ok so i left my church and one of my good friends still went well i couldnt dealwith that the church wouldnt leave me alone and kept trying to get me to go back so i stayed away from my friend for a little bit of time so i didnt run into old church ppl i told her why i have been staying away and now shes mad at me and i dont kown what to do
2006-08-23 16:18:35 · 16 answers · asked by AJ 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You should have told your friend the truth
2006-08-23 16:21:17 · answer #1 · answered by snuggels102 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can see why she'd be upset. You didn't just turn your back on your church, you turned your back on your friend. Why would you do that? There was no need. Worst case scenario you ran in to people from church, they gave you a hard time, all you had to do was tell them the truth. Tell them you weren't interested I you were assertive enough they would have gotten the hint.
You need to make some SERIOUS amends if you want to save the friendship. I'm assuming you are a guy, so you don't understand how important friendships are to females. It like being dumped, by somebody you trusted completely.
I say you start with, "You are right, I was wrong, I was being stupid, and I didn't have the nerve or the energy to deal with all of that. So I took the lazy way out and shut out everybody, including somebody that I care about more than anything. I realize now, I was a total moron, and I will never do that again. PLEASE FORGIVE ME!!"
Something of that nature will help a bit, lol. Good luck!
2006-08-23 16:28:03 · answer #2 · answered by Chrissy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty with your friend would have been better. However, the damage is done ask her if she will turn the other cheek and not be mad for your heart was not in to the church. She should respect your decision while knowing some people feel different about the churches they attend. I myself had the same experience once. I like a church with people in my own age group rather than one with the older generations. Because I like to hang out with the members of the church and do things together. This is hard to do with little in common.
2006-08-23 16:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by reniebambie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to your friend, or at least write her a note telling her the same things you have shared with us.
She is going to be upset. That is life. She is a person and has feelings, and you have been a little callous, maybe, in how you handled them. You could start with an apology, and then move into a real explanation. Tell her how you were being hounded (if the word applies) and didn't know what to do.
Just talk to her now. We had to do the same thing several years ago, when we left our "church".
2006-08-23 16:26:41 · answer #4 · answered by MamaBear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her getting upset is her own problem, if she is your friend and you told her how you feel she should try to be more understanding. Do they not teach these things at the Church she seems to care so much about? The only thing that I feel you may have done differently was avoiding your friend just so you would not have to see other people from that church. Stand firm with your choice to leave that church if you feel that it was the best thing for you.
2006-08-23 16:25:44 · answer #5 · answered by Bw/TRUTH 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to tell your friend what you said here, and then explain why you left the church. A real friend will understand and accept you. A false friend will be rigid and intolerant and think that you have to do everything she or he does, including going to the same church, or believing the same things. I hope you have a real friend. Good luck.
Cheers, K
2006-08-23 16:23:32 · answer #6 · answered by Kate 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should of stayed at your church, but if you dont want to go to church you can always read the bible the most important book in this universe and tell your friend why you left church.
2006-08-23 16:35:40 · answer #7 · answered by mamas_grandmasboy06 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well 1st its nice that u were open minded and honest about ur feelings. she should respect u for who u are not what u will be for her. may be u should speak to her about how u feel and what made u do that. and u must also make the reason clear so as to why u did not feel like going to church. be upfront and honest. a best freind will always respect u and ur decisions no matter what.
2006-08-23 16:44:15 · answer #8 · answered by marissa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
church people are interesting. It can be hard to stay friends if you don't go to church with them. . .
2006-08-25 20:43:06 · answer #9 · answered by sweets 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you should be going to SOME church if you're a christian. No man is an island.
If you're changing churches, the members of your old church and your friends should respect your decision. Especially since most Christian churches share the same basic beliefs.
2006-08-23 16:22:59 · answer #10 · answered by Privratnik 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
She should respect your decision to leave the church. Talk with her and ask her why she can't seem to do that.
2006-08-23 16:21:35 · answer #11 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋