To Dump Her Or Not To Dump Her?

Question

So here's the story, it's kind of long but worth a read. I've been dating my current gf for about 6 mo, things were seemingly going well. Last weekend she was gone overnight and I was watching her hosue for her. I was using her computer when I "accidentaly" signed into her yahoo messenger account. I was looking mostly because I knew she had archived all of our conversations from when we first met and I was curious to read them. However, it also appears that she archived several other conversations with other people. It appears that she had still been chatting with a guy whom she had a brief relationship. The content of the chats was very graphic, and I was led to believe there were also graphic phone conversations, all while she is dating me. I confront her, and she manages to get me to give her another chance. Anyway I findout today she has sent him an email, and asked him to call her tomorrow. She claims it is so she can tell him not to call any more. Dump her or talk to her?

More details... I found out "accidentally" that she was telling this guy to call again. I seem to be having these accidents. She claimed she knew I was looking at her messenger. I was, but she doesn't realize I can't see any convo's she's been having so she fessed up that he messaged her twice. About the guy; she told me about him when we first started going out. She said that they chatted online, and met a few times when he was in Chicago on business. She told me that he still calls, and they still talk however she only said that they talk as friends. So I knew that going in, but I obviously had no idea about the sexual nature of their ongoing conversations. The guy lives in Ireland so it's not like she can physically be with him (at least not with any regularity), but the explicit nature of the conversations bothers me. She claimed she was going to stop contacting him, but then I find the previously mentioned email. I'm just at a loss for what to do.

Answer 1

What are you willing to put up with?
Do you consider cyberflirtation cheating?
What standards does she hold you to? Does she get bent out of shape if you have close platonic friends?

Ask to be there when he calls her and make her tell the Irishman in front of you that they are through. If she's unwilling to do that, through the baggage out.

Answer 2

Ok, here's sthe deal. My brother went over seas for a year with the army. He was reciently married and found out that his wife would chat with other guys sexually and even send them pics of her boobs. He confronted her about it and she said she would stop but never did wich led to a divorce. So I think that if you gave her another chance and she still did it, you should get the hell out while you still can

Answer 3

its only talking on messenger man, its not like shes asking them to come over and *****. But if she is talking like she wants the guy then confront her and see what she says.

Answer 4

This is a no brainer...she obviously is using you. You were wrong in not respecting her privacy and reading her mail, but she admitted everything to you and then lied to you. DUMP!!!!

Answer 5

Dump her!! Odds are that if she is feeding you lines this early in your relationship she will never be fully honest

Answer 6

don't stay with someone who tells you only what you want to hear, you may as well be dating yourself, at least there is no deception.

Answer 7

If this is something that bothers you then you should end the relationship.

Answer 8

long story but easy anwser, dump her!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

DUMP her!

Answer 10

DUMP HER!