having trouble with potty training....help!!?

Question

My daughter will be 3 next month & should be starting head start this yr...well I have been potty training her for about 5 months now, she was doing good for about 2 months & for the past 3 months she has gotten stubburn, wont listen & throws a fit when i want her to go potty on the toilet & she wont use the potty chair(s), i bribed her with popcicles the first time & it worked for 2 months, but all she wants anymore are pocicles, a sticker chart wont work cuz i dont feel like listening to her screaming fits cuz she can't have her own way, candy is a no-no. lately i just ask her if she has to go potty & she always says no or if she wants a popcicle i tell her she has to go potty in the toilet first & she says no & pouts, she says she poops, when she didn't & she knows the difference between poop & pee! she has undies butt she poops in them everytime! help i want her potty trained by her 3rd birthday which is in 1 month from today! shes a quick learner!!! theres more info.....

i work during the day from 8 am til about 3 pm 5-6 days a week, so how can i help my babysitter potty train my daughter plus her 2 yr old son?

just to clearify things, i dont pressure her to use the potty, i ask her about every other day if even, once in a while she will sit on the toilet, but doesn't go! and it's hard to tell when she has to go to the bathroom, cuz her pull-up stays dry for hours half the time, everytime i put her underwear on her she pee's or poops in them with in a hour...i try to be patient with her, but shes going through this not listening to mommy stage!

Answer 1

She knows you really want her trained and so she is refusing. It is something only she can control and she has found power controlling her bathroom needs. You learned the hard way about using rewards! They never work for very long.

Let it go for a few days. Get her a step stool for the adult toilet. Children like to use things that are real. Have her pick out some "big girl" underwear and put her in clothing that she can easily take on and off without help. When you see her doing the "potty dance" say "It looks like you need to use the bathroom." Give it no more attention then that. If she soils herself say "It looks like you need to change." She can remove the soiled clothing, rinse them out, put them in the laundry, clean any wet area, wipe, and put on clean clothing. Don't help her! She will soon learn it is much easier to use the bathroom. Let the babysitter know this is how you want her to act as well.

Help her to feel powerful in positive ways. Say things like "You did that by yourself! You can jump so high! Look how many colors you used on your picture!" These are intrinsic rather than extrinsic ("Good job," stickers, candy) rewards or motivators and work well! She will begin to feel more powerful and confident. Good luck!

Answer 2

I was having trouble with my son who said 'no' everytime he was asked. I read a book about this topic and my advice is to back off the whole thing for a few days. When you re-start, try an entirely different approach. Tell your daughter that it's time to sit on the potty and have her do so every hour; when you're at work, your sitter should continue the pattern. If she does something, then give her a reward (pretzels are a great alternative to candy). Do this for as long as it takes until she is not having any accidents in between potty times and then extend the length of time between sessions. It is a slow process but it will work and there will be far less battle of the wills between you. When she has an accident, be very matter-of-fact about the whole thing, not angry. It is also VERY helpful if she has a friend or relative that is around the same age who uses the potty and can demonstrate how grown up he/she is for your daughter. Lots of praise, no anger works best in this arena!

Answer 3

The reason your daughter has become difficult about this is that she can. And the more you want her to do it the more she is going to resist. I'm sorry but your just not going to get her potty trained in a month here. Thant's just the way it is.

With that said, lay off the pressure. Don't even ask her or talk to her (or anyone else within her hearing of it) about it or lack there of. Then in about a month or so start asking her if she wants to sit on the potty. Every time she does praise her. you could give her a sticker to put on a chart but really its not necessary. Then ever time you or your babysitter has to go ask her if she wants to go potty too. Again praise her for sitting g on it whether or not she actually does anything there. Then once she is going on the potty and peeing or pooping, take it to the next level. Every half hour ask her to sit on the potty. Its a process but pressuring her is not going to make it happen any faster. In fact its been slowing her progress. She's not even 3. If she's still not potty trained this time next year then maybe you have a problem.

Answer 4

This is what worked for my 2 year old daughter. I skipped the potty chair and had her use the toilet. I set aside one day, with plenty of pepsi, pretzels and M&M's on hand. It was just the two of us home with no distractions. That morning I put my daughter's farvorite undies on, but no pants. Then I let her drink and eat as much of the pepsi and pretzels as she wanted. When she had to go to the bathroom, each time she went in the toilet, she got a few M&Ms and lots of praise for going in the big girl potty instead of her pants. Each time she wet herself, she had to change her panties and clean up herself. This was done not as a punishment, there was no anger involved, but just as an "uh oh" didn't make it to the potty this time. By the end of that day, she had it down. She wet herself once or twice, but by the end of the day she always made it to the toilet. She did continue to wear pullups at night, though, until she was about 3.

Answer 5

why dont u just relax for a week and not make an issue out of it. Slowly after the issue is no longer such a big problem with her u can try again. I think u r stressing her out too much.

Is there a fixed time when she poops? like immdly after a meal or drink. If so u can make sure u take her to the big toilet and make her sit on the big potty. Some kids dont like the potty. My daughter never used it.

Answer 6

If she is excited about starting school, try mentioning that "all" the "other kids" are using the potty. She won't want to be left out. My daughter was doing the same stuff about her 3rd birthday. When she realized her friends who were potty trained could go to the new class, but she would be left behind at Mother's Day Out, she potty trained that week and we've never looked back. I hate to admit it, but social pressure works better than ANYTHING. I know all the experts will disagree, but try it. Worked for me.

Answer 7

Right now I am going through the same battle with my son whom just turned 3 yesterday. The only thing that I found that worked was to place his favorite toy in the bathroom. I let him play with it while he is on the toilet. It somewhat distracts them but before you know it they have to go potty and they go in the toilet. Then he is happy when he notices that he went to the potty.

Answer 8

Wow! That's a mouthful.

What we did was to first get them IN the bathroom. It was ok for them to "go" in the diaper, but they had to be in the bathroom to do it. We could tell when they had to go, they would try to find privacy or squat down. We would imediately send them to the bathroom and they had to do it there.

Ask them often if they have to go. Tell them they have to do it in the bathroom, not on the toilet, but at least in the bathroom.

It's a start.

Answer 9

i am trying the same thing pleased ket me know if something works for u '