They always seem happy to talk or to see me, but they never initiate phone conversations or meetings. And, they always start out by asking why i haven't called/visited for so long. This has been going on since i moved out of their house 20+ years ago, so i guess i can't blame it on old age. Any advise?
2006-08-23 16:18:53 · 17 answers · asked by cancelcodeyellow 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Parents will always be parents and they always want me to call them. I Just watched this old movie "Stop Or My Mum Will Shoot." Quite hilarious but made me realize that parents are always concerned about us...
2006-08-23 16:38:44 · answer #1 · answered by tomwaterboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life works both ways. I call my boys but rarely get calls back. They both have their own lives to live and I try not to be a burden on them.
So, I continue to call and leave messages that will never be replied to, and include them in things that happen.
It might also be that parents forget. My mother got older and her memory went away. Sad but true.
2006-08-23 16:27:34 · answer #2 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son's father almost never calls.He's says he is always busy, the truth is he is too busy to be a parent.that's why they don't call.My mother calls once a week just to make sure i'm still alive and it takes 5 mins.so your parents just kinda think about only themselves in a way.one phone call is not that hard to fit in.no excuse!
2006-08-23 16:33:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have the same problem in our house and we just call them weekly and ignore the fact they only call to deliver bad news. What are ya going to do?!
2006-08-23 16:37:21 · answer #4 · answered by kitkat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, start calling on w/e. Holidays, special occas. Or just when you have a family memorie or childhood memorie. Call and share it.
2006-08-23 16:21:09 · answer #5 · answered by Lucy Lu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad did the same thing to me. It got to the point where I told him if he wanted to talk to me, he was gonna call me. Never heard from him for five years. He called to tell me he was dying from cancer three months before he died.
2006-08-23 16:28:23 · answer #6 · answered by eyeque195 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I talk to my mom every day and prolly will for a long time. I think you should tell them that it bothers you that they never call. Tell them that you would love for them to call you sometimes.
2006-08-23 16:21:57 · answer #7 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm on the same boat girl. i sometimes get discourage of calling my mom just coz she's always talking abt. other people's problems. she never really asks me if i'm ok or anything. she just starts telling me other ppl's problems and I sometimes don't want to call coz i honestly don't want to hear other people's problems.
2006-08-23 16:22:50 · answer #8 · answered by Christy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As your elders they expect YOU to initiate the calls. As the child or adult child YOU show your respect for them by being the one to make the calls.
2006-08-23 16:25:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
My mum hasnt called me in months, and she nve does. Not to say my step-dad
I dun think they care at all im dead or alive
2006-08-23 16:55:42 · answer #10 · answered by Joan20 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋