I am dead on in love with this man, i want to marry him one day and have his children. We've been together for 3 1/2 years so far, and we've had some really wonderful times together, along with some bad times too. But I have never ever thought of being with another man other than him, i find him to not only be the most attractive man in the world to me, but the smartest and greatest personality too. I wouldn't ever dream of ruining what we have together. But, he is leaving for the coast gaurd in a few months and will be gone for 4 months. maybe even more, depending on where they station him if I could go to him. And he doesn't trust me. He thinks that I would do something to disrupt what we have together! I will admit, when we met I was single and playing the field a bit, and his impression of me is that i would cheat. the truth is that i would never cheat, even those years ago when we met. I was single then. I fell in love with him. I've never cheated on him. What could i do?
2006-08-23 15:46:10 · 12 answers · asked by Bitterly Sweet 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is what ya do.....
Remind him he's the one who signed up for the coast guard..and therefore knowingly made a choice to be gone some of the time.
next, tell him what you just told all of us....it is from the heart, and he will appreciate hearing it.
Then,... try to suggest to him the idea of getting engaged before he goes. He might feel more secure, and you would be able to look at your ring every day, and remind you of your love for him.
Next, tell him that he is going to just have to trust you. Love is about trust...it is hard soemetimes , but sooo worth the effort.
Good Luck--- it will all work out.
2006-08-23 15:51:43 · answer #1 · answered by shasta 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's doubting you no matter what you say he will still doubt you. He simply doesnt trust you and once the trust is gone you really dont have much, sorry. Did you give him a reason in the 3 years for him to doubt you? Maybe he has a guilty conscious and is turning it on to you. Bottom line would you want to be with somone you didnt trust?
2006-08-23 22:56:10 · answer #2 · answered by dazzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has a trust issue, not necessarily caused by you. He probably had a bad experience in the past. Try to keep open communication and assure him he's the only one for you. It's going to be hard, but as long as you do your part things will work out...oh he better be good too :)
2006-08-23 22:49:23 · answer #3 · answered by Melisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only advice I have is first tell him pretty much what you told us..about how you want to marry him someday and that he is the only one you have or ever will want. Tell him you are inlove with only him and you will be faithful. Then I would write him and call him text him email what ever as much as possible to let him know that your still there for him. Good luck.:)
2006-08-23 22:54:56 · answer #4 · answered by jessdjnick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really think he is having a problem with trusting you while he is gone? He knows what he'll be doing and thinks you'll be doing it too. If you don't have trust you keep on swimmin...
2006-08-23 22:50:50 · answer #5 · answered by areyoukidding 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way one can prove their faithfulness is to die.
If he can't trust you, move on and find someone who can.
2006-08-23 22:50:13 · answer #6 · answered by pamspraises 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have the kind of love you say for each other, you shouldn't have to prove it, he should just know.
2006-08-23 22:49:25 · answer #7 · answered by Diane P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds insecure, all you can do is tell him how you feel. i dont know how old you are, so i really dont know what else to tell you.
2006-08-23 22:50:44 · answer #8 · answered by imalickyouallover69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simple....Show him this question!
2006-08-23 22:54:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him first if he really loves you....
2006-08-23 22:56:20 · answer #10 · answered by mariposang_gala 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋