I just broke up with my ex a few days ago. I cheated on him for a day. My new bf isnt the reason, though. It was things like him not keeping intouch he's out of town. But the thing is, I keep thinking off & on about when things were good between us. We dated 2 yrs. It seems like soon as i'm thinking of 1 of the 2, the other pops in my head. Theyre different. I just met & started w/ me new bf and I've already been on the phone w/ him for 1 & 1/2. The longest I talked to my ex ws 23mins. But things were cool with us b4, just wasnt in deep romance stuff, like not kissing (in ne way) & not holding hands. I just met my bf now and we already made out a little (not nasty) & held hands. Should i compare? Should I think of my ex. Im still a friend of the family. Something else with my bf now is hes 5 yrs older. ( 20 & 25) Is that too far? My ex was only 9 mnths. See! I was just mentionin age & thought of him! What should I do? Is this normal? Im hearing pretty much the same but i wanna hear u.
2006-08-23 16:31:25 · 4 answers · asked by Artsy 1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Comparing one individual to another is like comparing an apple pie to a pizza. They're both a style of pie, yet nothing alike in taste or texture. It's also unfair to the guys to be compared to somebody else, since everyone has positive and negative traits. Thinking of your ex will probably be unavoidable at this stage, since the breakup is still new and fresh on your mind, and there's still that old saying "Familiarity Breeds Contempt".
Chances are this new guy is still exhibiting some of his best behavior, while you know enough about your former boyfriend to know the flaws. You won't know how deep your feelings are for the new guy until you've seen the good AND the bad side of him.
2006-08-23 16:37:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you want both of them. Everyone is different and shouldn't be compared to others.
2006-08-23 23:34:58 · answer #2 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u haven't get over him yet
2006-08-23 23:34:58 · answer #3 · answered by sar-mir 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are conflicted...why don't you take time to get to know yourself?
2006-08-23 23:35:12 · answer #4 · answered by cheryl w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋