OK so there is this boy who I am rreally in love with... all I do is try to make him happy but no matter what we always ALWAYS fight. I try to do nice things like bake him cookies and bring them over and drop them off when he lives 30 minutes away. I do everything he tells me... (Im not trying to be dirty but he asks me to send pictures and even though I don't want to I sent them anyway) and also I just do whatever he says and I put up with the fact that he smokes and does soft drugs even though I am morally against them. Anyway regardless of what I do I always do it wrong and everyday I will get texts and calls saying I don't love him. Then another saying that we are in love. Am I supposed to put up with this. I feel like I love this boy... but is it love... should I just leave him.... we aren't even going out (we have never even kissed) but he says he loves me and flirts iwth me and then the next second is horrible! HELP
2006-08-23 16:10:56 · 15 answers · asked by mervelash 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just got a text message for no reason saying "I love you but ou killed us" THERE WAS NEVER AN US! WHat is up?
2006-08-23 16:12:43 · update #1
he's crazy, leave him
dun let ur values affect who u're going to be with
2006-08-23 16:12:58 · answer #1 · answered by mbd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like he has some serious mental issues.
The fact that he doens't appreciate your kindness is just due to him being an azz. There may have been some issues in his childhood with his own mom. Love doesn't keep a record of wrongs. It's kind, gentle (at times) and patient. (sp?) If your morally against those types of things that he does then, leave him alone. If he still calls ask him to get help rehab and counseling. Girl, men love baked goods. Your a Diamond don't waste your time on unhealthy relationships! And in all relationships there are comprimises. Never one way. Look up the word reciprocate.
2006-08-23 16:18:56 · answer #2 · answered by Lucy Lu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait! Don't send him pics of you unless you are prepared to let everyone see them. This guy is showing you no respect. I don't mean to be cruel but your coming off so desperate and well let's just say it "stupid". Value yourself more and find a real man one that will treat you like a queen and that truly loves you.
Why would you go for a guy with so many issues.
Bake yourself some cookies! Drop the clown! Get a really wonderful man!
If you can't grab a hold of your self esteem and treat yourself better how can anyone else?
2006-08-23 16:16:45 · answer #3 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, the one who said you should never do anything you are uncomfortable with to please a guy is absolutely correct. If he tries to convince you otherwise, it is certainly not love.
Second, the one who warned you to get out now, is also smart. I think that is also the right idea. I had 2 friends in college that began seeing each other, even though she knew he was crazy for her in a psycho way. One night while a bunch of us were hanging out watching a movie, he suddenly FLEW into the house, slamming the door open, and flying screaming up the stairs (where she was in her room) "I love you, I hate you, you B****, I love you, I hate you, I hate you, I hate you, You f'n B*** I love you, etc. etc etc. We kicked him out, and he ran around the house, peeking in all the windows, sobbing and freaking out. I was friends with both, and had warned her, and all of her friends, not just me, were sick of him and the verbal and emotional abuse (and alleged physical as well) he gave her. They have since broken up.
Honestly, I think abuse is where you are heading here. Just like my old friend, this guy seems very needy, plays mind games--which, by the way, is abuse--he more than likely has some major issues to deal with. And trust me, you dont want to be around to find out whats to come.
2006-08-23 16:31:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to break up with this person. He is pushing you to do things you don't want to do and that is wrong. In fact, I would call it abusive.
I would even suggest insulating yourself a bit by changing phones, email addresses, passwords and staying over at a friend or a parents' place awhile because this person wreaks of stalker kind of behavior. Be very careful. If he harasses you, document it and report it to the police.
I am begging you to be proactive and protect yourself.
2006-08-23 16:17:34 · answer #5 · answered by kristinrochelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very obvious that you are very young and have very little experience.The fact is you dont have any reall relationship with him and the guy is a total asshole.he is just using you and he enjoys the power he has over you.I guarantee he tells his friend what he makes you do(including showing them your pictures) and they all laugh about it.there are alot of guys who would love to have a nice girl like you who is soo devoted .Stop talking to him emmediateley and find a NICE but cute guy.Or better yet,wait till you are a little older and better prepared.good luck.
PS. theres tons of guys out there.dont stress over 1
2006-08-23 16:25:12 · answer #6 · answered by Robert I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. "Love" and "Longing" are two different things. Your case doesn't sound like love.
2. I saw this one episode from "American Justice". This girl is in a juvenile jail for murder because she confessed to a sin her boyfriend committed. She realizes now that he has been using her... Before you get in a situation like that, run, baby, run!
2006-08-23 16:22:59 · answer #7 · answered by fortuna0820 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from him before you get into something worse than you bargained for. He's using you and if you're not going out, you saved yourself half of the headache. Keep away from him. He sounds like bad news.
2006-08-23 16:17:05 · answer #8 · answered by Lavina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is insecure about himself. Ask yourself ..Can i see myself with this guy later on in life? if the answer is no..which i kinda hope it is ..since he seems like he has issues. He is dragging himself down and taking you with him..let go before you get pulled down. Find a guy who loves you for you and that you love in return. A guy who doesn't do drugs,etc.. Good Luck!
P.S. YOu dont feel love for this guy you aren't dating..you feel guilt and its natural..but leave him before its too late...
2006-08-23 16:30:29 · answer #9 · answered by YEP THAT'S ME.. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you not have any self-respect?
You are making yourself into his little mindless slave when it is incredibly obvious that he doesn't care about, nor respect you.
He is telling you to jump and you are asking "how high".
Walk away with your head held high while you have any respect left for yourself, cause he is going to destroy what little you have.
2006-08-23 16:18:35 · answer #10 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you, you will definately know. This guy is confused and doesn't know what he wants. You are sweet for doing all of this stuff for him but if he doesn't appreciate it, then he is no good. You deserve someone much much better than this.
2006-08-23 16:15:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋