my 28 month old is hitting me, screaming and throwing fits-usually when he doesn't get his way. what do i do?

Question

i put him in time out in his chair and he picks it up and throws it, continues to scream at the top of his lungs (scares my little 2 month old-then i have 2 screaming kids)my husband says to spank him, i just don't know what to do?

Answer 1

Well, I have a 2 year old. She would never think of hitting me cause she knows if she did she would get spanked. Im sorry for those who dont believe in spanking cause sometimes its what they need. Its not hitting like others say, its a pop on the butt to bring then back to reality. Not all kids need to be spanked, but ill tell ya, it sounds like yours just might be one that does. So, say for instance you pick him up and he starts hitting you, you grab his hands and spank him once and not too hard. Tell him its not ok to hit mommy. Then put him in his room. Its ok to put him in his room and even put up a gate if he gets out. He needs to know that what he did is not ok and he cant be around you if hes going to hurt you. If he continues to scream, its ok for a min or 2, but he needs to know its not ok behavior and you will hold or talk to him when he stops. Sometimes you have to spank him to snap him out of his fits. Especially if you dont spank very often, he will probably stop. You have to be consistant, very consistant, and dont let him walk over you. Sounds like hes trying to see how far he can push you. Just dont EVER give in, your problem will surely worsen. Try your best when your in public to not back down cause your worried what others will say. Hes your child not theres and your not abusing him, just disciplining him. Trust me, there is light at the end of the tunnel. I remember when my son was 2 years old. He was out playing and I told him it was time to come in. He was mad and I had to drag him inside. He threw the biggest tantrum and I spanked him and put him in his room. He went crazy hitting on the door and screaming at the top of his lungs. I waited a few mins to let him get it out, and then went in, spanked him again and put him on his bed. I told him that he had screamed enough and it wasnt ok. I then left the room again and eventually he calmed down enough for me to talk to him again. He outgrew it and I didnt have a lot of problems with him cause I wasnt afraid to be the parent and not let him work me. I hope you will find your answers and get some peace and quiet.

Answer 2

If he won't stay in his time-out chair AND you are sure that he is not acting out of jealousy/hurt over the new baby but just exercising his 'terrible two' self, then I would put him in a play pen or room that he can't get out of on his own (even if you have to hold the door knob). Leave him there for exactly two minutes and then have him apologize to you or repeat the time out. Make sure he understands in advance that only gentle touches are allowed in your home and that hitting will result in a time out. I give my 2 1/2 year old son a countdown (1 chance, 2nd chance, timeout) and most often, he will stop the negative behaviour after the 1.

Answer 3

One good spanking to start then inform the child that this will happen whens he bad. The next time he begins remind him of the spanking and that if he is not good he will get another. Then ask the child do you want a spanking, if not then be good and do not do repeat this type of behavior. I have a 7 and 14 year old and this has worked very well for me. I can say I have spanked my 14 year old less then 10 times, my 7 year old maybe 4 times and they both understand now.

Answer 4

Okay, I saw this on the show Supernanny. She said to make a time out corner, tell the child to sit there until the timer goes off (about 5 minutes) and then talk to him and tell him about his bad behavior and then tell him he needs to say he is sorry. If he throws anything or starts screaming, restart the timer. Don't spank him, it really doesn't help.

She did this with two kids on the show that were violent and unrulely (worse then your son sounds) and it worked.

Just keep your cool and tell him that he needs to calm down. If you blow your top he will too. SUPERNANNY! LOL!

Answer 5

Take all his toys from him, Don't let him watch TV, Stand him in the corner if he throws his chair. And if you don't want to spank him have his father do the spanking. But make him listen to you, you are the adult take control he is only 2yrs old.

Answer 6

Dr. Dobson was violently abused by his mom - he recounts being hit with a frying pan and a metal girdle. He today sides with the abuser and urges parents to abuse their kids, too.

Spanking lowers the IQ!!!!!! Spanking teaches your child to fear you. Spanking teaches your child to hide his behavior, but not change it. Spanking teaches your child that people who love him can hurt him. Spanking doesn't work!!!!!!! Spanking isn't necessary. Every kid I know who was spanked is anxious, rebellious, angry at their parents. Kids who are not hit (like mine) are gentle, kind, cooperative. Huge huge huge difference. Because they're treated with respect instead of 'might makes right' ignorant bullying.

Your son is already hurting so badly because of his new sibling. If you hit him and punish him and add more and more pain and separation to his life, he will never come to love his sibling and the relationship between him and you and your husband will be severely damaged. Your role is to guide him, teach him, help him, hold him.

People who want to hit two year olds are profoundly disturbed people. I don't know how to draw any other conclusion. Their pleasure at discussing abusing children is palpable. And to the one's motivated by their churches - christ said that anyone who causes a child distress should be thrown in the sea with a millstone around their neck. Sheperds use staffs to guide, not whack, their sheep.

Answer 7

Yes honey you need to whip his ***. All he need is a old fashioned spanken. For one thing he knows there is another baby in the house and he's not getting the attention that he's got before the baby came. he knows that nobody is focusing on him anymore,because the baby needs alot of your time. It's okay for the husband to discipline him also,but you need to be a little more firm on him and let him know that you're not gonna take his tantrums just as well. Both of you need to spend more time with him one on one and let him know that you are still there and let him help you with the baby so he can feel like it's ok to help mommy and let him know that he;s a big brother now and he's just as special.

Answer 8

In some kids spanking is best and in some it makes them think hitting is ok and it makes the situation worse. Please whatever you do do not let it continue, I cannot even begin to tell you how hard school will be on him if he acts this way. I know of several teachers who are like I cannot stand that kid or that kid and its because they are allowed to get away with things like that.

Answer 9

he should not be put in time out. You should hold him while he struggles, speak soothingly, telling him you want to help him control himself, telling him that you will not allow him to hurt you or hurt himself. hitting him is worse than useless - hitting causes so many problems and doesn't work!

in addition, it sounds like he is desparately sad abou this new sibling. what are you doing to make your 28 month old feel special, get extra time with you, not make him feel like everything is about the baby? Your poor baby is actually way too young to have had a sibling thrust into his life. It's a lot to cope with - his world is shattered.

He is not allowed to hurt you, but he is furious at you for doing this to him. And, he's terrified at being angry at you, for fear this will split you further apart. No wonder his behavior is utterly out of control. that's how his life feels. Work real hard on giving him some good attention without the baby.

Answer 10

call the super nanny......Have you ever watched that show, You just have to keep putting him back in the chair, even if its a 1000 times, you have to show him who is boss......It will wear you out, But if you don't take care of this now, You will be very sorry in the future.....Good Luck