she is really depressed and she always looks like she is ready to kill herself and me, and i am caught in the middle of everything and i have no friends and no life and i don't even go to school. i am homeschooled. what can i do to keep myself from going insane????
2006-08-23 14:29:31 · 13 answers · asked by lifeistough_period 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is very complicated, no one here will be able to answer correctly and no matter how much extra detail you will type up it won’t help. None of participants that are here will help you properly unless they are adequately trained will be able to help you out better. I would suggest calling tall free numbers. You could try researching neighborhood counseling centers. That will have a real person whom you will be able to communicate on daily basis and some one who will be able to give you real support, don’t be afraid just find such center, there are planty.
rember that those people will help you better, then any advice that you will receive here, as you will be able to talk to them on daily basis, it is a long run help that you will need. it is free and most trust worthy. dont be afraid just find and contact local or online organization.
2006-08-23 14:42:04 · answer #1 · answered by toolpro_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now I see where some of your anguish and heartache comes from. I went through something vaguely similar, except my father had psychiatric problems and was never properly intitutionalized. They were divorced, but she still walked around depressed and full of rage - mostly directed at me for some strange reason.
Maybe your mom would consider letting you attend a regular school - that would take some of the pressure off having to ensure she was keeping up with your education and taking care of your father. And since you are 17, I don't believe she can legally stop you either.
Suggest to your mom that she seek counselling - there are trained people at the hospital who can help both of you. Also suggest that your father will understand if your mom needs a break once in awhile. He wouldn't want to see her get sick as well.
I know things seem overwhelming right now, but this, like all things, will pass and life will go on. I also agree strongly with what tool_pro has to say. You can email me if you just need someone to talk to, anytime :o)
2006-08-23 16:29:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same exact situation when I was 16, then my dad ended up passing away. Your mom needs alot of support and love right now. Talk to her, she IS your mom and that IS her husband thats in the hospital. She just might want some distance, but see what she wants, even if it's just to cry on your shoulder or be left alone for a while. You'll feel better. Things WILL get better. Let me know if you ever need someone to talk to.
2006-08-23 14:37:32 · answer #3 · answered by BAnne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of life's biggest challenges is sometimes caring and looking after a sick relative.
The best thing to do is to be real supportive of your mom and help her out. Visit dad as much as possible. If he is coming home to recover just be as helpful as you can. If he is not going to recover ask about hospice. They are very helpful in this area.
What you do is find a hobby. Come on yahoo answers and answer questions it is very relaxing. I do it almost every night since I found it 3 weeks ago.
The biggest thing is to pray. What every your faith is pray for strength for you and your mom. And pray for recovery for your dad.
2006-08-23 14:43:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a really rough spot! I'm so sorry to hear about this.
First of all, be sure you have someone near to talk to. Perhaps you belong to house of worship and can call a clergy person?
Also, every hospital has a patient advocate. Locate the one at your father's hospital and talk to him or her. That person will help guide you and your family through this awful time.
Be sure you have something in your hands to keep yourself busy during this awful waiting period. For example, I crochet or do logic puzzles.
If the stress gets to be too much, call your local crisis line for advice. They'll know of local services for you and your family.
You don't have to handle all of this by yourself. Reach out for help.
2006-08-23 14:38:04 · answer #5 · answered by booktender 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is when you need your support system-- church, homeschool group, neighbors, sports teams, whatever it is you guys are involved in.
Talk to a grown up and tell them what you wrote here. Your mom needs some adult support and you need a break from the whole situation.
2006-08-23 14:36:30 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa the Pooh 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell you Mom she needs to go to the Doctor and get some help. Let her know how the whole thing is making you feel.
2006-08-23 14:32:58 · answer #7 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
pick up a hobby,
try talkin to some1
get out and have some fun and find time for yourself so you can get away with all the **** going on
2006-08-23 14:35:03 · answer #8 · answered by asd_5_98 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
pick up a sport or hobby...think about yourself and your life a little more while always trying to care for parents..somehow take things more lightly although its probly very hard
2006-08-23 14:32:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
email me and convince your mum eveythings going to be ok with your dad if you have your g1 drive her to the mall and take her mind off it with shopping then take her to lunch and a movie trust me bonding is helpful especially if you can relate to one another and pray alot ps my address is mickeymouseviolinqueen@yahoo.ca
2006-08-23 14:37:35 · answer #10 · answered by jts #1fan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋