It is 3 days before the wedding. I have run out of funds to continue to be a part of it. Should I let the bride and groom know about my situation and bow out of the wedding or not?
2006-08-23 16:03:42 · 17 answers · asked by LadyJ 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You made a commitment, and you must honor it. You do not have the right to create such stress and upheaval so close to the wedding. You should have planned better, or asked for help long ago. You should not burden the already overburdened bride and groom with your personal issues. Fix it quietly and follow though on your duties.
2006-08-23 16:11:02 · answer #1 · answered by TXChristDem 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds as though you have run into some unexpected expenses if you have run out of money three days before the wedding. What's ahead in the next few days? Anything that requires a financial outlay? Usually, once the bridesmaids' dresses are ordered, it's too late to drop out. Guys don't wear dresses, but they are paired with bridesmaids, so whichever you are, dropping out would leave an uneven number, which can be a problem.
If you're absolutely strapped and know there will be still more demands on you, better let the bride and groom know. But don't bow out -- offer to withdraw, and see what their response is. They may be happier to cover whatever expense is coming up, than to have you leave the wedding party. They must have a high regard for you, or they wouldn't have asked you to be part of their special day in the first place.
Good luck to you!
2006-08-24 00:04:43 · answer #2 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you're in this position, especially with only 3 days left to go. You've obviously paid for almost everything already except your hair and a hotel room. I think if you can, you should borrow money. Dropping out at this point is rude if you're a guest, never mind a part of the wedding party. You likely have a groomsman or bridesmaid you'll be paired up with, and without you there will be uneven numbers...
2006-08-24 10:44:11 · answer #3 · answered by J.S. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before you accepted the invitation to be in the wedding party you should have figured out if it was in your budget 3 days is absolutely too late something like that requires about a month to work around because of dress fittings and all the other stuff this could have been avoided with just a bit of planning you cant bow out
2006-08-23 23:54:50 · answer #4 · answered by aarika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the bride and groom, but try not to drop out so late in the game, a "fill in" would be hard to get now.
2006-08-23 23:27:33 · answer #5 · answered by jbird35645 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT bow out! If you knew you wouldn't be able to afford this you should never have said yes. Perhaps you could borrow the money and MAKE SURE TO REPAY IT. If all else fails talk to the bride and groom, tell them the situation ask them what they want you to do.
2006-08-23 23:11:45 · answer #6 · answered by hazydaze 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it's a choice between letting them know now, or to just not show up at the wedding, do let them know immediately. Explain the situation - they may have a solution. Anything is better than to just not show up.
2006-08-23 23:07:22 · answer #7 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have done this a long time ago. 3 days is too late. You just need to suck it up and stand in the wedding.
2006-08-23 23:36:48 · answer #8 · answered by CJBig 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell the couple as soon as possible but be prepared they will not be happy with you. Weddings always brings out the worse in people because its a very stressful time.
2006-08-23 23:09:51 · answer #9 · answered by Just ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three days is pretty short notice. I don't understand what you need funds for at this point? It might be best to just talk with them honestly and tell them your problem. If they can't help then perhaps they can find someone else.
2006-08-23 23:09:36 · answer #10 · answered by keri gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋