2006-08-23 14:32:49 · 32 answers · asked by lunchbox 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most realize they are in an abusive relationship the are just in denial....they tell themselves things like "it'll get better" or "I asked for it". And alot of times even after the denial phases, they feel trapped like they have nothing else they can do but stay and take it. It is a terrible situation for any women to be in.
2006-08-23 14:35:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its a psychological thing. Usually some women have the preconceived idea that they deserve to be treated that way because they deserve it, even if they have done nothing to do so. Other times they want to be treated like this. It's really a complicated thing, and I guess that it will remain a mystery because I believe that we've only dug up the beginning. Of course sometimes women love the guy even if he just beats her up and abuses of her. Don't know why but it definetely is a psychological thing.
2006-08-23 16:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by ChAr-LeE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some grls have been in relationships for so long. that thethought of running away from one terrifys them. They think "what will happen when i have no one to fall back on"
What you need to do it tell that woman that she needs to learn to be independant. She can survive w/o a man/ Especially one that doesn't treat her right. Tell her that she needs to ask herself is this really* what she thought a relationship should feel like. The whole point of a relationship is to have someone you love, trust, care for that can return the love and everything you give them unconditionally. Any man or abusive partner doesn't truely undersand that. Or they just don't care.
And if they don't care. Give up on caring for them, they don't deserve it.
2006-08-23 14:40:43 · answer #3 · answered by geminiblonde123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think this has to do with love. We all want to believe in love, even when it hurts us. We don't think that it could happen to us, or it only happened that one time and he was so sorry about it, I am sure it won't happen again. And when it does we think well he just slipped this one time. . . We want to grasp at that eternal straw that hopefully it won't happen again, or we blame ourselves and by doing so, remove the blame from him.
Unfortunately it has always been the woman's chore to hold the family or relationship together and when it breaks up for whatever reason we tend to blame ourselves and feel guilty or even ashamed and start second guessing ourselves. Thinking if only I would have done this or that.
It is not that we can't recognize it, it is most of the time that we refuse to recognize it.
2006-08-23 14:38:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend who was in an abusive relationship. She also didn't realise it, even though everyone knew and told her she was.
I believe she was looking through rose coloured glasses. She wanted love, so she saw love, she didnt see the bad that she was dealing with. He didn't want to be alone and wanted to be with someone, and because she was in love, she didn't see what was going on.
Eventually she left the guy, and is now with the sweetest guy ever. He takes care of her so much and I couldn't be happier.
Maybe she is also scared, I know that my friend took ages to leave because she was scared of what it would do to the guy.
He got upset, but it wasn't as bad as she thought. AND on a good note, that same guy has changed so much, he is actually rather nice now.
Hope that helps
2006-08-23 14:38:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have low self esteem and are convinced that the man is best thing that will ever happen to them. These women are afraid to not be in a relationship, or to have someone to call their own. At ll cost. It's ever so true that love is blind. It totally consumes your ability to reason and sensibly make wise decisions. She's not going to break until she's tired of being sick and tired. Pressure burs' pipe (a Bahamian phrase), my bet is, she's about to blow. Trust and believe
2006-08-23 14:43:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they do realize it but are affraid to say anything because the other person might walk out on them and than they would be alone also some women believe that they caused the other person to behave like that
2006-08-23 14:37:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a woman keep getting hit in the head eventually she will duck. A person sometimes have to learn the hard way but I hope the abuser doesn't kill her. Its just like being a drug addict when you ready to stop then thats when you stop not by everybody telling you to stop. REAL TALK
2006-08-23 14:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by pepperspray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bc they have been broken down n the abuser makes u feel like there is no one who cares or wants u out there they use the cut u off from ur family n friends method and make u feel bad about ur self so that ud rather be abused than alone..they have to get out when they r ready its sad but true...i know i went thru it..even after i seen my mom go thru it i still let it happen to me ..and i said it was bc i loved him..i just dient think anyone wanted me but i was so wrong..the christina aguilera song oh mother is a good one to play for her itll make her cry n maybe wise up
2006-08-23 14:36:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because the guy sometimes makes the girl feel like they love them to keep them around to beet on them. And the girl being in that state of mind they belive the guy and think that he loves her so she stays with him. And when a friend tells her that she needs to get out she won't listen to them because she thinks the Guy LOVES her. I hope that one day the girl will know to get the hell out of that relationship.. They will soon relize that there family and friends will just be like what ever...
2006-08-23 14:53:37 · answer #10 · answered by Sami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋