...is there any advise i can get, DO's and DONT's...
2006-08-23 15:44:17 · 4 answers · asked by IG-88 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
I used to be a pro and learned from one of the best.
1. If you're in a relationship and your partner is willing; try it on for size. It doesn't have to be whips and chains. Start slow. Tie them up with silk scarves. Tickle them with feathers. Give orders. Be as commanding as possible (this does take some practice!).
2. If you are not in a relationship; go to the clubs. Always participate in public gatherings. DO NOT try and take someone home. If you don't know what you're doing, you can put yourself in danger - a dom in NYC was known for pushing her clients beyond their limits (sloppy and dangerous!) and one of her subs/clients turned on her and killed her in her apartment. There are lots of fetish parties around; pick one, see if you feel comfortable.
3. Being a dom is all about presence. You don't have to be tall or look like a model; some of the best doms I've ever met are petite women. Bark orders like a drill sargent, but learn when to be nice to your "pets". The whole line is knowing when the individual sub is close to breaking and then comforting him or her. With that comes a huge endorphin rush that your sub will associate with you. This is not something to take lightly - this endorphin rush is the hormonal equivalent of heroin, which is why so many subs get so attached to their doms.
4. Most subs cry the first time because its such a huge emotional rush, not to mention putting their complete trust in you with their mind and body. Again, DO NOT take that lightly. You break a bond of trust you will never, EVER regain it to the level it once was. Safe words are a must. Blue was always mine. If my sub said "blue" everything stopped right there. That means enough, no kidding, stop NOW and comfort your sub. Tell them how beautiful they are, how brave they are and how proud you are of them. Cuddle them like you would a scared child. Do not ever breach a safe word (I cannot stress that enough).
5. If you've never been a sub, you should try it with someone you really trust. You really can't be a truly good dom (no matter what anyone tells you) without trying the other side. Once you've experienced the endorphin rush for yourself, you will become much more in tune with you subs and you will know the signs (body language) of cracking points before a safe word is even needed. It will make you far better at the game.
Hope that helped.
2006-08-23 16:09:36 · answer #1 · answered by mistress_piper 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are clubs available. They have all sorts of fun gatherings (non-sexual) as well as the S & M schtick. (I know this because my older sister is the grand master DOM.) Look for ones in your area. They can ease you into the life slowly.
2006-08-23 22:48:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure about where to get advice, but a word of caution: know your (and your partner's) boundaries. Don't let things get out of hand.
2006-08-23 22:54:28 · answer #3 · answered by hop0409 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the safety word is banana.
2006-08-23 22:49:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋