I'm more looking for female opinions, but guys can answer.
There are 3 guys I have dated, but are now ex's. I care about them all still, but don't know who to be with if I decide to get back together with any of them. I'll describe them, & I'd appreciate input on any experiences you've had, & who you would choose if you were me.
The 1st guy is in the army (stationed overseas) & he's really good to me, but we're polar opposites. Our opinions & views on many things differ so much we can't talk about it if we don't want an argument. Through our differences though, he's always been there for me, even when I was a b*tch to him (when he rightfully deserved it).
The second guy is my best friend... it makes me smile just to think of him. We've been through a lot, and we understand each other so well most people would think it's weird. He made me very happy when we were together. The problem is he now lives real far away.
I'll describe the third guy in additional details...
2006-08-23 14:41:37 · 29 answers · asked by Green-eyed Nikki 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, here's the third guy...
He seems like a real tough guy, which he can be, but with me he was always very sweet and gentle. I love him more than I can describe, and I can't even say how happy I was when he asked me out (we had been close friends before, & I had a crush the whole time). The problem is that with the work he does, I know a lasting relationship could never work with us, because I worry about him a lot as it is.
2006-08-23 14:43:43 · update #1
Thanks for everyone who has answered, and thanks in advance to everyone who will answer!
2006-08-23 14:44:10 · update #2
Just to clarify... the only reason it ended with the second guy is because the distance got hard with us not being able to see each other, plus we value our friendship a lot.
2006-08-23 14:54:03 · update #3
One last thing.... I'm sorry that this is a long question. If you check my past questions it's never this long. Sorry :)
2006-08-23 15:00:12 · update #4
I'd be by myself for awhile..while you say they are all great in their own personal ways...they also had a flaw..a reason you aren't with them anymore...I know it's always a comfort zone we look for when we are NOT in a relationship...I, on SEVERAL occations questioned my divorcing my first husband...BUT in a clear mind...I KNOW I hate him and couldn't be with him EVER again...but you always think the 'what if's"
Keep them all as friends and treasure that...but I'd wait to start dating....your Mr. Right is out there...he's going through his own personal hell and when you meet him..YOU'LL BOTH KNOW IT'S RIGHT!!!!
Best of luck..I'm a clairvoyant/medium and I see someone with short blondish brown hair ~ greenish eyes with in the next 5-6 months.. :) I'm getting a Tom or a Todd...
2006-08-23 14:46:50 · answer #1 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well with the first one being overseas and in the military, it'll be hard to maintain a relationship with him.
The second one... keep him as your best friend. Some people are better off as friends and nothing more.
The third guy, well... if you gotta worry about him all the time, then there's no point in trying. If you met him doing his job before you came around, don't expect him to stop just for you. And if he does... hey... you got a winner.
But my opinion, none of them are worth getting back with, no matter how you felt while with him or how much you miss them. Leave the past in the past, and don't try to live in it. It's best to move forward and find something new.
Things happen for a reason.
If that ended, it ended for a reason. If you don't know what that reason is, it's too late. Don't try searching for it. Just move on dear.
2006-08-23 14:48:53 · answer #2 · answered by ME! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go with the third guy with the first guy you all do not share the same opinions so you would argue alot, with the second guy you wouldn't want to ruin the friendship plus long distance is not always a good thing.
2006-08-23 14:48:59 · answer #3 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have two choices but i need an answer what type of work does the third guy do that has you worried all the time after vyou answer that question then you can choose between number 2 and 3 two sounds good to cause you were friends with both of them first before you got involved with them but only you can make that choice but differently not 1 good luck
2006-08-23 14:51:54 · answer #4 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All three guys seem to be pretty cool but I will never backtrack. Stay friends with these guys because whatever the reason you'll broke up might be the reason if it happens again. Been there done that and backtracking never works! Move on and by the way (sorry) if my answer wasn't what you wanted to here!!!!!!!!
2006-08-23 14:51:43 · answer #5 · answered by pepperspray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guy # 3. Seems like the only thing between you and happiness is worry. Live in the present moment, it is the only moment that is truly real. If something bad happens in the future it happens. We cannot control everything unpleasant that may happen. Love this guy for who he is now not what might happen to him in some future scenario.
2006-08-23 14:50:03 · answer #6 · answered by Love of Truth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well from hearing about the 1st 2... I think that the 2nd one would be the one to go with. I mean he might live far away but sometimes u make sacrifices that u don't wanna to be with the one u really care about. Heck i moved 2 be with my man. It was well worth it:)))
2006-08-23 14:45:07 · answer #7 · answered by Sami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, sounds like both of those guys are far away, but the second seems to be the better choice of the two. You can always move cant you?
2006-08-23 14:43:47 · answer #8 · answered by tomhale138 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-05 12:03:17 · answer #9 · answered by dopico 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 2rd. It seems like the other two would make you crazy always worrying about them. And if the 2nd guy makes you smile just thinking about it then he is probably the one for you. Maybe once you two start dating he can move closer to you or you can move closer to him?
2006-08-23 14:46:27 · answer #10 · answered by tabatha1333 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋