your thought and opinions plz?

Question

my daughter will be 6 in Sept. When I told mom I wanted to throw a party, she said it was a bad idea. See, I've thrown a party the last 2 years, (althoug at one only 2 kids sowed up and it was a all around bad party-that was her 4th) anyway, mom said I shouldn't throw her one this year cause she will come to expect one every year, plus, she'll just remember hving parties, and not one special thing about her b-day. My daughter just started kindergarten last week and I though a b-day party would be a great way to get to know / meet her classmates better. I prob won't be throwing another party till sh'es at least8. I don't see the big deal. Mom said the decision is mine. Does anyone have a take on this? What do you think? is it spoiling(i don't count her 4th, it was such a disaster) I would appreciate evryones opinions.

mom is upet cause I threw one at 4, then last year at 5. ( the 5th was a sucess) She said kids shouldn't have one evry year, and what happens if I can't afford it one year and don't throw one. She afraid my daughter will be expecting one and get disappointed. As for the financial side, I'm a single mom and can't do big, extragrvagent parties-I was thinking a park or swimming.
T o the lady who's son is Sept 21st, tell him happy b-day, my daughters is the 22nd!

Answer 1

I have three young boys, (my oldest will be 6 on Sept. 20th by the way. ;)) Anyways, every single year I throw them EACH a party. I feel like their birthdays are the only day out of the year that is actually "their" day. I think it is truely important and we should celebrate it. I have gotten complaints from family members in the past about throwing parties every year, but I always just tell them if they don't want to come they have no obligations. You don't have to do anything big, but children really do remember the time you took to have the parties. I still remember the parties my mom threw for me when I was a kid. I am very appreciative for them! My hubby on the other hand, never in his life, had a birthday party and he feels like he missed out, hence the reason he is all for me throwing a party for the boys every year.
Best of luck to you! I hope you can come up with a happy medium.

Answer 2

i think your mom is totally WRONG on this one and using old thinking from too many years ago. I have a 8 and 10 year old. They both had a 1st party at age of 3. I do think having a party for a 1 or 2 year old is okay but, at that age they get cranky and would do better without a crowd so i did not do one that young. Yes! money is a factor I had my son at 18 I'm just now getting financially secure so in the early years YES we struggled "he never missed out on party thou". I don't care how poor you are you can bake a cake cost like 2.00$ to do that! you can buy some candy also under 5.00$ balloons 1.00! invite some friends have fun. You don't need a 50.00 cake and every decorating item. I DON'T care how poor you are you can get someone to buy a cake mix. We have had some parties much bigger then others depending on money a child REMEMBERS their birthday party. I think it would be totally sad for child to not have a party of some kind it's actually kinda CRUEL i think. I have also sent juices boxes and a small snack to my kids class on a birthday it helps them to feel popular and involved and loved. I cant believe your mom would think a child did not need a party so sad!

Answer 3

I enjoy throwing all three of my kids parties every year. My daughter is in the second grade and her birthday is Sept. 29th. We send in invitations around the third week of school and have her party the first weekend in October. She enjoys having all her new friends around. In kindergarten we invited the whole class, boys and girls, and we had ten kids show up. So last year for her 6th birthday, we only invited the girls and had her party at the bowling ally. We still had ten kids show up. Just do a r.s.v.p on the invites so you know who is showing up. As I was growing up, my mom always threw me and my siblings a party every year until we were 18. We looked forward to this time every year. I would hardly say that having a party every two years, or even every year, is spoiling her at all. Good luck and have fun.

Answer 4

I have three kids 6, 4 and almost 1. My kids will have a party every year that they want one. What is wrong with have a party every year. It does not always have to be a huge hoopla but no child should ever not have a party. Did you not have parties growing up? I still have parties, even if I have to throw them for myself. Have the party and have fun, and have another one next year.

Answer 5

i think birthdays are very big deals. so your kid, your decision.
hope you throw her a great party. not all parents can afford to throw their kids b-day bashes. and if all she remembers are you throwing her parties then wouldn't that be remembering something special ? just a thought. she is only going to be 6yr.
let her be a kid and at least have some friends come over for games and cake!!!! good luck ! and i hope you make the most of your daughter's special day no matter what route you take .

Answer 6

I think birthdays are a big deal when kids are young. Giver her a party and enjoy it. My son's birthday is September 21, and I can't even afford to throw him a party. So have a bash and let her have a ball. What more does she need to remember about her birthdays, other then she had fun?

Answer 7

It is her special day and it only comes once a year,she should get them every year until she is to old for them.Kids get excited about birthday parties and presents and they should,before you know it she will outgrow it and her birthday will be just another day.I don't think it spoils them,i have not known a kid that did'nt have a birthday party or do something special at the age of 6.Good Luck!!!!

Answer 8

I think you should have a party for her. I know that when i was a kid i enjoyed all my party's and she deserves the same. Also it doesn't have to be a big party, it can be with 5-6 friends if you want, or it can be the whole class. It is your choice, but if i were you i would have the party.

Answer 9

I plan to throw my daughter a party every year. It's a fun way to make her feel special. Don't let a disappointing party 2 years ago hold you back.

I don't really understand why your mom doesn't think you should throw a party.

Answer 10

what kind of kid doesn't deserve a birthday party every year?! for each of my birthdays(and my older sister's) until we were10 years old, we went over to my grandma's house. my aunt had made a really cool cake, and we opened presents and sat around and talked and ate and stuff. it made me feel very special. although, i wish my mom had been a more social person and had parties for me with my friends and kids from school, but it still made me feel good to be surrounded by people that care about me on my birthday. i say keep throwing parties for your daughter, it's not spoiling her. go ahead and invite the kids from her kindergarten class. i'm sure she will be very happy about it!