My boyfriend & I have been together for 2 years now. I want 2 settle down but he says he's not ready. He's 28 and I'm 24. Well about 4 months ago I gave up on it ever happening & told him that if he couldn't give me some idea where the relationship was going then we needed 2 end it. Well, we ended it & after about a month we started talking again. At first that was all it was then he started coming 2 see me again. He told me that he wanted 2 date other women but no one compared 2 me & he wanted 2 be with me cause he loves me & theres just something about me that he really misses. Well we decided 2 try things again & then sit down after a month & discuss how we both felt & see if things were working & if we were happy. Well it's been 6 weeks since we got back together & something always comes up & we never get a chance 2 have the "talk". Well I just found out today that I'm 4 1/2 weeks pregnant. Should we have the talk first or should I tell him bout the baby first.
2006-08-23 16:36:34 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You should tell him right away, as soon or later he is going to find out. It may be a shock and you never know how he might respond. But obviously he cares enough about you to have come back to you, so hopefully that's worth something.
Also it's not like you did something wrong to hide it from him. This was something you guys did together.
Furthermore as a guy, I would be very upset if my significant other did not tell me about something as important as this.
2006-08-23 16:45:32 · answer #1 · answered by WhoMe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him during the talk. Let him know how you feel about him and so on then tell him that you're pregnant. He needs to know as soon as possible. The sooner the better. He may need to take a while to think things through and to come around because I know it will come as a shocker to him. But if he loves you he will be back. Obviously you two really care about each other to make it through what you two have already been through so I think it will go ok. Just be patient with him. The two of you will have to work together through this. Good luck!
2006-08-23 23:56:35 · answer #2 · answered by Ange 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm in the same situation, just like you we never had time to talk but he came around every now and then and I ended up getting pregnant now don't get me wrong we are not together at all we just talk because I felt that was best for me and my baby, I told him that I am pregnant and he wanted to get back with me but thats not healthy because after that one night we haven't really talked like i wanted I felt like he just wanted to get back with me for the baby. If your guy is somewhat like that I think he will be happy to hear about the baby, but if thats the reason you both are goning to be together that not healthy for you and the baby because of the stress, so see what he wants to do first about you two being in a comitted relionship so you can see if he wants you for you or just because of the baby, then after you get your answer no matter what it is then you tell him about the baby, if it scares him off his no good abd you dont need that stress. TRUST ME.
2006-08-24 00:35:30 · answer #3 · answered by butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one of the biggest foundations in any relationship is trust,why not tell him with your talk,holding back this kind of information could be wrong on your part,if he is a real man,then he will love you and want the baby,if not,then do you really want a person like that bringing up you child.....believe me having a kid changes everything,it is tough,but being a guy with a child,i cant imagine life without my daughter..waiting will still give you the same results,and its about time for your doctor visits and if he wants to be part of all this he should go with you.....and if he gets scared or takes off,you can do it,but what ever happens make sure you know its his and let him know its his without a doubt,and he will be involved somehow........
2006-08-23 23:49:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him about the baby. He needs to know and you also need to know how he will handle it. This could be the push he needs to settle down, or it could be the last straw that sends him bolting. And his involvement or lack thereof may affect your plans with how to handle the pregnancy and the baby. Either way the sooner you tell him the better. You shouldn't have to be stressed out keeping this from him. He's an adult and needs to be accountable for this pregnancy just as you have to be. Good luck.
2006-08-23 23:45:31 · answer #5 · answered by ŧťŠ4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should sit down and talk with him tell him that you are pregnant and ask him if hes gunna be there or not and if not to leave you alone. If hes ready and yall split up then tell him that you want him to be there for your baby and thats it. If he decides to stay with you then make sure hes gunna be there. Dont let your child get close to him then him jet. You really need to talk about what yall are gunna do. You need to know whats gunna happen now, dont wait to late.
2006-08-23 23:46:21 · answer #6 · answered by hotbabygirl0202 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for some reason the way you explain the way he has done in the past I have a feeling when you "tell " him you wont need "the talk" so just cut to the chase and tell him ..no sense in waiting around to find out whats gonna happen
or if your curious as to how he "claims" to feel about you ..let him tell you how he is feeling about the relationship and then tell him and see if his story changes after he knows about the baby
2006-08-23 23:43:55 · answer #7 · answered by ptmamas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes two to tango. If he leaves, then he is not worth your time and you can sue him for child support and medical costs. (If he does not pay, put him in jail.)
If he is worth your time. He will drop all the other women and start being the man a 28 year old man should be.
2006-08-23 23:45:08 · answer #8 · answered by Froggbitz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby comes first. You are about to embark on a wonderful journy into motherhood & you need all the support you can get
2006-08-23 23:42:06 · answer #9 · answered by RickeTy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the decision has been made for both of you. the talk before he knows your pregnant is really irrelevant. the fact that your with child changes a lot of decisions that would be made. so just tell him and pray for the best.
2006-08-23 23:45:49 · answer #10 · answered by jerome_erin@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋