We work together and we had an awesome time this weekend with our coworkers. She flirted with me, we slow danced, and she kissed me. I'm pretty shy and reserved and she seems pretty agressive. I get a long well with kids and don't have a problem with our age difference, but I've never dated anyone older than me, let alone 10 years older. Does this have long-term relationship potential or will our age difference/her kids be a problem? (Oldest is 11 years old)
2006-08-23 16:45:00 · 14 answers · asked by Phoenix 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you had a weekend fling but you should let it end there. The age difference could be overcome.....the kids may not be a problem, but both together spell disaster.
You're still young and unencumbered.....go live your life and have fun.
2006-08-23 16:49:44 · answer #1 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm 8 yrs older then my husband, i had 3 kids when we met, he was 23 i think, and my kids are grown and we have grandkids now, we are still together!! It depends on the relationship you have!! Not your age!! Also, i have heard though that 10 yrs apart is difficult because after 1o yrs there is a bigger age gap, like what you will have in common later on, like music she grew up listening too, you may have never heard it before, just different things that could cause problems later on. But i know that younger girls do it all the time, they marry or date men 10 yrs or more older then them!! So why can't guys do the same!! Some of the men have kids their wifes or girlfreinds age !!! My neice ways 14 when she married a man alot older then her, and that was yrs ago and they are still together!!! You are both adults and so why would it matter!!!!
2006-08-23 23:55:11 · answer #2 · answered by sports_runner_racing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want some of your own children, this lady will most likely not be receptive to that idea. You didn't mention how many she has already.
It would be wise to date awhile and when comfortable talk about it. Maybe you don't want more kids, that would fit real well here.
Guard your feelings, you might be nothing more than a boy-toy to her. Maybe you like that idea.
But before you get too involved think what it will be like if you two don't work out and then you have to work around her. If you have an ugly breakup, it could be unpleasant to work there. If you can part as friends, no problem.
Normally, I advise people not to get involved romantically with anyone from the workplace but it seems you already are.
2006-08-23 23:57:15 · answer #3 · answered by Harley Charley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sound like she is in lust and thats normal. Women are no different then men when they are on prowl (for lacking a better word) . This is a new experience for you so take it slow as you would any beginning relationship and enjoy yourself. It might lead to something or it just might be a short lived good time. Either way your both over 21. So at this point don't worry about age. Believe me if it does goes anywhere your going to get a lot of advice and most you won't ask for.
2006-08-24 00:21:58 · answer #4 · answered by wild4gypsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's disgusting. Your just a kid yourself. Men mature slower than women do. She's maturally already 5 years ahead of you. That would put her at what 38 years old. And you at 23. So that's 15 years ahead. You really don't even know what you want out of life until you're at least over 25 years of age. I could probably bet my life on it, that in 1 year you will not be with this girl. Why should a good guy like you take on this responsibility. There's men out there that have shot their wad that she could find that have more experience at raising kids, and your young ready to live it up on the town, just starting out in life. If I was your parent, I would be having a cow just about now.
2006-08-23 23:55:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My guess is that it does not have long term relationship potential. Older women sometimes are quite attracted to younger guys for various reasons. One reason is the knowledge that she can actually GET a younger guy. Don't be fooled. The kids are old enough to make life difficult for you if they don't like you. Besides that, your personaities are not a good match.
2006-08-23 23:49:24 · answer #6 · answered by *Larry P. he's for me* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want it to be a problem it won't be one.
But being that you are so young..lets say you do get serious...does she want anymore kids????Do you want to have kids of your own???
Are you ready to be a step dad if things progess that far? It is really hard to be a step parent...And is her ex in the picture???If he is how much involvement does he have???
Think about what you want...you don't want to get her kids liking you then you whimp out and disappear and her kids get hurt....
I have been a single parent trying to date...it's no fun...most men don't want someone elses kids to raise.
Good luck to you in what ever you choose...
2006-08-23 23:54:06 · answer #7 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could work if you really put your all in it. If you like kids, that is a big plus for her. You will never know until you try it. Good luck.
2006-08-23 23:56:24 · answer #8 · answered by tsij 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could work, but disciplining the kids could be a problem since you aren't the father.
2006-08-23 23:47:15 · answer #9 · answered by sandstorm222 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you and she want it to work! I will pray for you! KIDS can be a issue! Dint try to be their dad! Or correct them yet! Wait ! Work very hard to have a relationship with them first!
2006-08-23 23:47:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋