i need help w/ potty training?

Question

i have daughter that will be three in two months, and she does not want to wear diapers anymore...however she refuses to use the potty...i try to stay very consistant with taking her to the bathroom every 15 to 30 min. but no sooner she leaves the room, she goes and pees in the floor...i don't know what to do anymore... she is so hard headed and yet so smart for her age....i need HELP!!!!

Answer 1

I think that your daughter is trying to tell you that she wants to be in control. That is why she is peeing on the floor after just being in the bathroom. I hope that you are not telling her how hard-headed she is. That label will stick in her head and she will believe it and behave accordingly. I had to try different methods with each of my children. You may want to stop taking her to the bathroom every 15 to 30 minutes and give her the chance to feel the urge to go and react. With my daughters, the sticker system worked for them. Each time they were successful in the bathroom, they got one sticker for peeing and two stickers for pooping. After they filled in two weeks worth of stickers, and had no more diapers, they got a prize. One chose a Barbie, the other a video. With my youngest son, he was well past 3 years old and I knew he was able to use the bathroom but he refused. I let him pick out big-boy underwear, and yet he would still wet himself. I started offering fruit snacks (which he loves but doesn't get to have very often) if he would use the bathroom instead of wearing pull ups or wetting himself. It worked except he wanted to continue to wear pull ups. When I told him we didn't have any more pull ups and that he had to wear underwear, he started to have accidents again. In a pull up, he would stay dry. Talk about a power struggle!! Finally, I asked his preschool teacher to encourage him to use the potty at school and maybe talk to him about how big boys his age should be wearing big-boy underwear. She told me that he was already successfully using the bathroom at school and they were surprised that he was still in pull ups!! So, without embarrasing him, I told him that he was the only kid in his class that was still wearing pull ups. All the other kids wore big-boy and big-girl underwear. The peer pressure did it!! And he has been a pro ever since!

You will have to try different methods to see what works for you. But I think you definitely have a daughter who is trying to tell you something. Let HER tell you when she has to go and then give her praise and a small reward. I have a few strong-willed children too. Good Luck!

Answer 2

I did the sticker method for my daughter. We would set her on the potty and if she went....she would get a sticker to put up on the poster board in the bathroom. We always let her pick out which sticker she wanted and we usually bought stickers with characters or things that she liked. Explain to your child that she will get that reward only if she 'tinkles' in the potty instead of on the floor. If she goes even just a little let her have a sticker, (stickers are by far cheaper than diapers).

Answer 3

Tough love....tell her that thats fine, if she'd rather wet nappies than use the toilet thats fine, it saves you cleaning up her wee.
Sounds like you are giving in, but to your daughter this is yet another challenge, at that age they are testing you, pushing the boundries, really seeing what will make you snap.
She will be wondering why you have given up and feel as though her task is not yet done, you may find by ignoring it and just saying 'oh back to nappies then' she may start using the toilet alone. This way she thinks shes going against you and so is challenging you but shes actually doing what you wanted all along.

I find this way works with my son, for say when he wont eat his dinner, instead of me keep saying 'eat it up' etc, i just say, ok if you dont want it dont eat it....i havnt given him what he wants so he eats it!

otherwise, i think maybe just not making a huge deal over hr wetting on the floor, just clear it up say never mind and she should soon correct herself, if shes peeing on the floor in the same place, maybe pop a cheap potty there.

Answer 4

i got my son trained at the age of 2. i didn't put him pants on during the day in the house. i left his potty out on the floor and he really used it but i just used to run around after him. i also let him see me using the potty so he felt reassured. we made a big fuss when anyone in the family used the potty, by clapping orshouting with joy. i only started using pants when he began using the potty on a regular basis.my son took about 2 week to use his potty or toilet often. hope it helps

Answer 5

Get her a sticker chart!Tell her every time she goes potty she'll get a sticker on her chart.Tell her as soon as the chart is filled up
you'll take her to go pick out a toy or something!She'll be so excited about the whole thing!If you don't have a toddler potty seat for the toilet you should get one,maybe she is scared of falling in the potty!Good Luck!

Answer 6

Put her in the awful plastic pants with the cotton linings. They cured my hard-headed 3-year-old. They are scratchy, hot and uncomfortable. Tell her that she can earn her big girl panties as soon as she is not having any accidents.

Remember, it's not about what she wants. You are the parent, and if she is peeing on the floor, and she certainly knows better, you have the responsibility to correct her behavior, or in this case, make her wear training pants or pullups. If you cannot control her now, what is it going to be like when she's 13?

Answer 7

Perhaps just leave the potty in the front-room where she can see it but, don`t make too big an issue about it. Just say, "When you need the toilet, just use this." And when she does use it, give LOADS of praise and, when she doesn`t,just say, "Don`t worry, perhaps next time you can go on your potty like a big girl"

I know this is a hard time but, just keep telling yourself that she will soon master it and life will eventually be easier!!

Good Luck.

Answer 8

she might have a negative association with the bathroom, it might be worth trying her on a potty in a different room then if she gets the hang of it gradually re-introduce the bathroom. praise successes, dont comment on accidents. let her see you use the big loo and explain what you are doing, and give her some of the responsibilty of deciding when she needs to go( this will result in some accidents however) gently remind her but dont force her.

Answer 9

Put her in a diaper but put it on backwards so that she cant see the tabs to undo it. let her pick out some panties and put them OVER the diaper so she doesnt mess them up. Reward her with something she likes whenever she pottys. But be persistant!!!!

Answer 10

We just passed this milestone. We let her wear panties that SHE picked out, then put a pullup over them. As long as the panties stayed dry, she could wear them, if she accidented, she went back to the pulllup only. You have to be paitent. She has to recognize the feeling of needing to go and what to do. It will happen. It took my daughter about 6 months to get the hang of it.