24 00:09:09 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably in many cases, the love is equal. But for as many relationships as there are where it is equal, there's as many that are not. I know that, me personally, my dad favored me more since our personalities match more closely than does his with my brother; whereas my bro & mom are more alike than she and I are in ways. Overall, I think as we've gotten older there has become more equality, although I didn't always have that feeling when we were younger and growing up.
2006-08-24 00:10:29 · answer #5 · answered by Bunny Lebowski 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my grandma raised me and i have always been her favorite and now that i have a son he is her favorite. i think it is because i was the youngest kid in the house. but as far as i go i have a son and a step daughter and i can honestly say that my love for them is different. i love my son because he is my baby and he is very needy, he's 4. and my stepdaughter is very independent she does not like to have everything done for her. she likes to try to and do things on her own. she was taught since she was small by her mother to take care of herself. i love both of my kids and i may love them differently but that doesn't mean that if something was wrong i would do more for one than i would do for the other.
2006-08-24 00:17:51 · answer #6 · answered by RocKsTaR 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have four children and three step children and i personaly think that we all say we love our children the same because we do it is just in different ways. i cant really explian it to u, i guess u just to be a parent to understand. ur parents do love u. and if u fill like they dont love u, u should be talking to them instead of being on yahoo Q&A, right!!
2006-08-24 00:17:36 · answer #7 · answered by "big dogs wife" 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husbands mom has three kids and she adoptied her grandson.She actualy recorded this on tape,she said that she loved her youngest son more than all of her kids. my husband is her oldest son. He found the tape and listened to it he was 11. His parents are divorced, his dad has put guns in his kids face. But my husband learned from all of that and he is the best father ever.
2006-08-24 00:08:16 · answer #8 · answered by hotmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a parent...I believe you love your children equally...you'd give your life for any of them, but some of your children make it easier to LIKE them.
As a daughter, my mother favors me...My father tries to pretend I don't exist, so his current wife won't hate him.
2006-08-24 00:14:19 · answer #9 · answered by midge 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom loved me more then my dad did.BUT,my mom and grandma love my older brother more then me.they love me more then they love my older sister.I have lived with knowing this almost my whole life,so I try really hard not to show any favoritism between my two boys.Unfortunately,my brother also has two boys and my mom and grandma both favor his kids over mine. Bidget
2006-08-24 00:26:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋