They never call me and I never call them and we never do anything together. We are not really close as we were before. They live within an hour of where I live though, but
If you were me, would you STILL give money for Christmas to your sister and brother if you had one?
2006-08-23 13:30:53 · 15 answers · asked by Tilly123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i dont think i would, especially if they dont return the favor or ever try to call or see you
2006-08-23 13:33:46 · answer #1 · answered by lizzyb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I could afford to give my brothers and sisters that much it would be nice but I have 11 brothers and sisters so I would go broke really fast. What is more important it to make time to do something with them. Get together for lunch, or dinner. Or make an effort to give them a thoughtful gift other than money (some people think money is the cop out gift when you don't take the time to know what the recipient wants)
2006-08-23 20:35:34 · answer #2 · answered by knittinmama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that depends on a few things. First, is the $150 in your budget? Is that amount something that's easy to give?
Also, you might want to try and be proactive with them. Remember that the phone rings both ways. Make a better effort to call them and make your relationship with them better. If you try and they still seem to not want to do anything with you, then I'd find it quite reasonable to take that money down to a smaller level - maybe a $25 - $40 gift card would work well in that case.
2006-08-23 20:38:45 · answer #3 · answered by *huge sigh* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should pick alternative gifts... Send them each a $25 gift card to a place they may like... & host a family dinner. I think we've lost sight of what the Holidays are about! It's about coming together, if only for just that one day!... It's NOT about the ammount of the check or who hasn't called who.
2006-08-23 20:41:27 · answer #4 · answered by UN_POQUITO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not! If they don't have the courtesy to call you and thank you for your gift than you're just an ATM for them. Especially if they're adults, or age 13 or older. If they're 12 or under then I guess it's okay- kids that age haven't really learned the etiquette of gift-giving and receiving.
2006-08-23 20:37:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you folks? What do they give you?
$75 is a lot, there is no commuications, sent a CARD next time.
Maybe let them know that you will be in town to take them out to lunch or something. If there is no interest, that's fine, Merry Xmas.
2006-08-23 22:01:26 · answer #6 · answered by timer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give a nice card and a gift certificate valued at $25.00 that they must use to buy something a the store [one that they can`t cash in and just get the money].....or your family can do a name drawling at turkey day ,for Xmas gifts and set a limit to spend.. i have a large family and we draw names, at Xmas there is 100-150 people at my house for the holidays every year.that way no ones out big bucks for gifts and every one gets at lest one gift to open...
2006-08-23 20:47:19 · answer #7 · answered by alleykhad607 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would still send the gift to them but reduce the cash to about $50.00 and a $25.00 phone card to call me.
2006-08-23 20:39:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do they at least thank you for it and can you afford it? If both answers are yes, then I would still do it. Christmas is about giving,but don't allow yourself to be taken advantage of.
2006-08-23 20:37:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your all adults, no I wouldn't . . if they are still underaged, I would probably give them something as a gift because they are still your siblings . . . however, if you can't afford to be that generous, do what you can and if they don't appreciate it, next year give them nothing
2006-08-23 20:33:36 · answer #10 · answered by wfgrg15001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can stop sending money but they won't stop being your brother and sister.
2006-08-23 22:00:21 · answer #11 · answered by Dean B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋