Have you ever heard of a parent telling their child that they "can't date until college"?

Answer 1

I believe that growing up is all about learning how to socialize and be with other people both in the work/school environment and in personal relationships. I want my daughters to date before college because then I am there to help and guide them- even if it is behind the scenes because teenagers like their space. I don't want my daughters to go out with guys much much more experienced with things then they are. At least, they can grow up knowing who they are and learn how to get through the many issues that goes along with dating- morally. Rather than going crazy and not know what they are doing with out they eyes that every mom has behind their heads.

Answer 2

Yes, I have heard of this, and this is usually the case with religious parents telling their kids this, not giving it to them as an option or just advising it.

In most cases the person who is told this will grow up to be a bit of an outcast in high school society since he/she can't get into the dating scene as attractive as they may be.

But then, once they hit college, they are MUCH more rebellious than other college kids and crack under pressure almost every time. They're the ones that get pregnant, constantly use drugs and alcohol and run into trouble with the law. Then when they call home for cash for bail release from jail their parents regret what they did.

Answer 3

No, and I think the parent that said that was being silly. Who in their right mind would think they could stop someone at the age of 18(usually the age when you enter college), from dating. I did not let my daughter date until she was 16, but that was 19 years ago and the world has changed for the worse since then. I think the dating age depends on the maturity of the child and the parents.

Answer 4

Mmm are you talking about my parents by any chance???? I did hear about parents like that, but they can not prevent their kid from going out and having fun... Try by winning their trust by making a good agreement on going out..be home at the aggreed time, always let them know where you are going and maybe for the first few dates(aaaarrrghhh not very popular but will help in gaining trust) is have them pick yu up after a night out...

Answer 5

No Way, I think that's way too long to wait. But I guess people have thier parenting skills and thier preferences. Their kids will just sneak around though. They are kinda throwing an honest relationship out the window. It will def effect the parent/child relationship.

Answer 6

Well I have not heard that but if they are 18 years old they could date or if they are 15 older ,if they can't date until college thet is wierd.

Answer 7

yeah my mom told me the same and i listened. freshman year i got pregnant with my 1st daughter. my mom should had been more specific and less authoritative with her wishes. my daughters are 16 and 12. they can't receive calls or go out on a date until they are 15 and under the conditions that their school grades are not effected by it. i pray that they don't have sex until marriage. realistically i keep emergency kits for both of them and open communication just in case they try it out. So far (that i know of) they're virgins.

Answer 8

Not in real life. That would be a huge mistake -- can you imagine suddenly setting your 18 year-old child *entirely* free at college with no experience with the opposite sex? They would go crazy.

Answer 9

Yep....and I also heard of that child moving out of their parents' home and living with another relative.............................Not always the best thing but once a child reaches a certain age you can no longer continue to shelter them.....There's only so much reality that you can hide from them.

Answer 10

Yes, I believe parents said that about 50 years ago.