my daughter is almost 2 and she whines ALL THE TIME. okay, so i know she's a toddler and that's what they do, but this is just ridiculous. i've never seen a child her age whine as much as she does. she's not spoiled so i know that's not part of the problem. i try to ignore it sometimes bc i know they say if you ignore it they will eventually realize they aren't getting anywhere w/ it and will stop it. but i just can't deal w/ all this whining. sometimes i'll tell her to stop whining and say "i want.." and she will do that and say what it is she wants, but that doesn't work every time. disciplining her doesn't help, telling her to stop does nothing and neither does time out or smacking her on the butt. i've about had it and something's gotta change. any ideas?
2006-08-23 16:00:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My daughter worked with her son on this problem like this:
When he asked for something in a normal voice she was careful to say, "How nice you sound to mommy's ears!"
When he whined she would say, "Mommy needs to hear nice words before we can do that."
It takes awhile and some concentration on your part to be consistent, but it eventually gets the job done. And of course, you want your husband to support you in this and require the same kind of "happy talk" from your son.
2006-08-23 16:07:25 · answer #1 · answered by Puzzler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is 2 years old.. its kinda too young for them to learn to stop whining... infact if she has a younger sibling then its pretty normal.. ( I dont know if you have a younger kid too or not but if so then that is actually the problem because she sees the baby get the attention so she is acting like a baby because really she needs more attention - not things)
infact my guess is she wants attention anyhow and whining gets the attention.. it is ok to give attention but preferably not when she is whining so make sure she gets alot of attention when she is being good so it doesnt become a cycle where the only attention she gets is when being bad...
never give in when they want you to buy something and you have already said "NO" BUT find the opportunity to buy her something before she asks but when she is with you.. "oh wow look an ice cream store - would you like a small ice cream?" "you have been so good today, can mommy buy you a ice cream"
well I guess doing stuff with her is better than buying her stuff so ok try
"wow its a nice day and you are a good girl lets go to the park/beach"
"hey lets go for a walk and play on the swings"
2006-08-23 23:12:41 · answer #2 · answered by CF_ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who 'whines' around her? She may be mimicking behaviour she sees.
Now my dad broke my brother of that habit by simply not putting up with it. A whiny child is a bored child at the kitchen table. Toys, games, friends are all a memory. Sure she should tell you what she wants, but she may equate the whining followed by a 'what I want' to mean you'll give her 'what she wants'. If you insist there is NO whining and not just following it up with a clear asking for something, you may be able to break her. Or send her to my house.......... no matter age, I don't put up with whiney (my 50 year old aunt learned that the hard way at my mom's birthday party......... but she learned)
2006-08-23 23:09:31 · answer #3 · answered by Ananke402 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes with my son (he will be two next month) i have to put him in his room, tell him to stay in there untill he is done whining, then walk away and close the door behind me. he usally cries for a min or two, but after that he comes out and dosn't whine about it. he he starts to whine about it again i put him back in his room. Unless it's around nap time, then he goes to sleep. normal though he only does this when he is tired or not feeling well. otherwise try to give her a choice between two things that she can have that way she can have some control over her world. Or distract her take her outside, or start to play with some of her things, and she may jion you and froget about what she wanted.Otherwise you just gotta wait it out. Good Luck
2006-08-23 23:06:06 · answer #4 · answered by paganrosemama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When little ones that age whine and whine, I have found out that they are hungry. My little boy was like that. I could do nothing right for him. I had always made good meals and snacks for my poor little boy and being only two he couldn't tell me much. So I started watching how much he was eating and it was barely nothing. So I started to sit by him and help , encourage him to eat all his food. It helped. over a period of time, he was more content. He just wasn't get enough to eat. He became a different kid. Sometimes, we think they get enough nouriment , but they don't If she says I want--- then there is something she wants. Please don't spank as she is only trying to get you to understand. Sit with her while she eats and make it a fun time. Make sure she is medically ok. Good luck.
2006-08-23 23:14:41 · answer #5 · answered by Norskeyenta 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am having the same problem with my almost 3 yr old daughter. shes always whinning about something, i have to admitt that part of it is because i spoiled her too much as a infant and her grandpa (her daddy's father) spoils her still....when she wants something she wont give in til i give in, but lately, i haven't been giving into her much and she just seems to get worse with the whinning about everything, but she is also starting to learn and understand that she can't have what she wants all the time! i guess all i can say is dont give in to her!
2006-08-23 23:34:18 · answer #6 · answered by renae8003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I am sorry, I can't understand you when you talk like that. Maybe when you talk better, I can help you."
"That is much better, you want a drink, well I will be happy to get you a drink, would you like Milk or Orange Juice."
This is what I did with my son, it took about a week for the whining to end.
If he started throwing tantrums, he was ignored, "I am sorry, I don't know what you want when you act like that. Maybe when you act better, we can figure out what you want."
It worked for me.
2006-08-23 23:12:10 · answer #7 · answered by starting over 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she still get a nap? If not you may need to make her take one, or adjust her bedtime to make sure she is getting 10-12 hours of sleep per night. I taught my son how to say please and thank you and a few other words in sign language and when he points and whines when he wants something I don't give it to him unless he says please & thank you. He just turned 2 on the 10th of this month and he is starting to say things like juice please, milk please and cookie please without whining. If she whines, don't give her what she wants.
2006-08-23 23:06:14 · answer #8 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
might just be a stage don't get all stressed she can pick up on stress just put her in her room and shut the door when shes whinny
2006-08-23 23:20:30 · answer #9 · answered by Moo moo I'm a chicken 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she will outgrow it when she is like 32.
or try a shock callar or a squirt bottle.
2006-08-23 23:04:04 · answer #10 · answered by coca cola babe 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋