if a person is a christian then why am i so sad all the time only true christians reply please?

Question

i am such a lonely person and have back slide but i ask for forgiveness every dat. from 4yrs old till now my life has every womans nitemare and i just can't get past all those bad things i hope the children of God will pray for me before i loose myself in this mean world GBU all

Answer 1

I love a woman who has lived what I guess may be the same nightmare. I am so sorry for your pain. Please know that God loves you and that somehow you will come thru this. Hold tight to him and your faith will be strengthened. You can be a great blessing to someone who has suffered in a similar way. There is so much need. I know that you may not feel like doing this right now, but I hope someday you might. I think I get down the most when I feel useless, like I can't do anything. I used to work in a food ministry, then I hurt my back and couldn't do it any more. I got down and felt useless. A friend made me realize that it wasn't my back that God wanted, but my heart. He said to just find anything to get going again. It worked ,and eventually I found something that I liked.
I once heard that we are like a great big ship and the Holy Spirit is like the rudder. The small rudder can change the direction of the entire ship. But first the ship has to start moving. If you are not already in a church, find one. Get involved. See what he will do for you. Be the amazing blessing that you were meant to be.
You are in my prayers.

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Answer 2

It is hard sometimes. When we are sad, lonely, depressed, have bad things happen, we are tempted to back slide.

I recently went through a very trying personal experience. I was so tempted to give up on everything, including God.

But don't. Make yourself get up and go to church on Sunday morning. You may even find that if you force yourself for a few weeks, you'll wake up feeling ill or some other outside influence may try to keep you away. Fight it. If you are feeling ill, if the weather is bad, whatever, get up and go.

Once you get there, you'll feel better after a while. And you'll feel better inside as well. Talk to a friend from church, the pastor's wife, another woman you can confide in, a Christian friend.

Turn to God and his people for strength and support. They will help more than anything you can consume or any psycho therapy you can receive.

Remember, God will see you through this. You are being tested, but you can persevere. Read Job. Pray. Ask to be placed on your church's prayer list maybe under a special need category or something similarly non-descript.

Good Luck to you. I'll keep you in my prayers.

Tammy

Answer 3

Hi Kathy, Jesus as well was a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief, but He did not show signs of depression. Sorrows will come, we brush elbows with it every day but joy comes in the morning! DlMoody said to read your Bible every day at the same time that way we can only get 24 hours away from the Lord. The fruit of the Spirit is love, then joy, if joy is failing us then love is where we need to focus our attention, forget the past , it is an idol , don't bow to it any longer! Confess, learn from it and move on. billy, Isaiah 62:3

Answer 4

You sound like a person with classic depression. but its a good thing that your asking for help. There are those people out there that are trained to see you threw rough times. Go see a counselor. Get some help and get your head straight. Ive personally in my own life just had a bunch of SH## thrown my week this way. My car broke down so i couldnt work my second job, im getting sued by a Credit card company because i cant come up with the money they want me to come up with. I got a letter in my mailbox telling me To stop dumping my trash ( and i never "dumped" anything in my life!.) and i got my Gas shut off on me. Oh and i have a job that is taking all my time so i get lonely too. Life is harsh, Some of us like you just feel it more. because there are facits in your brain that can not deal with stress and bad times effectively. There is no shame in it, its just the way your body is. Youve got to come to terms with that and do the things you need to do to get better, seeing a psycologist is a good beginning, they can help you.

Answer 5

Look at all the suffering, pain, rejection, humiliation, that Jesus went through. Jesus, as the, sinless Son of God didn't have it on "easy street" why would sinners like us have it on easy street? PLEASE read Job. He was rich, highly regarded, and was probably the most Christian person of his time. Look at all he went through. Read any of the letters of Paul (Romans, Ephesians, etc.) He felt suffering for Christianity was a blessing. To write all he had to say about suffering would run very long so read it and see why and what he had to say. I know you're not Job or Paul but what they went through and what have to say is pertinent for all of us. I have suffered a lot too BELIEVE ME. If it wasn't for faith in God, trusting Him with my future and ultimately eternal life I would have thrown in the towel a long time ago. Remember- the strongest steel goes through the hottest fire. A tree and other plants...flowers etc. is pruned (cut back) to make regrowth stronger- more productive. We don't understand why God does what He does so we need to accept it and go on. It would be helpful if you would join a Bible study, talk to a solid Christian pastor, attain some Christian friends. A Bible study could give you insight, fortify your faith in God, and give you something constructive to do that will get your mind off the painful things that have happened in your life. I am willing to correspond with you if you like. God Bless You.

Answer 6

Being Christian doesn't mean being happy 24/7 or even having everything you want. It just means your saved and you have a beautiful future. I do know God doesn't give us more than we can handle. I pray for you, I hope you receive some happiness. GBU

Melissa

Answer 7

I am a true Christian. I have accepted Jesus Christ as my personal savior. He died on the cross for me. My sins are forgiven through Him. Because God has given me the free gift of His grace through faith in Jesus Christ I am saved.

I, also, am sad and lonely sometimes. I, also, backslide. My life is not full of horrible things the way others are, and I am so thankful for that. I am sorry that you have experienced horrible, unimaginable things in your life. I am praying for you right now.

Do you think that being a Christian means being happy? Unfortunately, no. Look at Christ. Read Matthew 26:36-46. See-Jesus Himself was lonely, sorrowful, hurting. His answer was prayer. Jesus also wept at the death of Lazarus.

In this life God does not wipe away our tears. But He promises that He will. Keep believing.

Answer 8

Even Christians get 'dirty' from walking through this life. Happiness (and sadness) result from what's going on around you, and will come and go. Instead, focus on the work God is doing IN you, and He will fill you with joy and peace. Don't seek happiness or companionship, but rather seek to be constantly being filled with the Holy Spirit, who will empower and encourage you to follow closely after the Lord.

And as you seek Jesus and His righteousness, all other things will be added to you.

You are in my prayers.

Answer 9

My dear sister, you are going to have to forgive in order to get over being sad.

Its a hard long process, but needed not for the abusers, but for you. I do not often recomend books other than the bible to people, but for sisters who know the pain of being a toy for evil on earth, I will tell you to get ahold of Cory Tenbloom's books.

I may have spelled her name wrong. She is a Jewish Christian who had to forgive so much in her life. She had to come face to face with the man she watched beat and rape and murder her sister while they were in a concentration camp.

If anyone can help you learn to forgive for yourself, so you can go on, its her writings, they are very biblical and very human.

Of course I will pray for you. And I can tell you that forgivness can happen. Been there , done that and keep doing that.

May you come out of the other side of this trial with a testimony that can truely inspire others to know and give forgiveness.

Answer 10

You sound like a strong person that is becoming weak. It's sad I know. This don't mean that God isn't looking out for you though. Just stay up and remember. The Lord works in mysterious ways.