Can a man and woman be just friends if one is attracted to the other?
2006-08-23 16:34:47 · 17 answers · asked by sexy.cece 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No. The other person will always want more and will eventually get their feelings hurt.
2006-08-24 02:55:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure. The attraction could come back to bite you, but if the friendship is worth pursuing even without the possibility of romance, it is. Besides, some of the greatest friends are ones you only knew a little while. As long as attractive one doesn't take advantage and gives to the relationship as well, and the attracted one continues to live life and pursue other potential loves (rather than holding out for the attractive one), they could become great friends.
You can, for reasons such as the fact that you know you would be bad for each other decide not to get into a romantic relationship even if you are both attracted to each other, with a little will power and a good reason not to do it.
Why? Is one of you married, or is one of you 'just not attracted in that way'?
2006-08-23 23:55:40 · answer #2 · answered by wayfaroutthere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in similar circumstances and I think you have to take the risk of going for it. There is nothing worse that being so close, yet miles away from where you want to be. Plus, if you push the friends envelope too far it just makes it harder to take it too the next level. Furthermore, can you take watching him with be happy with someone else. As a friend you should want what is best for him, but when it is not you it is awfully damn hard to screw that smile on.
2006-08-23 23:41:25 · answer #3 · answered by dizzygrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so, although things can become frustrating. I have a friend from work who actually asked me to be his girlfriend, and although I'm not attracted to him and had to tell him no, we're still friends and get along just fine. But on the other hand, I had a friend in 7th grade who had a big crush on, and I'm sure it must have gotten annoying to him, because he was really mean to me and we never really spoke after that. He was a jerk anyway though.
2006-08-23 23:43:41 · answer #4 · answered by Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is hard not to let the person become an object of desire sometimes, but if you realize you are ruining a friendship by thinking about them in that way you can tell yourself to give it up and not poison the relationship. I have had to tell myself to renounce thoughts of attraction a few times when I am with guy friends, but I have been successful in controlling my thoughts and through them my desires.
2006-08-23 23:40:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on how attracted the other person is to the one who just wants to be just friends
2006-08-23 23:37:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well from my own experience I dont see it as possible. If one person has feelings and the other person doesnt, the person who has feelings may always be trying to pursue more than a friendship and they may just get hurt again and again when the feelings are not returned.
2006-08-23 23:36:42 · answer #7 · answered by andrea lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on which is more important to the person: having a great friend or being with them in another way...
2006-08-23 23:36:32 · answer #8 · answered by Phoenix 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for a while..then I would think that hormones and the attraction to one another would get the best of them, it's human nature
2006-08-23 23:36:38 · answer #9 · answered by hipergirl22 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, currently it isnt working for me...ok so ive liked this guy for a while now, we've been friends, he wanted to use me as friends with benefits i said no cuz im not like that...and now hesnot talkin to me...so i guess its possible as long as nothing gets in the way...good luck...
2006-08-23 23:40:40 · answer #10 · answered by Becky♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋