Im a freshman. I have a good friend thats a girl whos going out with another one of my friends. The girl went to a movie with some other people but not her bf and a guy made a move on her she tried to stop him but eventually she just couldnt. Now hes mad, shes sad, and i dont know what to do. Shes a friend that i always talk to and help with things, we're really close and i actually like her a lot. Shes just been staying at home and crying and that makes me feel bad too cause i feel like i need to help her. What can i say or do to make her feel better.
2006-08-23 14:34:28 · 9 answers · asked by kylefoster13 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no the guy wasnt me. she has told him what happened but he just kind of let it go and didnt talk to her about it.
2006-08-23 14:55:31 · update #1
tell her if you ever need a friend you can count on me
good luck
2006-08-23 14:41:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't much you can do but just be there.Unfortunately she's learning a life lesson, a hard one but still valuable. Has to do with control and choices we make-for no such thing as couldn't. Although you are a good friend and want to help there are those lessons in life that need to be learned ,perhaps its time she mature and learn there are always consequences and if we don't wish to suffer the hard ones then we need to develop to steel our resolve against temptation-this may be her opportunity to do that. What you can do is encourage her to stop crying for she is not the first and won't be the last and mistakes are made by everyone and life does go on after all. Seems to me this is really a thing between her and her boyfriend. He may eventually get over his hurt and take her back or he may not and if that happens then she will be very fortunate to have you as her friend.
She should be approaching him and do all she can to convince him at her regret for her moment of weakness and ask him to forgive . You can say that crying will not accomplish anything but the more time she indulges in this self pity and doesnsnt ask it of him-the more time he has to stew on it and be hurt/angry. Unfortunately in this instance very little you can say-perhaps hold her-for the feeling better will only come once she forgives herself.
Hope she appreciates you.
2006-08-23 14:48:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've gone thru this with my friends too... the best thing to do to help her is to let her know that you're there for her and you care... try and get her to talk about it and discreetly tell your friend that he doesn't understand what happened... eventually try and get them to talk- might i recommend a 3 way call.... hope this helps
2006-08-23 14:41:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
was it you who put the moves on her? if so, then you're doing the right thing if she was crying all the time before.
u have a kind heart if you know she needs your help. im sure she needs your help if she cries all the time...so mabe you just need to comfort her and tell her directly, "no worries..dont cry!" women are quite simple, if you're simple with them first.
2006-08-23 14:45:18 · answer #4 · answered by No1ELSEcomesCLOSE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well wow....thats kinda hard....what an asshole.....the bf...does he know about this......does he know anything...is he even tryin to help her?...if not.....maybe u should ya know go over there try to get her out.....tell her everything is fine......ill protect u........or something.......i know shes dating ur friend.....but ur just tryin to help her....so its not terrible to do that.......so kinda get her out....and so she will be able to get out......she needs to.......maybe u can ask her if she wants u to do anything or needs help with anything.......oh and has that guy gotten beat up yet some1 should beat the hell outta him!......no girl.....deserves that.....no girl......actually no one!........
i hope this helps
if not sorry! i tried!
good luck!
and im sorry that happened some guys are just assholes....they don't care....
im glad u care tho!
girls like it when there some protection around even if they dont' show it!
2006-08-23 14:41:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you need anymore help? If you do, try and make her laugh. I mean not about stuff that would affend her, but funny stuff that always makes her laugh. Or tell her it will never happen again and not to worry...
2006-08-23 14:41:19 · answer #6 · answered by Waylan K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her. Be the shoulder to cry on. She needs ur company right now.
2006-08-23 14:40:05 · answer #7 · answered by Mandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring her a flower and be understanding.
2006-08-23 14:40:41 · answer #8 · answered by softball_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just support her but don't get too wrapped up in it
2006-08-23 14:43:23 · answer #9 · answered by jojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋