we were married for 34 yrs, when my husband decided to leave me for my girlfriend. They were in complete denial of their affair and claimed that I was crazy for even thinking such a thing and wanted nothing to do with me thereafter. I had plenty of proof besides the fact that he moved into her home with her. Within a year I had divorced him and within that year, I started dating an old school friend of mine that brought my self esteem back and showed me how wonderful life can be. I still loved my husband but the anger I had towards the two of them helped me through it. Bob my new boyfriend was there for me and he went through a divorce also.
I eventually moved in with Bob and enjoyed our life together. We did have some issues. He was very jeolous and had problems periodically with depression.
My husband now has tried getting back with me. He is doing everything in his power to make things right. Now I can't choose between them and I am very stressed out about it.
2006-08-23 16:39:33 · 5 answers · asked by ALBERTINE E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You were married for 34 years and then divorced. It must have been very painful and devastating to you. And your ex-hubby cheated you. You should'nt give a damn' about whatever he is doing to get you back. Your present b/f does'nt seem that stable and secured. Don't rush into any commited relationship with him.
Take your time to decide. Don't end up with another painful episode in your life.
2006-08-23 16:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Leopard can't change his spots. Your husband is trying to return to you because his other relationship has dried up and you're "safe". As soon as he finds the next fence with greener grass on the other side, he'll be gone again. If you can work out your issues with Bob, keep him.
2006-08-23 16:47:53 · answer #2 · answered by eyeque195 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out of Bob's house and live by yourself for a few months. You're not a yo-yo going between 2 men.....one who disrespected you and one who has personality issues.
You sound desperate not to be alone, there are things worse than being alone.
2006-08-23 16:46:19 · answer #3 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAYBE YOU NEED TO GET YOUR OWN PLACE. YOU ALSO NEED TO DATE BOTH OF THEM. DON'T MAKE A COMMITTMENT TO EITHER ONE. THEY WILL TREAT YOU BETTER IF THEY KNOW THEY HAVE COMPETITION.
IT IS BETTER TO BE ALONE THAN TO WISH YOU WERE. YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WHO CAN MAKE YOU HAPPY. NO ONE ELSE WANTS THAT KIND OF RESPONSIBILITY, ANYWAY. IT'S YOUR JOB.
MASTER A FEW SKILLS AND TALENTS. IT WILL BUILD YOU UP, MAKE YOU MORE INTERESTING, AND GIVE YOU SOMETHING YOU CAN SHARE WITH OTHERS.
SIGN UP FOR SALSA DANCING CLASSES. TAKE TURNS WITH EACH GUY AS YOUR PARTNER, ALTERNATING NIGHTS. IF DANCING IS NOT YOUR THING, THEN SOMETHING ELSE WHERE SUCCESS DEPENDS ON COOPERATION AND JOINT EFFORT.
THE WAY FOR YOUR EX HUSBAND TO MAKE THINGS RIGHT IS TO RESPECT YOU AND GIVE YOU YOUR SPACE AND INDEPENDENCE. SAME THING WITH JEALOUS GUY. AND YOUR EX HUSBAND SHOULD GIVE YOU ALIMONY AND MAKE SURE YOU ARE NOT HURTING FINANCIALLY. SO SHOULD JEALOUS GUY. REMEMBER YOU OWE NOTHING TO EITHER ONE OF THEM, AND DON'T LET THEM MAKE YOU THINK THAT YOU DO.
HAVE FUN AND TAKE CARE!
2006-08-23 16:51:06 · answer #4 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will always have resentments for you husband for what he did to you. If your old friend makes you feel good stick with him.
2006-08-23 16:44:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋