I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years and i always thought her family was alright, but we have a long distance relationship so i usually only get to see her once or twice a week and her family wants us to go with them. I get pissed, i dont say anything but they know im mad then they get mad at me. I tell my g/f i dont want to go so i dont piss them off by bein mad, but if i dont go my g/f will get mad, so im screwed both ways. Just recently we got into a huge fight and supposibly broke up but i knew nothing of it until we talked like two days later. I called for two straight days and she wouldnt answer any of my calls, i thought something happened to her, so i went down there to se what was going on, but when i got there no one knew where she was, so i was even more worried. I come to find out shes been crying for two days straight and now her family hates me for hurtin their daughter/sister. I wanted to talk to resolve things but she didnt. They brain washed her to think im bad.
2006-08-23 15:43:29 · 4 answers · asked by John 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what a family!
u really love her, i can tell. why dun u tell her that because u hardly see her, is it wrong tt u guys go out one on one?
anyway, u deserve a chance to explain urself to her, alone. without that family
good luck, but if u guys dun work out, rem 1 thing. in ur next r/s, get the family to like u
2006-08-23 15:47:05 · answer #1 · answered by mbd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually I know exactly what you're talking about. My last two relationships ended like that in which the whole family hates me. The only thing I can say is that it is hard to deal with something like that. However, I do think that it was a mistake from your part that you got mad because her family invited you to a trip. Actually that means that they liked you. They defenitely brain washed her, but you have to understand that its because they don't want her to get hurt anymore. If you really love her and are still together I suggest that you try to set up a meeting with all the family and talk to them. Admit that it was your fault and that you reacted the wrong way but that you're not really a bad person. Just whatever you do, don't tell them that they piss you off. Its normal for that to happen, when you date someone you don't just date them, you date the whole family and you have to keep in mind that there are certain commitments that you have to keep with them because they become your family as well as your family becomes youre GF's family. However, it is also good to think the situation through and weigh if having the family meeting is worth it. If the situation is really bad then just turn around and walk away. It will hurt, it always does, but part of loving is learning when to let go. So to sum it up, think things through and weigh the situation. If you think it is worth it to talk to her family and apologize and beg her to give you another chance, go for it, you have nothing to lose. However if things are really complicated and you think they'll just never want to do it walk away and start a new chapter in your life. It will be hard, but keep walking that path because eventually you'll find the light and someone else.
2006-08-23 22:51:53 · answer #2 · answered by ChAr-LeE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like this girl lets her family do all of her thinking for her. Just give her some time, I'm sure she'll talk to you about it.
2006-08-23 22:46:25 · answer #3 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well maybe u should talk to the family then talk to her. good luck
2006-08-23 22:47:28 · answer #4 · answered by scarlett m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋