they're constantly telling me i'm rude and that i won't get very far in life if i continue to act that way, i can't even say something without them critically judging me,i've grown hostile to the situations that they put me in so of course i'm going to be upset they're constantly yelling at me i just can't take it anymore, i'm way too old to run away. should i just leave? Move Out of the house entirely.
i really don't know what to do,
anyone got any good advice?
2006-08-23 16:44:02 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
At the moment i don't have a job, i clean the whole house everywhere from the kitchen to the laundry room we have four bedrooms including my own which i clean almost everyday. I tend to the gardens. I mow the front and backyard lawns i take care of the plants i'm even use a edger, i do more than my fair share believe me i don't just sit around all day and do nothing because i know that i have to earn my keep somehow :)
2006-08-23 17:42:41 · update #1
Maybe you should try looking at the situation positively. They are your family so they care about you and if they are telling you you won't get far in life maybe they really mean it and you need to change your "rudeness" (however they think you are being rude). I know this is hard to hear but sometimes we need to listen to the opinions of those close to us because they are the ones who know what we do wrong.
Try not to look at the situations as hostile, relax, brush off the negativity they throw at you and look at the situation objectively to see if they have anything true to say.
If you still think they are being unnecessarily hostile, then you should probably remove yourself from the situation and get your own place.
2006-08-23 16:52:40 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If they can't talk to you without yelling at you, there's nothing you can do to make the situation any better! Do you have close friends or a trusted family member you could stay with while you found a job and a place to live? I would do that and get your things/move out of your parents house. That apparently isn't a good situation there. I hope this helped. Good luck to you!!
2006-08-23 23:50:42 · answer #2 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop for a bit and really think about the things you say and how you say them. Ask yourself if there is anything to your family's complaint, are you being rude? If this is a new problem, then you need to find out what started it, and try to correct it.
If you are old enough to move out on your own, you can do that, but your problem won't go away. If you are old enough to do that, then you are old enough to sit down with your folks and have a mature discussion.
If you can't do that, then yes, move out and be responsible for yourself.
2006-08-23 23:48:58 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to advise you when I don't know your age. If you are under the age of 18, there's not much you can do, other than do what you need to in order to prepare for turning eighteen. If you are over the age of eighteen, I highly suggest you do move out. When someone is abusive to you, either physically or emotionally it is unhealthy for you to stay in that environment, your self-esteem is sure to suffer. Your family may have other issues with you, and not hate you. My guess is, once you move out of their home, and do some growing up yourself and work on your own issues, we all have them, you may once again have a better relationship with your family. Try to work on your relationship with them after you move out, it can be lonely without a family.Don't get me wrong, not all families are kind,loving and supportive. You may be better off without them. If you are unable to make amends, well at least you can say you tried. Surround yourself with people that can offer you the kind of love and support that you deserve.
2006-08-24 00:05:32 · answer #4 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are way too old to run away, then you are probably old enough to get a job and a place of your own.
Why do they think you are rude - what are YOU doing to provoke that response? Are you leaving your stuff around, playing music really loud (it is THEIR house, too), telling them what you will or will not do around the house, being disrespectful, not helping out with chores, etc., etc. What is YOUR part in it?
2006-08-23 23:48:55 · answer #5 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My family is judgemental and critical too. I now live alone with my kids an NEVER see them. I don't take their calls, don't visit, or listen to a word they say. They will not belittle me again because I won't let it happen. I go to school,work, coach and have tons of friends. I live life well. Too bad for them.
2006-08-23 23:51:17 · answer #6 · answered by JULIE J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No good can come from moving out to avoid confrontation. Trust me, my sister tried the same thing. Confront your family and tell them how you feel without yelling or crying. Tell them the truth, and make them understand. If they act the same way then tell them you'd think it be better if you moved out. Just make sure to tell them where you live and your phone number (I know it sounds stupid, but my sister didn't do this). If you get roommates, introduce them, but make sure to try to work out your problems first.
Good luck and be brave!!!
2006-08-23 23:50:56 · answer #7 · answered by newsblews361 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? if you are 18 or older move on and get your own life. move out. live your life the way you want to.
2006-08-23 23:58:56 · answer #8 · answered by countryrose24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are under 18, learn to behave. If you are over 18, move out.
2006-08-23 23:47:38 · answer #9 · answered by spirited 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are 18, move out, if you are under 18, stay silent and see what happens.
2006-08-23 23:50:53 · answer #10 · answered by Andrea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋