well I was sexually abused by my stepdad and then I gat a boyfriend and everyone told me he was emotionally abusing me so how do I get rid of all these feelings of not being able to trust males??
2006-08-23 15:05:57 · 14 answers · asked by smiley4god1990 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Try your best not to live in the past. You may never get over what has been done to do you, but you do have a choice on how you will live your life now.
2006-08-23 15:14:43 · answer #1 · answered by Jenniphur 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all i will tell you that it happen to me too but it was my dad who sexually abuse me. It will take you some time to get over the feeling of the abuse and as for trusting men that will also take you a long time.
You are taking the first steps through and the more you talk the more you will heal. Take your time with men and just be friends for now but don't get serious until you think you can be total safe net is OK.
I think you should try some kind of counseling and it did help me get over some of my fears with the abuse you will really feel better and know that you can trust them. the trick is don't let it bottle up but let it out and the more you talk the more you will be better.
2006-08-23 22:32:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was sexually abused by my stepdad from age 5 until 14. It was very difficult to overcome cause i thought it was my faught, but at age 14 i called the police and from there i was in counciling. I have to say that now i am 34 with a 12yr old daughter and with the help of counciling i am living a normal life that wouldnt be if they would not have helped me to find myself and realize i am somebody. I now have a career and learned how to protect my child from predators, their evil and i'm armed!
2006-08-24 12:42:36 · answer #3 · answered by cutey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to take it one step at a time first talk to someone about a good friend family member or a docter talk about your feelings and when you are ready to start dating again dont rush intto anything take things slow get to know the person and start trusting him
2006-08-23 22:15:36 · answer #4 · answered by susie s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have already made the first good step in asking people for help.
2006-08-23 22:09:28 · answer #5 · answered by DieterRSchafer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find yourself a good psychologist. you can't use two horrible men as examples for all men. also you could arrange it so your step dad feels a lot of pain. that would make you feel better too.
2006-08-23 22:12:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to go to see a doctor and go to somebody to help you with your probrems abuout abuse and with the help of friends and family and little by little and time you should start to see good resorts
2006-08-23 22:11:43 · answer #7 · answered by juanita2_2000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would beat him up but iam a guy i cant beat a women call the cops havent u ever seen tv
2006-08-23 22:15:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry baby, men aren't the only predators around.
2006-08-23 22:14:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One way is vengence. Another way is acceptance and trust. The path to take, is up to you.
2006-08-23 22:11:53 · answer #10 · answered by Answerer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋