Let's say theres a girl that I've been good friends with for a long while. A few months ago I started going to her church. Originally she expressed to me how indulged in christianity she was and that was the reason we couldn't date. Months later, she says a similar thing:
"We can't date because christianity isn't just my religion; it's my life, and I need someone who is like me".
So for a few months she's been taking me to church with her, and I keep learning more and more. Although I am still thoroughly confused with the religion and it's principles, doesn't christianity embrace the teaching of the religion to the ignorant? Wouldn't it make her a better christian by helping me learn more? Then wouldn't I be motivated more if we were dating?
2006-08-23 15:02:23 · 26 answers · asked by Najib 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Shoulda added: I love that she's religious. I've dated non-religious girls and I've had them almost cheat on me with other girls, guys, and I always have to worrry about thier choices. She's perfect in everyway; the hard-to-get girl that all the guys want in highschool, ya know?
2006-08-23 15:11:38 · update #1
So many people are giving me good answers, I'm so impressed. Thankyou to everyone, you people are awesome! Basically anyone with an answer longer than 25 words has given a fantastic answer. I wish i could nominate more than one best answer, or answer some of the questions brought up. Just know that I've taken all your advice even if you haven't been rated.
I'll read through them all and make a decision on the best one soon.
Gotta add: no I'm not just getting into the religion just for her, It was before I started hanging out with her ofton that I wanted to learn more about it.
2006-08-23 15:57:37 · update #2
Christianity teaches that you have to be "equally yoked" with your partner. Basically, it's like this..Christians try to build their relationships with others from Jesus Christ. If that foundation is not there, no healthy relationship can become of it..
This meaning it can only hurt you if you're dating someone who is not helping you in your relationship with Jesus.
I've been dating this guy for a while now, and we decided to put God at the center of our relationship and that has made us so much stronger.
It's kinda like when a guy and a girl both like say..football or baseball. Pulling for the same team kinda brings a bond unlike other things they do.
If a relationship is founded on sexuality...then that's all there is.There's no honesty, trust, or even intimacy that can compare with what you receive from a mutual foundation of something else.
If I'm making any sense to you..
This doesn't mean that she's not interested in you; quite the contrary if she is trying to motivate your interest in Christianity.
Christianity does "embrace teaching of the religion to the ignorant". But don't believe in something because you feel like you'll lose her if you don't. That isn't true faith. Ask her to help you if you're genuinely interested in becoming a Christian..that may just make you two closer and stronger. :)
Sorry this was long...and I hope you understood it.
2006-08-23 15:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 11:30:03 · answer #2 · answered by cracchiolo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way as she does about it, so let me try to help you understand. When you are a strong Christian who lives her faith as she does, you need someone who shares that belief. It just does not work otherwise. (Speaking from experience!) My ex didn't share my beliefs, but for awhile he came to church with me. He just wasn't into it like I was though. He resented the time I spent there, and expected me to just drop everything I was committed to and just take off for the day. Compromise is one thing, but he wasn't satisfied with that. He was asking me to give up who I was, and what was important to me. If you really care for her, you have to decide if that's what you really want. But don't do it just for her, because if you aren't serious about it, and lose interest in it after awhile, it will still cause problems. Just don't rush it. Keep learning about what she believes. As friends, she can help you with your questions. Then someday, if you truly believe in what she does, then you can start dating.
2006-08-23 15:30:08 · answer #3 · answered by cj_justme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a Christian, I am sooooo glad that I met another Christian to date and eventually marry, it made our relationship just that much stronger. And while I would love to see you turn to Jesus and accept Him as savior, I urge you to do it ONLY because you feel that is what you need to do, not for the girl. You should be honest with her, if you don't feel Christianity is the way for you, don't lead her on that it's a possibility. But if you are starting to feel that God is working on you, I am sure she would love to hear it and be happy to help you learn more about her faith. Faith is a very personal issue- many lifelong Christians spend their life praying for God to send the right person their way, and it is wrong to deceive her if you don't feel the same way. :-) (Not implying that you are) My kids are 7 & 8 and I am already praying for God to prepare a Christian spouse for each of them, it's just that important to me.
I truly hope it all works out for you! Best wishes and God Bless!
2006-08-23 15:09:09 · answer #4 · answered by Nelita C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly wouldn't date someone who expected this of me. Love should not be restricted by ones religious demands if you ask me.
It is true that often times people with similar religions are good mates however remember that people often change there church and beliefs over the years so if you add that into the mix of potential breakers your just increasing the odds it won't work out.
Love for the sake of loving. Thats my 2 cents. Don't change to be with someone because your not being who you truely are. If you find god, well, god bless you but don't think for a minute you have to convert to be accepted. You are who you are.
2006-08-23 15:05:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you ask that girl yourself? She may escort or meet you in church but only the Holy Spirit will convict you. If you want to convert or learn God's word, then do it alone or be sure you know what you want, which sounds like you want the girl only and she has already told you, she's not interested.
2006-08-23 15:11:21 · answer #6 · answered by AJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are your true motives? Are you going to her church just so you can date her? Or are you really trying to get to know God. Christianity is not a religion, it's a relationship with God. I don't think you will be motivated if you were dating, your focus will be on her not God. She is correct in saying that she wants to date someone like her, the bible says," be yea not unequally yoked with unbelievers". You must want to know God for yourself
2006-08-23 15:19:51 · answer #7 · answered by cece 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, It's good you feel like that. Maybe you have to ask her to teach you or together go to someone who can teach you and help you understand Christianity better. She is right. It's a way of live, it's a way of seeing things from an other point of view. You first has to believe there is a god, or someone who is powerfull than humanity. One call it god, other jehova, other Allah. But it the same God.
2006-08-23 15:09:34 · answer #8 · answered by dorotheasosial 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some Christians teach everything but loving even though Jesus approved of loving. Some Chistians even criticize you if you go to a Jewish Doctor, although of course they assure you they are not anti-semitic. You can't expect most Christians to reason the way you do.
2006-08-23 15:08:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Najib, Jesus said, "You must be born again." Yes, a Christian's main job is to win souls. With all due respect, maybe she's looking for a way out of your relationship. But you should still get saved, God's got a great plan for your life.
2006-08-23 15:12:44 · answer #10 · answered by valerie h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋