When is the best time to have the birds and bees talk with your child?what age?And i have a son should i talk to him or his step dad who's close but not close to him?
2006-08-23 16:26:58 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
As the situation presents itself. Don't know how old your child is but the first thing you should be sure to do is use the correct names for body parts. You don't tell him his tummy is his bread-basket so don't use slang terms for his male appendage (don't know if the guidelines would let me use the correct term).
Go to the library and look for an appropriate book/video again depending on the age.
2006-08-23 16:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by pamspraises 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I only have a daughter and she started asking questions - such as "where do babies come from" when she was about 6 or 7 - maybe younger. I gave her bare, vague facts at that age - they don't need to know all the details that young, but then slowly built on that foundation.
I also gave her a great book from the American Girl collection called something like "All about Me". It was was great and opened the door for many conversations. I don't know if there are any books like that geared toward boys.
I would think that it would be easier for your son to talk to a man, depending on the man and how comfortable your son was and how comfortable the man was talking about it all. Many adults are not comfortable at all with those sorts of discussion.
2006-08-23 23:33:07 · answer #2 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had no choice but to tell my son at the age of 7 I had to he was learning it from school in a gross way. He is now 12 and still ask me questions. Just tell him it is a part of life and when 2 people love each other it is a beautiful thing.
2006-08-23 23:31:36 · answer #3 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have five boys and one girl. In fifth grade, they learn about it all in health class. School usually sends a notice home, so I know when it is, and that night I usually make it a point have the talk. It's not as bad as it seems, so don't put it off. Kids now a days know a heck of alot more than we think they do. I almost had a heart attack when I heard kids were having sex in the 6th grade. If you feel it's time, don't wait for the school notice or health class, get it done now. Lots of luck! And be prepared for alot of laughter.
2006-08-23 23:32:07 · answer #4 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should be talking about biology right when they start to read. Get books about all kinds of things. There are some good ones to go through with them about reproduction at different levels. Don't make it into some drastic thing. Just be straightforward and factual about it. If you wait until he's more than 9 or so, he's already learned more than you from school (aren't schools wonderful?).
2006-08-23 23:32:17 · answer #5 · answered by auntiegrav 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say as soon as the child is able to understand a clinical discussion, maybe 9 years old or so. By a clinical discussion I mean where you discuss the act in medical terms such as " and then the egg comes down the fallopian tube and the sperm...."
I think that if you keep it clinical, the child will not be embarrased. Do it yourself rather than stepdad.
2006-08-23 23:31:45 · answer #6 · answered by tangodancer 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well to be honest i have three boys 21,20,and 18 i really never had a heart to heart about it and either did their dad who has been out of my life for 7 yrs now.i think most of it they learn on their own i know that it sounds weird but its true im not sure how old your son is but if he is a little older he may know more than u think he does.my biggest thing with by boys was for them to always use a condom no matter what or who she is.and i also talked to them about dieses and not getting anyone pregnant so far so good. one of my boys was 18 one was 16 and the other i think is still a virgin so i think i did pretty good
2006-08-23 23:37:36 · answer #7 · answered by nvvlewis 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know about the birds and bees---But it is never to soon to tell them not to talk or go with strangers... Or you may not have to tell them about the birds and bees... ( someone else will)
2006-08-23 23:33:58 · answer #8 · answered by ole_lady_93 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I plan on talking to my children early. I don't want to have any regrets that I didn't tell them soon enough and assume naively that they aren't doing anything. I would say 11/12. I think whoever feels more comfortable talking to him about it should. Why not both of you give your point of view.
2006-08-23 23:33:59 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just had that talk with my son. He is 10 years just about to start the 5th grade. It went very well.
2006-08-23 23:51:05 · answer #10 · answered by Lions#1Fan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋